i am a little behind.
in the mean time,
you may want to check out this link
(here’s a warning for you….if you don’t like bad words, don’t click the damn link. seriously. don’t. i used one bad word in particular more than once and i know some folks are offended by that (jill springs to mind but there are others).
an explanation:
i was approached by a woman who blogs for glamour magazine to write a little something about us.
i did it without hesitation.
i mean, come on.
liz
loved glamour magazine.
i think she’d be pretty fucking proud.
and i think i’m going to be doing something like this
for glamour every month.
anyway read it if you want to.
or don’t.
the regularly-schedule thursday post will arrive sometime soon.
(thank you, thank you, thank you to christine coppa for this opportunity).
171 Comments
Dang – the link is not working! I want to read some bad words!
Can’t wait to check out the link, but right now it says “error 404, not found”.
Matt,
The link didn’t work. I have been reading your blog for a short time now and am touched by your story often. I have an 11 month old son and I could not imagine doing life with out my husband! I think of you and madeline often and you are both in my prayers.
Charissa
i’m an idiot. sorry. the link should be fixed now…
Awesome article Matt.
I am going to say it again, Maddy = one lucky lady.
Also: the offensive language…just drives the point home…keep on keepin on.
p.s. this post made me laugh pretty damn hard.
Super Cool! So nice to see that Fuck isn’t on the “Glamour Don’ts” page. . .
Bravo, Matt- Liz would be tickled pink, I’m sure!
Hi Matt,
Came over here from Storked! and just wanted to thank you for sharing your story there. I look forward to reading more from you (already got sucked into your blog this morning while I should be working). I’m so sorry for your loss of Liz – she was so beautiful and clearly you were so in love.
Wishing you and Maddie all the best.
Jen
Hey Matt,
Congrats on the Glamour gig! I swear you must have brought the nice weather with you b/c today is gorgeous! I’m from Mtka (98 grad) and still live in the area…I keep wondering if I’m going to bump into you! We’re headed out to Bayside tonight to enjoy the weather! Hope you’re having a good day!
Em
Jesus H. Christ Himself, I am so fucking proud right now, I’m gonna bust!!! The gang in the mpls must be going apeshit!!!
You’re IN PRINT, Baby! And it ain’t some lame peer-reviewed soc-theory mumbo-jumbo neither! It’s GLAMOUR FUCKING MAGAZINE!!!
That is very cool! Not only are you the greatest Dad in the world (Happy Father’s Day to you!) you are also the most fashion forward with little Madeline!
A few things that are true:
1. There are (a lot of) times when it’s (definitely) okay to say “fuck”
2. This fucking rocks
3. And you are, indeed, father of the year.
Little Miss M might not be able to say those words just yet (the “father of the year” ones, I mean, not the f-word ones) so please let us Internet say them for her.
Father of the year. With extra credit in love and girly outfit categories.
Damn work internet filter. Won’t let me view the link. Have to wait til I get home. Grrrrr.
Have no doubts that LIZ is going to be proud of you! Congratulations!
I’m eager to read the blog and learn some BAD WORDS in English!
You never know….maybe someday I could need them!
Fucking cool! Hurrah! And it’s great that they want you to blog for them in the future. Well done.
PS~ however I did get a chance to go back and read your link back to “Jill’s” post!! I for one really do not think you need to apologize to anyone – NEVER/EVER for your posts! I like the fact that you share with us the good, the bad and the ugly! Your words are open, honest and raw. It allows readers to feel the passion and pain in your heart!! Madeline will read this when she gets older and it will allow her to feel your pain, understand the love you have for her mom and she will have such a bond with you because of it. This is an amazing gift you are giving your daughter!! (and selfishly I feel it is a gift to all of us too! I am learning what a wonderful family you have. I feel blessed and honored to read your love story and it gives me something to look forward to every day! It has gotten me back in touch with my emotions and I feel “Good” after reading your daily post. Even if I cry with you while reading, I always walk away feeling uplifted from having the honor of getting to know “Matt, Liz and Madeline”. As well as grandma broccoli, awesome aunt deb, robot, etc etc and all the wonderful stranger friends you have in your life!!)
I’d seen the note from the glamor gal and hoped you’d do it. You need to do a reg piece on parenting b/c you rock as a parent – and glad to see from the aricle – you know that too:-)
I LOVE that under the second picture of the two of you, it is captioned “Father of the Year”… couldn’t be more TRUE! Happy Father’s Day Matt
To all you Glamour readers who are here for the first time:
BACK OFF, BITCHES. WE SAW HIM FIRST.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!
Ahhhh, I slay myself.
No, srsly.
You are an amazing father. It is amazing to watch (via pictures and films) sweet Maddie grow.
How cool is that??? You have a huge cheerleading squad and I bet it will only grow as time goes on (you’ll need it through those toddler years…ha ha!)
Happy early Father’s Day to you Matt!! You’re doing an awesome job with Madeline!!
Hope you’re enjoying time with family.
Great article!! Have a great father’s day…you FUCKING deserve it!!
Liz would definitely be proud–not just of the article, but of what an amazing father you are. You are doing an amazing job.
So glad to hear Madeline was an angel on the flight–not that I’m surprised.
CONGRATULATIONS!! What great news! I’ll look forward to seeing you in Glamour!
Came in from Glamour – I’m safe Kate – I’m married.
Have 2 little girls 6 months and 2 1/2 – And I find you amazing!
I lost my mother 6 months after having my first. Today would have been her 56th birthday. I was feeling a little sorry for myself and as I read Chrissy’s blog today I felt like an ASS. It’s the blessings in life that count. Fuck the rest. Enjoy life’s little joys. I hate what happened to you. I love that you are surviving.
