terribly sad shit.

liz and me.

some of us

were talking

about madeline’s long fingers.

someone suggested

that she should be a

piano player.

i said,

“just like her momma”

and then i realized…

i was in love with liz

for over

12 years

and i never

saw her play the piano.

and that made me sad.

then i got to thinking

about the other stuff

we never did.

we never skied together.

we never made it to egypt.

we never went on that african safari.

we never made it dubai.

(she really wanted to see those crazy human-made islands)

we never got one of those

cheesy family portraits

(you know what i’m talking about…the three of us all wearing the same all-denim outfits).

but really,

those are the only

regrets.

pretty fucking amazing.

13 Comments

  1. Shauna
    Posted 4/14/2008 at 12:42 pm | Permalink

    I’ve been kind of keeping up with your story and it really breaks my heart. And kind of scares me as i’m almost 8 months pregnant. But a good way to think of it is that now you can do the things you couldn’t do with Liz with Madeline. Teach her to play the piano like mommy did! Who knows! I’m sure it will help you both stay close to mommy!

  2. juanita
    Posted 4/17/2008 at 11:31 pm | Permalink

    Matt,

    I found your blog by chance and wanted to extend my congratulations and deepest sympathies to you, Madeline and all those who loved and knew Liz. I hope it brings some comfort to know that your love for Liz and Madeline are what shine through the sadness you’re experiencing. Your life and words are a testament to the undying bonds of marriage and family. Your daughter is gorgeous (and what a beautiful head of blonde hair!) and blessed to be surrounded by such love.

    Thank you for sharing your story with those of us in blogland. For what it’s worth…I will think of Liz and Madeline the next time I’m upset about something silly. I will remember what is really important in life.

    Thinking of and praying for you all,

    jg

  3. Jessica
    Posted 4/21/2008 at 3:57 pm | Permalink

    Just wanted you to know that I have been reading your story. I read you every day. And quite often you leave me speechless.

    But I wanted you to know I was here. And I am sorry. And happy for you. All at the same time. And I appreciate the courage it takes to share your experience as you are living it.

    For the many people who’s lives you have touched, thank you.

  4. matthew
    Posted 4/26/2008 at 7:49 pm | Permalink

    you have your daughter… you have no idea how lucky you are.

    from a childless father.

  5. Cindy
    Posted 4/26/2008 at 11:53 pm | Permalink

    What a very sad but beautiful story….your lovely daughter does indeed look quite like mommy. What a joy to you! It’s wonderful that you both have so many loving people in your lives. Maddy is so lucky to have such a loving and attentive father. I am amazed that you are doing so well after such a loss. I am one of those middle-aged women who love babies…I really enjoyed that comment! All the best to you and your Maddy….

  6. Kristin
    Posted 4/28/2008 at 1:57 pm | Permalink

    You are an incredibly inspiring person. Your daughter is lucky to have you!

  7. Caitlin
    Posted 5/12/2008 at 7:46 am | Permalink

    hey… denim family portraits are lame!!! don’t worry, you and madeline were meant to be soul mates, just in a father/daughter way… you will have a wonderful life together… i just know it!
    Caitlin
    Rayne, LA

  8. Maria
    Posted 5/15/2008 at 4:03 am | Permalink

    this is some fucked up shit. No better way to say it.

  9. Posted 6/3/2008 at 10:15 am | Permalink

    Hi Matt,

    “but really,

    those are the only

    regrets.

    pretty fucking amazing.”

    I just told my Mum to read your blog, because I think that you share some really great lessons, and we should be grateful if we donīt have to learn them in such a hard way.

  10. Posted 6/13/2008 at 7:27 am | Permalink

    I linked to your blog via Chrissy Coppa’s blog at Glamour. This picture of you and Liz at Machu Picchu was the first one I saw. This post was the first I read. My husband and I have a 19 month old son. We are planning a trip to Machu Picchu next summer. We tend to put a lot of things off because we don’t want to upset the “baby’s schedule” or we are too tired and bleary-eyed to think past today. I want to be able to say that we had no regrets when we have the opportunity to look back. I want to do the things we’ve always wanted to do. Thanks for inspiring us.

  11. Posted 6/18/2008 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    Im sorry for your loss. You story is truley heart breaking. Make sure to take your daughter to do all of those things you wife wanted to do!

  12. Posted 10/7/2008 at 10:25 pm | Permalink

    Matt! This has me crying. I am so very sorry for your loss. You are truly a WONDERFUL father and your daughter is so lucky to have you. Reading this makes me think about so many things in my life thanks for opening my eyes and helping me realize that I need to enjoy my loved ones and spend as much time as I can with them. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to email me.

  13. Michelle
    Posted 12/20/2008 at 3:42 pm | Permalink

    One of the true blessings for you and Madeline is that you are one of the lucky souls that will cherish each moment you have with her. Some of us need (sometimes not so gentle) reminders to love with our whole hearts and appreciate life. I’m so thankful you were able to have real, true love before she had to leave.

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