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By: Amy C.

Amy C. — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 02:38:01 +0000

The cow says Mooo
The sheep says Baaa
Three singing pigs say La La La!

We LOVE that book at our house! I can recite the whole damn thing.

By: kathleen e. in Nordeast Mpls

kathleen e. in Nordeast Mpls — Thu, 22 May 2008 03:05:56 +0000

Matt - so glad you got the package and enjoyed the notes. You said you have a lot to learn (maybe in the way of baby girl apparel - loved the swimsuit picture), but I think the dev. psych. was right - you have great maternal instincts and you’re doing marvelously with Madeline. That said, we’ll be happy to send along any hand written notes with advice if you need it.

Now on to something else that I’ve been wanting to say: when my dad was so sick and after he passed away, I had a Caringbridge Website, that I frequently updated (1x, 2x, 3x a day depending on how good things were going or weren’t going). There were mountains of people (complete strangers as well) who were interested in how we were all doing and they were so great with their love and advice and genuine caring. Originally I had started posting on the website so I could keep people updated without having to send 200 e-mails or return 30 phone calls, especially when there was bad news, and it was therapeutic for a long time and it was so good to be able to think of all the wonderful(ly at times painful) memories. But, then sometimes I had to a go a few days without posting, to let my own grieving creep in - without an audience - and that was okay - to take some days away from the constant attention. I’ll never presume to tell you how to do anything, but as a stranger friend, I wanted to say that it’s okay to not post everyday if it ever gets onerous.

Our hearts to you, Kathleen (Steve & Magdalene too)

By: jordan

jordan — Mon, 19 May 2008 19:18:13 +0000

the pic of the belly button book made me a little squishy. my kids loved that book. my son still makes me read it to him even though he is a 5 year old dude.
much love to you and maddie

By: Melissa

Melissa — Mon, 19 May 2008 02:16:03 +0000

I got directed here, and I have to say.. Ohhyahh dude. You are doing great. I am in awe of you. You are the nutz.

I am SO sorry for your loss, but seeing how you are coping has just made you my hero. You are doing everything Liz would have wanted you to. She is so totally guiding you.

By: BK

BK — Sun, 18 May 2008 18:33:25 +0000

good grief….of course you have great maternal instincts; you have great instincts period. No need to try and figure out which are maternal and which are paternal. You love your child…..

Of course, I noticed that you are quite the materno/guy ” cute outfit?” ….tee hee…..keep that one to yourself…;)

Day at a time friend…..

By: The Aitch

The Aitch — Sun, 18 May 2008 17:45:22 +0000

Sorry, I forgot to ask how do I send something to Madeline? Do I just send it to the bank? That doesn’t sound right…do you have PO? thanks so much!

By: Meg

Meg — Sun, 18 May 2008 14:36:16 +0000

We could have told you that…but sometimes it’s nice to hear it from a professional too!

By: Hawkfeather

Hawkfeather — Sun, 18 May 2008 07:28:33 +0000

if only every parent could have a pro parent analyzer come and give feedback- and if ONLY- man- if only- all those hypothetical pros found EVERY parent loving up their wee one’s like you do your Madeline.
what a world we would have hey?
Filled with gorgeous bloomin’ bundles of bliss.

Never let anyone tell you that your role as a parent came from tragedy-
I have read your words.. “what choice do I have?”

your parenting successfully because you are a wonderful parent- Because you love your daughter-
and because she was created with true love and intention.
You do not have to strive to be “as good” as her mother- or any mother.
You can just be a wonderful father because you simply are.

By: Regina

Regina — Sun, 18 May 2008 03:46:27 +0000

I almost ordered some robot baby legs for Madeline that I found on etsy the other day. I know I am only one of those strangers/friends, but I think you are such an inspiration. You ARE doing such a fantastic job with that beautiful baby. I have six of my own, 11 and under, but I think you might be able to teach me a thing or two. =) What a gift you are giving your daughter. Not only will she have all of these memories of Liz through your writings, but she will have a whole blog full of details journaling her first weeks, months, even years if you continue. That sure beats the hell out of a plain old baby book. Soldier on…know that we are all pulling for you and praying for you daily.

By: Rita in Texas

Rita in Texas — Sun, 18 May 2008 03:05:34 +0000

Matt…this thought keeps coming to me when I am reading your entries and so far I have just pushed it away. What thought you ask…I keep thinking that all of this whole story sounds so much like something that should be shared with the world on an even bigger level than this blog allows. Maybe in book form but it keeps reminding me of a movie that I would like to watch. This may sound nuts to you and I hope it is not offensive. Your personal tragedy is so huge and deep that I’m sure you couldn’t even come close to sharing it on that level…yet. If that ever became possible so many people would benefit from knowing about your courage and love. Like I said…maybe nuts. The crazy lady in Texas is still pulling for you and sweet Madeline.