I wish you the best Fathers Day. You rock and can’t wait to see you at Glamour.
You’re doing so awesome. Love the Glamour piece and congrats on a very successful first flight.
It will not load the page for me. I think it’s great though. Hope I can see it soon.
Hi Matt, I’m the one who forwarded your blog to Christine at Glamour. I’ve read her blog since Day 1 and started reading yours a couple of weeks ago. I was very touched by your story and everytime I read your blog I cry. Pictures of Madeline put a smile on my face and my 13 month old sons. He loves looking at babies! Now, I’m going to go read your blog posting! Sarah in Dallas.
Congrats on the GLAMOUR gig! They are smart to see your talent and add you as a regular blogger! Your words penetrate and that is why you have so many strangers, err friends, reading. We all feel like we know you and Madeline and are all searching for ways to touch your life as you have touched ours!
You are indeed a WONDERFUL father and abundantly deserving of the title for “FATHER OF THE YEAR”!
Keep doing what you’re doing because you are amazing!
totally AWESOME!
glad ya made to the MN.
That was a great read. I hope that can become a regular feature. You definitely have a story to tell.
I have no problem with your language. As a fellow new parent, I’m just getting used to watching my language too. Good thing they don’t know what we’re saying yet. Right? I guess. And for the record, I think you have the best excuse in the world to say ‘fuck’. Often.
I used the word vagina today on the website that I write for my daughter. Is that bad?
Matt-This is fan-fucking-tastic!!! You are becoming famous, for sure. I know its still a really shitty deal, but someday Madeline will be able to look at this and know just how much the two of you are loved, and how much it meant to us total strangers. And she will also know how much her mommy was loved by all. As far as people being offended by the language, well..fuck ‘em, I say. Its just a word, people need to get over it. I am soooooo glad that Glamour didnt edit that out. Its your story and “fuck” is part of it. Again, soooo awesome!
Matt, congratulations on the glamour piece. Excellent work, I’m sure Liz is beaming with pride. Not only at the glamour thing, but mostly at the wonderful father you are. Hugs for you and Madeline.
You have earned the right to say the F word and should not have to appologize, sometimes only one word is strong enough to express that kind of pain. You are doing a great job and I love reading your blog.
Happy Father’s Day, Matt!! You should be extremely proud of yourself. All my love to you, Madeline, and Liz — who is watching and smiling right now.
I’m heading over to read it right now! Writing can be cathartic- hopefully you are finding some little tidbit of peace through your words.
Matt! I’m so glad that Glamour has given you the opportunity to reach so many more people. FANTASTIC article. Happy Father’s Day!
Congrats on the Glamour gig!! It’s FUCKING awesome. I think Liz would be proud!!
Happy (early) Father’s Day to you, and some hugs for little Madeline!!!
Dear Jill,
If you do not like what someone writes on THEIR personal blog, you do not have to read it. Do you go knock on your neighbors’ doors and tell them what to do? I suspect not. Leave Matt alone, unless this exact same thing has happened to you then I really doubt you know how he feels or should be giving advice on a appropriate reaction.
Thank you,
Jenn in the NC (I like that BTW, and am going to start calling my friends the Female and Male so-and-so as I also find that hilarious).
CONGRATULATIONS on having the balls to write what you are feeling WHEN you are feeling it!
I don’t drop the F-Bomb often, but for fuck sake “JILL” he just lost his wife! The dude is not measured as a father by how many time he fucking says the word fuck! LOL!
WAY to go Daddy! You are doing a AWESOME job! *grins*
ETA- sorry for the amount of times I swore here, I had a strong need, as a mother myself, to protect you! =)
Matt, love the glam post and agree that it’s your post, your life, and your language (I am also a potty mouth, so no offense ever taken).
And that woman who suggested you give Madeline up for adoption. I have been a mom for 20 years, and you are showing me up in the parenting skills big time.
Good luck this weekend.
kim from the davis
Fuck that rocks! And so you do.
Happy fucking Father’s Day.
p.s.
Kate In Northridge fucking rocks too
(you’re to funny)
Hey Matt!!
It’s your blog so you can swear all you want!!!! I am from a fairly large Irish Catholic family so swearing is a pretty regular thing!! Congrarts on your first flight with Madeline!!!! Have a wonderful visit!!!!
Matt, you are AWESOME and Madeline is lucky to have you as her father!!! You two will do just fine and don’t let anyone tell you different. I pray for you and Madeline and am sorry this is now your life….Liz would be so proud of you and how well you are handling things….I know it doesn’t seem that way, but you are doing an amazing job!!!!
I’m not even sure how I came across your blog/story. I haven’t got the right words to say other than I’m sorry for the loss of Liz. She was so beautiful and you were in love.. it’s evident in your writing and the photos. Madeline is a beautiful little girl who is very lucky to have been born to such beautiful parents. I hope your first Father’s Day is a blessed one. Keep on keepin on… you are an awesome writer. Oh…and the glamour article ROCKED!
Hey Matt – great blog at Glamour. I’ve been reading Chrissy’s blog since before Jack was born, and it was a pleasant surprise to see you over there this morning – I’ve been reading your blog for a while now, too. Small world, huh?
Sending you and Madeline lots of love from the TX!
Matt, I’ve been following your blog all along, and have come to love seeing Madeline’s face and hearing her updates.
Last night, my daughter (age 5) read over my shoulder, and asked if Liz was my sister. (I’m blonde as well… she’s five. She doesn’t need much else in terms of reference.) Now, she is in love with Madeline, and her Mommy-angel as she called her. The fact that Liz worked with Mickey Mouse elevates her to rock star status in my daughter’s eyes.
