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By: Sheena

Sheena — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 02:18:48 +0000

i’ve been reading from the beginning & will read straight through until present date! I found your blog this evening after someone on my blog list recommended it to someone who had a neighbor in your position. Know that you’re helping other people. Let this blog remain through the years. It’s important.

This Christmas & NYE I found myself crying so much over my dad’s death. He passed in September. A girls love for her dad is just that strong, I suppose. All I could think was “this fucking sucks!” and “it’s so unfair. he was all I had in the way of family.”

Mourning & how we all do it, it’s just so unique & some of us seem to mourn harder than others. I think you’re right. We all know that you’re living one of our worst fears. We all know what it’s like to hurt in that “fucked up way.”
}Sigh{
Your honesty is wonderful. Keep it up.

Your little girl is beautiful. She is the most bittersweet occurrence of your life. You are a wonderful dad & you & that damned robot are gonna be the best pals that she’ll have.

By: Michelle (in the az)

Michelle (in the az) — Sun, 21 Dec 2008 03:01:50 +0000

You are wise beyond your years, and I feel blessed to be able to share your grief with you. It is truly universal. The “in your bones” kind that really, truly does “fucking suck.” You are amazing. Please, please, never stop blogging. I want to watch you and little Madeline grow!

By: jenni

jenni — Thu, 15 May 2008 02:48:29 +0000

It fucking sucks. The reason I read is I know the flipside of your story. I’ve lived it. It fucking sucks. After almost 10 years, it fucking sucks. But something amazing happens. Somewhere, you begin to live again. Not like you did before. But you live. In my case, it got better. Life got better. The pain didn’t. It just evolved. The weight of it didn’t change. I became stronger. I think about my baby. I see him in my other children, in songs, other children his age (Or what age he would be. I still speak in the present too.), when I meet a child with Downs Syndrome, when I meet mom’s who have lossed a child, parents who’s child was preemie, the smell of bandaids, winter, New Years Eve (His 1st birthday would have been the millenium, and the list goes on.

Grief fucking sucks.

By: tom logelin

tom logelin — Fri, 09 May 2008 21:30:31 +0000

Greetings and my prayers to you during this difficult time. Being the local historian in the HOME CITYOF ALL THE USA LOGELIN’S, I have been asked numerous times as to what part of the tree you are from. If possible to let me know, I will spread the word to countless Logelin’s for their prayers as well. Tom Logelin St Bonifacius, Mn 55375 God Bless

By: Lisa

Lisa — Tue, 06 May 2008 00:50:19 +0000

This blog is so amazingly moving to me. You are an amazing man and an amazing father. I can only imagine the rough road you will travel. I am so glad you have Madeline to share your life with.

And yes, it does fucking suck.

Good luck.

By: Emilie

Emilie — Sat, 03 May 2008 03:27:55 +0000

Matt – I’m amazed at how other people are coming forth and sharing their stories of loss here in these comments. It is both sad and uplifting to see how you have affected so many others. And I wanted to say … thanks for taking the time to share a bit of your day with me yesterday. I continue to send you wishes for peace and strength.

By: Sue

Sue — Sat, 03 May 2008 02:21:13 +0000

I’m just a mom, who came here by another mom’s blog. Not sure what to say. Bless you.

By: Twyla Hobbs

Twyla Hobbs — Sat, 03 May 2008 01:04:23 +0000

86 Comments??? You have struck a nerve, Matt. I know I am drawn to your blog to check in and see how you and Madeline are doing each day and see the photos. God bless. You are a great dad.

Twyla (HFD)

By: garrity

garrity — Fri, 02 May 2008 23:26:57 +0000

Matt,

I too am a lurker, but only becasue I live too far away to be there with food for the fridge and willing, experienced arms for holding a cranky baby. (Although it sure looks as though your community is being very good to you, and I’m glad of that.)

But there’s no real reason to lurk, I suppose. So: hello! I’m a humanities professor and my husband is a clinical social worker and we have two girls and we like to cook and watch Battlestar Galactica and make very bad puns. It’s good to meet you, although I sincerely wish that the circumstances had been perfectly happy ones for you.

Your words and images are incredibly powerful, and I think it stunning that in while you are coping with your own loss, you can think so clearly about what your communications might mean for others. Madeline has a phenomenal dad.

With warm wishes,

garrity

By: Jess

Jess — Fri, 02 May 2008 21:12:01 +0000

Hi Matt,

Grief is a strong bond. I experienced a huge loss days before my son was born. I am drawn to your story and feel your pain to some level. I’m glad you’ve found this outlet. I hope you find some peace to get some sleep!