Comments on: monday – 5-week birthday.

By: Joanne Beckman

Joanne Beckman — Sat, 22 May 2010 03:15:24 +0000

Matt,
I am new to your site and your story. I too have come a widow and a parent. I was 9 weeks pregnant when my husband died suddenly February 13, 2009. Only in the last few months have I started to branch out to look for someone or something else to identify with. I hate for you and I that we have to know each other at all. I wish we were happily enjoying our families not knowing the other existed at all. As I purused your history of posts I happened on this one. It was like I was reading my very own experience at the social security office. I too did not know how to answer the “end of marriage” question as I looked down at my rings I continue to wear to this day. When I got the $255 check I didn’t know what to do with it. I didn’t want it. How could I cash it? Deposit it? I’m getting money for his life ending? I didn’t do anything with it for months until my sister finally deposited it into my daughter’s college fund we started in lieu of flowers for the funeral. The bizarre reality of my husband’s death certificate and daughter’s birth certificate in front of me on the social worker’s desk. Thank you for sharing, but I am so very sorry at the same time.

Right there with you……Joanne Beckman

By: Porscha Butler

Porscha Butler — Wed, 20 May 2009 17:36:56 +0000

Mat,

I know it’s been a while since you posted this but here I am, finding out about your family story for the first time and crying in front of my computer at work. You are an amazing man and I wish all the best for you and Madeline. Thanks for sharing this incredibly personal story.

By: Esh

Esh — Mon, 04 May 2009 10:16:09 +0000

I just have to read an older post to remind myself how far you guys have come!
Love you both!

By: Chibi Amy

Chibi Amy — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 14:55:40 +0000

I just wanted to let you know, I’ve been reading your blog, and my prayers are with you. I hope you have an amazing Christmas knowing there are so many people who care about you and your daughter! *hugs*

By: mama's losin' it

mama's losin' it — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 05:30:52 +0000

I’m catching up. Crying. And catching up.

By: Linda Hinz

Linda Hinz — Mon, 12 May 2008 02:38:15 +0000

Dear Matt,
I ran into Liz’s aunt, Penny Fick, this evening at Olive Garden. She told me that Liz was her niece. (Richard and Penny’s son, Jeff, is a good friend of my son, Dusty.) I had already read the article about you and the tragedy of losing your wife in the Minneapolis Star Tribune but didn’t know it was Penny’s niece. I am so sorry for your loss and just want you to know that you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
Linda Hinz

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 01 May 2008 19:09:48 +0000

PS, I was reminded today by reading about infants – that after month 4 the crying mellows out. That was the case with both Boogie & Amadeus. Hang in there…

Hugs,

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 01 May 2008 19:03:29 +0000

I’ve been in training again today. I took two tests so that I can assist at Amadeus’ daycare. You know what that means? I have the papers to prove that I am capable and more than happy to help you out with Madeline. Also, a resume that will tell you that I can handle anyone elses paperwork in this world but my own. Would love to help you. Also, I’m becoming good at fighting crime.

Hugs to you and Madeline, thinking of you both all the time!

Cousin H

By: Dad Stuff

Dad Stuff — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 19:35:11 +0000

Cry it out, Baby!
I just heard of your story and can’t imagine your feelings. Keep writing if it helps.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 14:20:40 +0000

So glad the site is back up so I can get back to mourning and marveling with you. Missed you guys.