Anyways, I fuckin’ love Glamour, but what I love more is that you are sharing your story so eloquently, and sharing both Liz and Madeline with the rest of the world. Thank you.
I loved the article. This fathers day we will be thinking of you and Madeline. Make sure you kick back, relax, have a nice cold beer. Enjoy your day, you deserve it!
Madeline is getting sooo big. I love all the awake pictures. She has beautiful eyes. Hope things are getting better
Effing great article! Hope you’re enjoying the MN sunshine – it must’ve followed you from Cali.
Loved the article. Brought tears to my eyes all over again. I won’t be logged on for the rest of the weekend so have a GREAT first fathers day, you definately deserve it.
lots of hugs, thoughts, and robot wishes from Phoenix
matt – thank you for sharing your life and story. I found your blog a week or so ago & have read the entire thing. Now I read everyday.
If you ask me, Jill (whomever she is) can f off. HA!
My thoughts are with you this Fathers day and everyday. From what I have come to know about Liz, she sure is proud of you.
All my best from the md
Your new friend,
keri
MINNESOTA GET TOGETHER WITH MATT AND MADELINE
A get together has been planned for Sunday, June 15 (Fathers Day – very appropriate) with Matt and Maddy.
If you would like more information on this awesome day, please email me at:
Andrea_Viera@hotmail.com
I will send the info out to you!
Warmly,
Andrea
That’s awesome, Matt! It must feel cathartic to pour yourself out into a space that Liz loved…a connection to her in some ways.
As for the swearing, my blog has been peppered with fucking expletives since the death of my husband…Before that, nothing on there was worthy of the ‘f’ word. I agree, if they don’t like it, they don’t have to look. It’s real. It’s not for them; it’s for you and Madeline.
Matt – I think your article was f*cking fantastic. Happy early Father’s day, I will be thinking of you and Maddy as usual. XOXO
Damn you! Just when I thought I had finally gotten over crying during your posts, I had to go and read your Glamour publication – congratulations, by the way.
Oh, and I guarantee that the first time Madeline says “fuck” you’ll melt with the innocent cuteness of it. For my oldest daughter, it was this past fall (as a 2-year-old) when my husband was getting annoyed with my mother-in-law. Our little vocabulary hound turned to me and said, in the middle of a very nice hotel restaurant, “Mommy, daddy doesn’t want a fucking drink.” Still waiting for her younger sister’s first swear word, but she’s not much older than Madeline (a 31-weeker, born in February) so it’ll probably be a while yet.
Fuck Jill. And others like her. Yes, you’re a father now. Yes, kids are impressionable. But they can also learn manners. My parents never made a big deal about swearing around the house, but taught us that there are some situations when the 4-letter words are inappropriate and should not be used. And we probably swore less than our peers who were forbidden to use that kind of language. They used it just for the sheer thrill of it. My youngest brother, when getting the you-can’t-say-those-words-in-school lecture shortly before starting kindergarten, asked, “so, I can’t say fucking asshole anymore?” We didn’t even know that he knew that one. He must’ve been using it in his head but never felt the need to shock someone with the language since he thought he was allowed to use it if it was necessary.
You’re doing a great job. And you have a lot of people cheering you on from all corners of the world.
Matt,
Your writing is your feelings! continue to write your own true feelings in your words! no one has any right to interfer in someones feelings!
Congratulations on Glamour!
Auntie E
Matt~ you FUCKING rule!
Thank you for sharing your story and beautiful baby girl with so many of us.
Your article is fabulous! There is the saying that any man can be a father, but it takes a very special man to be a Dad. I think you are for sure Dad of the year! I am sure Liz is fucking proud! I also think that you alone will make the word “fuck” the most popular word of the year. LOL
Have a great weekend!! Hugs from CO
Loved the Glamour blog. Furthermore, I suspect Madeline will grow up to be one of the most loved and well-adjusted children on the planet. I got a sub offer from Glamour yesterday, and think I’ll subscribe because I hope you make it into the printed magazine at some point.
I just wanted to say, that my mother passed when I was two after a long battle with cancer, so while my father didn’t have quite the low blow that you have had, my father raised me ( I can’t remember my mom) pretty damn well (if I may say so) despite alot of people saying other wise (my mom’s mom tried to sue for custody, but she’s a bitch). Anyway, just wanted to cheer you on as a girl who was raised by one of the best men in the world. Years from now when Madeline’s dating and thinking about getting married you can bet that alot of the jerks will be weeded out because they can’t live up to her daddy (which is why I have a kick ass husband).
Happy Father’s Day.
Matt and Madeline,
I am blown away everytime I see what you are doing together!!! Happy Father’s Day Matt, you never cease to amaze me. Enjoy your baby girl and enjoy what life you and Liz brought into this world. It continues to pull everyone else in.
Much Love,
Sara
PS. If you just need to laugh your ass off in the middle of the night, I suggest going here:
http://www.failblog.org
Hi Matt~
You never fail to amaze me with all the awesome things you do! Maddy is so lucky to have you as her Daddy! I loved the blog on Glamor and love your writing. You are Father of the year! Happy Father’s Day!
Katie, MN
hey glamour dad, I LIKE it! LOL… it’s good not to take yourself too seriously. I think Madeline will appreciate your sense of humor someday. She sure is a cute baby.
so so AWESOME. congrats!
Congratulations Matt! That is so cool that you will probably have a regular spot writing for Glamour. And I agree, you are definitely Father of the Year! Keep up the good work with Maddy.
I love your writing and congrats on the Glamour article! Thank you again for sharing your story with all of us. You are an awesome dad, have a great Father’s Day!
Just got here from Glamour. You have an amazing story, thank you for sharing it. Happy Father’s Day! Can’t wait to read more…
Matt, this is Legend – wait for it – dary!! Love it. Yes, Liz is smiling down at you from above! Would be so proud of you. Happy early Fathers day. Please don’t go home. This is the nicest streak of weather we’ve had in a while. Clearly there is a connection between that & you!
I still can’t believe that Jill bizach made that comment about swearing. What – was someone holding her down, forcing her to read this? Obviously you’ve got an army of readers who’d love to lay down the smack w/ her…..
Anywho – have a fabulous weekend!!!
Amazing!!!
Matt, you have pretty much left me speechless
I cannot even imagine how stoked Liz is right now.
You guys were in GLAMOUR! Ah!
Matt, that is so awesome! Please post links to your future Glamour blogs because this Pittsburgh girl isn’t a Glamour girl.
I’ll be away this weekend, but I wanted to wish you a Happy First Father’s Day. Maddy loves you, Liz loves you, and all of us love you. All the best!
xoxoxo
Matt,
You are very deserving of the title “Father of the Year”! I loved the Glam blog and I hope they pick it up. I have been following your blog since day one and look forward to catching up on the lives of Matt and Madeline on a daily basis.
Thank you for sharing your story and life with all of us.
We are unable to make it to the MN get together, but will send sweet little Madeline a gift before you leave the MN. Enjoy your time here with Liz’s family and friends!
Happy Fathers Day!!
So many Melissa’s I had to switch it up. Wow, you and the kiddo are celebreties! Congratulations.
Matt – You are FUCKING amazing! Way to go! Have a wonderful Father’s Day with Madeline.
I was reading a forum where mothers vent and confess things and one mother said she cries every time she reads your blog. So, naturally, I googled you and have been reading your blog from the beginning to now for the last few days(with the tissues close at hand). I don’t think Madeline could ask for a more attentive and loving father. Happy Father’s Day to you. My 2.5 year old daughter is in love with your daughter. She knows her name and always wants to see her pictures. Much love to you and your family. It is heartwarming to see how much your family and friends have supported you in this difficult time. It is true: Any guy can be a father but it takes a man to be a dad! Thinking of you and Madeline every day.
Great article Matt, and FUCK Jill and FUCK the evil lady in the hospital who suggested you give Madeline up for adoption. You are IMO Father of the Year, fo’ shizzle! Have a wonderul Daddy Day on Sunday!
Your story continues to touch people far and wide. Even though I wish you had no reason to be in Glamour, you are an inspiration. Enjoy your time in MN – it’s a completely gorgeous day today! Happy first Father’s Day to you!
A friend sent me your link a few weeks ago and I instantly added it to my google reader. I have cried many times after reading your blog and the new entries but I look forward to each new post because they also make me smile. You are an amazing man (fucking amazing really!) and remind me a lot of my husband. I can’t even begin to imagine what you have been through but your strength and courage and love for Liz and Madeline come through in each and every post and I love that. They are both VERY lucky to have/had you in their lives and vice versa. Liz sounds like she was a little spitfire full of life and energy. How amazing it must have been to know her.
Thank you for sharing your story and your life with us and for being so real. And congrats on the article!
PS
My husband loves bright colors and I don’t. The blue and orange dress that you bought for Madeline totally reminded me of something he would buy so I showed it to him and he loved it. His response, “Those colors go well together, it’s a kick ass little outfit!” We don’t have any children yet but I always wonder what kinds of clothes they will end up with having such opposite parents. This probably doesn’t make any sens but I thought you might want to know that there is another guy out there with similar taste
(from a loyal reader in SF aka NorCal)
Oh Matt!
Here’s to hoping that your care package arrived at/in the garden of awesome safely yesterday! I have a few xtra things which I am hoping to give you in person at this mn get together…however I can’t seem to get my eyes on the info. Can you (or anyone with the info) help??
Thanks!
nbl~
The link worked great for me!
What a wonderful honor to be asked by Glamour magazine to blog. I didn’t know Liz, but I am sure she would be so proud!
Do you have a stat of how many people visit your site daily? I’d love to see that information, because it must be a TON of people. I myself have a daily routine. Get to work, check your website, then read the daily news stories.
You are doing such a wonderful job, and your daughter is beautiful and SO lucky to have you as her Dad.
Congrats on the Glamour gig! You deserve it! I truly believe that you are raising Madeline with the help of the whole “village”. Some of us are just virtual strangers (friends) and some are friends that you and/or Liz had before your tragedy. Madeline is going to grow up to be one hell of a strong woman and she’s a lucky, lucky girl to have you. Weaker men may have considered that old lady’s suggestion and given their child up for adoption. You are a strong, strong man in all of the choices that you’ve made since you’ve been put in this terrible situation. Don’t discount yourself. You may think you’re just doing what anyone else would do or what you have to do, but you’re not. You’ve consciously or unconsciously made some remarkable decisions. Give yourself credit for that.
And, Happy Father’s Day! (I sent a card, but it’s a little late.)
Congratulations on Glamour! I don’t know Liz, but am sure she would be thrilled.
Happy Father’s Day weekend and enjoy the beautiful MN weather now that it appears to finally be here.
You Fucking Rock!!!
Hi Matt,
I just came from reading the Glamour, and drying my eyes. I think the blog was wonderfully written. I can’t wait for more.
Happy Fathers Day Matt!
Matt, I have been reading Chrissy’s blogs for months, and I love that the two of you have struck up a friendship of sorts.
I was thinking of you this weekend as I planned to celebrate Father’s Day with my own father, and I thought of Madeline and how amazingly lucky she is to have you. I hope you have a great holiday weekend. You deserve it.
So. my first instrinct was NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
I don’t want Matt to be mainstream and popular. I want him to be my secret that I share with other people. Like, I am in “the know” somehow.
Then I realize this is your life and you have an AMAZING opportunity with this. We all know how this newfangled Internet can help people may some scrilla $$$ while doing what they love to do.
I am so happy for you. The lottery ticket is looking out for you.
Sending all my positive energy your way.
Totally fucking awesome! And if anyone deserves to drop the f-bomb, you do!
Great article, can’t wait to see more of it!! Hoping you have a wonderful weekend!!
Glamour magazine, really? Movin’ on up, my friend.
Madeline already has an army of intelligent, successful, strong and fucking cool women behind her; women just like her mother, I think. The Glamour gig is only going to increase the amount of support for the both of you.
Awesome, awesome, fucking awesome.
Liz, where ever she is, is stoked.
xxxxxx to you and the travel-sized blonde one.
I think you’re doing a fantastic job through all this… And I think some of those stories need the truth that a few expletives add to them.
I came here through the link on Glamour that was posted in a forum. You are some kick a** dad. Your wife would be proud. Your daughter is lucky to have you. Have a great father’s day. You deserve it.
that is so awesome! you and madeline are big time now! i didn’t know liz, but i am almost absolutely positive that she would be/is absolutely thrilled to see her daughter in glamour! congrats! and kudos to you for continuing to share your story with a growing audience of readers–you are touching so many lives.
That Glamour thing is awesome!
I hope that you have a wonderful first Father’s Day, Matt. You continue to inspire us all with your strength!
And as a side note, my husband is a writer. He completed a book right before we met (still unpublished….lol). He ran a word search or something on the manuscript prior to getting it ready to submit for consideration from a few agents and realized that the word “fuck” appeared some really embarrassing number of times….like in the *hundreds*.
Reading the Glamour piece reminded me of that for some reason…lol!
Anyway, hope you guys are having a wonderful trip!
I have been following you and Madeline’s story for weeks now without posting. Everywhere I go I look for robots. I tell many about your story as though we are friends!
Glamour rocks! Now we have to share you with everyone!
Love to you both and to awesome Auntie Deb (whom I’m sure would want to be my best friend if we were to meet!:)
Jan
Awesome awesome!! I love it.
Matt…..that was awesome! You fucking rock. I think you are doing a kick ass job with the hand you were dealt. Madeline is lucky to have you…….very lucky!
Holy canolie- First time I’ve cried since I found this sight. You are wonderful to share your grief, and I am hoping that by reaching out to all us in cyber world is helping you heal. I know- I’m funny, because the word heal is out of any vocabulary that should be associated with this type of tragedy. I am glad we can help you cope- there that’s better. What you are doing is amazing, and I have the utmost respect for you. Hang in there buddy! Oh, and how about the winds today in the MN- you’d think you were in Chicago or off the coast of some island. Crazy!
Great article.
wow..glamour magazine..congrats. that is absolutely nuts. it was a great piece to read, as are all your writings. glad you guys got to mn safely. hope you’re enjoying your visit, the weather is not all that bad now. congrats again. have a stellar day!
I was lucky to know Liz at Scripps and she would have loved this! You are an amazing dad..but obviously Liz knew you would be!
way to go matt! fuck em all
you rock. keep it up
Matt, that is an awesome opportunity for you guys and I’m so glad you took it. I’m sure Liz is smiling down on you and is proud as ever at what you are doing and how wonderfully you are raising Madeline. I hope the days continue to get easier for you and that you’re enjoying your stay in MN! =0)
glad I found your blog
Hope you’re holding up okay. I know how our surroundings can really effect us…
Madeline is so beautiful and very lucky to have such a wonderful, loving father. Your strength is truly an inspiration, especially to me with some of the very hard times I’ve had to go through with my son.
I checked out the link — LOVE IT! I’m excited for your possible monthly posts.
Awesomeness!!
Looking forward to the usual Thursday post. Hope you’re having a good time in the MN.
Have an amazing first Father’s Day.
Love to you and Maddie from the TX.
That is wonderful, thanks for sharing ,
Happy Father’s Day to you this weekend.
You seriously rock.
Chris
I will have to check from home…work frowns upon the use of such langauge…written anyway…verbalized apparently its OK. Got to have some priorities I guess.
Great article! That’s right, f*ck what other people say…they don’t know.
I just read the Galmour article. I can’t believe someone suggested you place Madeline up for adoption! What a horrible thing to say! Please understand that I am not anti-adoption. My own darling boy is adopted. I’m just anti-dumbass.
You are fucking awesome Matt. I am glad that so many people around the world recognize that. Forget the haters, they do not deserve a moment of your precious time.
I hope that you are getting some sleep. I read your posts about how you are sleeping for like 45 minutes, and I worry. Keep yourself healthy for little Madeline.
I am SO happy you realize what a fantastic job you’re doing with Madeline. I just KNEW IT, from the moment I met you that horrible fucking day. Smart, gorgeous women like Liz don’t marry just anyone. You so rock and now even more people will know. Congrats and have and awesome 1st Father’s Day – you deserve it and more!
That article was amazing!! Keep showing the World how fucking awesome you are!
You’re in Glamour!!! Fucking Sweet!
Awesome article–thanks for sharing! =) (Although it’s so strange to see you writing “normal” paragraphs in something; I’ve become used to–and rather fond of–your writing style here. =))
Good for you for sharing your story and letting Liz live in one of her favorite types of magazines. I think it’s fantastic how you’re sharing the TRUE, honest side of widow(er)hood at 30 with thousands of people who’d never know what it’s like otherwise…because you’re right–your grief is different from what people might expect, but it’s absolutely normal and typical (and still totally extraordinary).
Hang in there. You’re doing a great job. Hope you start getting a bit more sleep….
Matt, That is Fucking awesome dude! And the language wasn’t that horrible. Liz would be so stoked! She is looking down right now saying “I made GLAMOR FUCKING MAGAZINE! SWEET!” Have fun on vacation… hope you are getting some sleep. Oh and I just have to tell you that September 2nd is my birthday and before I started reading your blog I had the name Madeline Elizabeth picked out if we have another girl… that will definately be the name now… in honor of you and your family! You and Maddy are a true inspiration to me.
Hmm, my comment didnt show. I forgot what I said, but something along the lines of you and Maddie being celebrities! I love that they did the father of the year thing for you too!
I just wanted to point out that this url is available:
http://www.mattlogelinfuckingrocks.com
If I knew how to “buy” these things I would buy that domain! Then I would cyber-squat there until I could sell it for a kasquillion dollars, like to Viacom or somethin’.
Awesome fucking article Matt!
@Kate in the Northridge, you fucking crack me up. Thanks for covering our backs. LOL
Great Article Matt. You are an amazing father and thank you again for letting the world know about your wonderful and beautiful liz!
~~~~~~and for Miss Kate in Northridge~~~~~~~You are so full of energy and life…..I love it! You are too funny! How many of those Walgreen’s energy drinks have you had today?
That is awesome. Wishing you more awesomeness this weekend. Happy 1st Father’s Day!!
Matt-
Decided to bite the bullet and remark on what an incredible man you are. I can only imagine how much courage and strength it has taken you the last couple months. I am a long time lurker first time poster since I read the article in the Star Trib. For some reason when I was having lunch at Nye’s yesterday I ran across pirogues and it made me think of you & Liz, which oddly enough compelled me to post.
You are amazing, Liz was beautiful and Madeline carry’s on the legacy of her beauty. I look forward to reading more about the life of Matt & Madeline. You are an inspiration to all of us.
So proud of you Matt! Don’t go too main stream on us though
Kate in the Northridge is right, back off glamour bitches 
This was AWESOME. I loved it, of course after wiping the tears off of my face, I smiled. You are indeed, father of the year!!!
Cuss away! Your bad words are refreshing! I read the post and it was awesome!!! You were way too sweet to the woman who “got on to you” for cussing. People do some pretty stupid things in this world and commenting on YOUR blog about your cussing was just about the stupidest.
The pictures are amazing of you two. I saw some on the photographer’s blog too. You two are looking GREAT! Do I see a little bit of gained weight on you? Do I?
We know Madeline is gaining but maybe Daddy is too. 
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The article is fantastic Matt. Liz would be proud. The pictures of you and Madeline are just beautiful. You ARE doing an amazing job raising her. Fuck all those people who thought otherwise.
Matt, I have never posted before this, but have been reading your awesome blog for a few days now. You are an amazing person and father and words cannot describe how my heart hurts for the loss of your true love. Know that she is watching you with your beautiful baby and smiling at what a wonderful father you are. You are a reminder (unfortunately) of the fragility of life. You and Liz had such a wonderful relationship and did so many wonderful things together – hopefully those memories will keep you strong during this painful, painful time. I am glad that Madeline has such a wonderful Dad, she is an exquisite child, just like her Mom.
The other thing I wanted to comment on is the absolute ridiculousness of someone daring to tell you not to swear on your blog. This is reality. You are grieving and in terrible pain. What are you supposed to do? Pretend it’s all wonderful? I can’t believe that person for being so hurtful and judgmental.
Keep journalling your feelings. It is a much healthier way (swear words and all and there is nothing like the f word to describe a simply devastating set of events. Your writing will help others and you and one day Madeline to understand just HOW MUCH you loved her beautiful mother. People who are real are much more wonderful than people who are offended by the reality of life.
I hope to send a little care package for Madeline. My children think she is beautiful as do I. I am in awe of how awesome a job you have done and will continue to do. She is a lucky little girl. We are praying for you and will continue to check in on you.
Take care of yourself and try and get some sleep. With deep appreciation for your honesty and deep sorrow for your unimaginable loss.
Stranger/friend, Tricia (N. Virginia)
Happy Father’s Day Matt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You rock buddy!! You are an awesome father. Maddy is such a lucky little girl.
Kate in Northridge:
Those Glamour gals obviously don’t GET you. One of them commented (in response to your post) that you shouldn’t worry, she’s married! Like we’re all in this for Matt’s body.
Speaking as one who has been here for the long haul (i.e. since the Cribsheet days), I’m with ya…Don’t you Glamour people be laying claim to our boy! We were here first! : )
Although of course to Matt’s REAL friends and family, we’re ALL just johnnie-come-latelys. They must be wondering who on earth ARE all these people he’s gotten himself involved with…
Happy Father’s Day Matt! You are doing a great job w/your sweet girl!
I hope you have a great weekend together.
You are amazing…..
Jill can fuck right off.
Wow!! congrats on the Glamour gig. It has always been a fav of mine and little Miss Madeline is sure to always be a “Glamour Do” with all of her adorable onesies
You have an amazing story to share, I feel like your blog has changed my life- the way I look at my husband and daugether is forever changed because of you. Please don’t let one uptight person change how you write- funny but I don’t even notice how much that “F” word is used!! Maybe because it is one of my favorite words! You are just tellin’ it how it is, and if someone doesn’t like it, they don’t need to come in and read you. Their loss- not yours!!
Enjoy the rest of your visit to the MN!
you didn’t need to be ’storked’ to get the father of the year award…you’re amazing with madeline and liz is proud…enjoy your trip in mn.
Wow…congrats on the new writing gig Matt – very awesome. Loved the article!
Just looked at all your newest pics on flickr….looks like you’re hitting all the best spots in town. Hope to run into you while you’re here…maybe, hopefully, Sunday at the M&M meet and greet
@ all the “we were here first” commentors – you guys crack me up!
F*ck yeah you should do it! lol You’ve come a long way – keep on going!
HAVE THE HAPPIEST FATHERS DAY EVER!!
Kate, Katy, and other long-time blog readers: One of the reasons I love reading Matt’s blog is because it’s amazing to see the community he’s created through this very brave sharing of his story. I’m especially touched by all the people who write in with stories, tips, wisdom that can help not only him, but all the other people who come to this site because they may be suffering in some way. It’s amazing to see complete strangers come together to help each other. Consequently, it made me worry today to see commenters start to almost lay claim to Matt’s story and blog. The only person who owns this story is Matt, and what seems to have helped Matt is to have people respond to his story with open-hearted kindness. It’s not fair to him to post comments that may in some way prevent others from joining in this amazing community. We all suffer (though most not to the extent that Matt is now), and I think we’ve probably all found some relief in suffering from the amazing words of the many who have visited Matt’s site. Please let’s create a community in which everybody (Glamour “bitches” included) feels welcome. Then out of a horrible thing – Liz’s death – will come something truly amazing that can have a lasting effect on many.
Matt, thank you for sharing your words and pictures. And to all who comment, thank you for sharing yours too…it’s quite something to see people coming together like this.
Anna
Congrats Matt!!! I say fuck off Jill…come visit my site and you will see some cussing, lol! Loved the article and I hope you enjoy your first Father’s Day, you are truly a wonderful Daddy
@ Anna in Minneapolis
i can speak for kate in northridge and say that she was using a little sarcasm and was totally kidding.
(i think).
i love this kind of stuff.
i need to laugh more than anything right now and the comments from people like kate and katy make me do just that.
(i hope no one is offended by the comments. if you are i”ll make the commentors clean your house for you).
and the rest of the comments are equally awesome.
Congrats on the opportunity to write the articles for Glamour! You did a great job, and I’m sure you know we are all behind you! Happy Father’s Day!!
Great job on the article Matt!! I think that the way you write allows people a more open and honest way of looking at things. Not that you had ever hoped or aniticpated your life taking these turns, but I am sure that you are now helping more people then you will ever know and ever could have. They know that you can survive Liz’s death and you and Madeline can thrive in her memory.
On a far lighter note, my husband has a bad mouth (in my previous life – B.C. – Before Children – I had my fair share of 4 letter words) although he really tries to curb his vocabulary when our 3 year old is around. One evening we were eating pizza. The 3 year olds toppings fell off and under her breath she said “Oh fuck, God damn people”. Hummmm. It was very funny!
Congrats on the new gig….it’s a Glamour Do!
Hey Matt! Don’t worry about us, we will be here when you have the time. Take care and check in with us when you can.
@ the MpLs nancy
Please send me an email and I will get the info about the gathering out to you!
Andrea_Viera@hotmail.com
Next it will be the Today Show, The Morning Show, TLC Reality Show…. Seriously Matt, Father of the Year is very appropriate for you. Thanks for being real, being you and teaching us all.
to kate in northridge:
girlfriend, you crack me up! waiting to see what you have written is one of my main reasons for reading all the responses.
i agree with matt, humor is essential in times/situations like this.
Matt – thanks for your response. I guess it wasn’t fair of me to say what was fair to you. I just get a little uneasy when seeing potential “outsiders” being called bitches (even with humor)….I guess especially because, like many women, I’m always especially excited when I’m at the Y and have to work out and I find a really good trashy magazine – like Glamour. Working out is always 1000 times better when you can accompany it with an article about 87 new ways to please your man in bed. And knowing about these 87 ways does not make me a “bitch”! (But it should make me much more popular.)
Anyway, Kate, Katy, and all the other long-term commentors – - I want to repeat how much I’ve gained from reading all your comments since the StarTribune article was posted. It’s amazing all the knowledge, wit, and wisdom that y’all have.
Matt, I hope you brought warm clothes for Madeline. I’m in Minneapolis sitting in front of an open window and it’s chilly!
Ok…I have to tell a story about potty mouth and how damned funny it makes your life with a child…..( wait till Madeline drops her first F bomb )
My then 2 or 3 year old was sitting in the back seat while we drove over to the grocery store in a blazing blizzard….every old person was out to get milk and bread. ( As if they didn’t have tons in their freezers)
I was at an intersection pulling out when one of those blue hairs came barrelling through and damned near broadsided me. I was rightfully furious but trying to keep it clean for the little guy.
“you…..you….”
“ASSHOLE Mommy?” piped up the sweet blond haired angel in his carseat.
Nuff said…….
Katy, funny how you think you were the only one who could use sarcasm…so was I – I didn’t think this blog was that kind of blog as far as being morbidly here due to a romantic interest in Matt.
I spent a little time going through Matt’s blog and trying to absorb what he was going through and was so relieved to see all the beautiful posts. That motivated me to post, and I thought your comment was geniunely funny.
I’m not a Glamour gal – I’m more of a skulker – I read a lot of different blogs for ideas on stories (I’m in TV) and rarely ever post. Like I said I skulk. Mainly for the reason that sometimes when you read something and don’t have any inflection it comes out to the reader the wrong way.
You proved me right.
Anyway, just wanted to clear up in case anyone got offended.
By no means did I mean that.
The very nature of this blog should make this all so fucking (my new favorite adjective) trivial dont you think?
Nice chatting.
bye.
Fucking a.
Dude,
Here we go again with round two of all the women dropping the “F” bomb. (Nothing wrong with that ladies). Bring it. Have a happy fathers day dude.
Me again.
I’m calling it here first: Matt- you and Lil’ M-diggity are going to be on Oprah within the next 3 months. Anyone want to take a bet against me?
The Googlers are pulling for you. BT-Dubs— one of my Director’s husbands works at The Y! and I told her about the bloggy blog. Hope that’s ok.
Positive energy, mi compadre, positive energy…
Well, frankly, my house is a sty right now. Plus, I have no shame.
So if it’ll get some commentor over here to clean it up, please consider me officially offended. If it’ll get my laundry done too, I’ll ramp it up to outraged.
(Tuesday mornings work best for me, Kate, and don’t let the cat out. Thx, you’re a peach.
great job matt. and what a great article.. congrats… and I must say.. nice pics by the way.. wink! wink!
have fun and have a happy “f….” day.. however you want to read it is fine with me..
~g
That is a great article! Thank you for sharing Liz with all of us. You are doing an amazing job. Happy Father’s Day a couple days early!
Matt-
I just spent the past two hours reading about and crying over your story. I am so very sorry for your loss, I wish there was more/anything I could say to ease the pain in the slightest. Madeline is beautiful and you are doing a great job!
hugs and thoughts from MD-
k
That’s awesome that you have this opportunity to speak on such a large platform about your love for your beautiful wife and daughter. Liz would be so proud of you.
I can’t believe someone suggested you give Madeline up for adoption. That’s completely assanine. You’re doing a great job man and early Father’s Day wishes are in order.
Hi! To all the old-school Matt blog readers, I can see how you are protective of him and don’t want us from the Glamour squad to know about him, HE’S AWESOME!
I’ll just quietly read Matt’s blog from now and and cherish the special moments he chooses to share with us, his loyal readers.
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY MATT!
I don’t think I should be allowed to cry this much from one website, but seriously.
Happy Father’s day.
I do wish that i was offended by -kate in northridge- because i could really use a good house cleaning! (kate your HILARIOUS)
matt – glad you had the opprotunity to write in Glamour – GREAT article!! so good.
heres to hoping you have an AWESOME father’s day – you truly are FATHER OF THE YEAR and possibly the decade. without question.
and to -katy- maybe i AM here for matts bod
just kidding…
(matt not ‘just kidding’ about your great bod – kidding about wanting it – i am sure you know that, i just wanted to clarify….ughhh digging my own grave!!) leaving now….
Congrats on the glamour column. I loved the pictures!!!! I assume Liz would be stoked.
@ Andrea
I have sent you a few emails over the past couple days & haven’t heard back!
What’s a girl to do??
Are they not making it to you…or are you trying to tell me something??
Sunday is too close. Don’t wanna miss it!
I’m back to say that Kate in the Northridge cracks my shit up, AND that I have never in my life seen the word FUCK used more than in this thread of comments. Fuckity fuckdiggity, we are potty mouthed ladies n’ gents aren’t we? If Jill popped back in now, I am pretty sure her head would explode. Hehe.
Goodnight all, and once again, HAPPY FATHER’S DAY MATT!!
Wow, Jill had a lot of nerve, but obviously not enough (leaving a fake email? Yuck) People, please just remind yourselves that we are all different (and that this is a good thing) and that everyone, EVERYONE grieves in their own unique way and it doesn’t make any better or worse than anyone else.
Matt, I loved the piece and m. will be so proud of you!
Really beautiful. Really. and a pink tie…
Way cool on the Glamour article. I was wondering how long it would take for you to get discovered. I figured it would be the “Daddy and Maddy” show on TLC or something.
Happy Fathers Day!
Read the blog for Glamour, pretty cool you where asked. Nice little piece.
This is fabulous! Love that blog already, and now that you’re gonna be in it – it’s like a beautiful handshake, and monthly at that. You’re famous
Strange that I was reading your blog and my hopelessly clueless mom (with regards to anything internet related) saw what I was reading and said, “I heard about this family on TV!” I’m glad I first ‘met’ you guys here because, instead of just hearing your story once, I’m reminded every day of what a great dad you are and how beautiful Madeline is. Happy Father’s Day and hope you get lots of toothless grins from your little girl.
While I understand why you had to leave the warning, this is what I have to say about that: http://cdbaby.com/cd/evangenitals2, track number four. One of my favorite, fun local LA bands to see live, and this track says it all
Read the blog, fan-freakin-tastic:) Great writing, great pictures, and I just have to say I appreciate your transparency, thanks for sharing yours and maddy’s life with all of us . I look forward to the monthly pieces with Glamour (I love them too and happen to be a subscriber lol). Have a great day and Happy belated Father’s day!
New reader here! Just wanted to say that’s very cool about the Glamour article!
Thank you for sharing your story, Matt. I am, of course, in tears, but also humbled by your strength and love for your wife and daughter. I’m praying for continued strength and healing for you and that Madeline will see the love that you have for her mom and love her with as much intensity.
Screw Jill and all of the other people who think that you need to clean your mouth up because you have a child now. I have read everything from the beginning to today (it has taken a while, but you can’t just read some of it….) You have written everything truthfully and passionately. If some of these people don’t like the specific wording you are using…they can just stop reading it.
Ok….I’m done hijacking….back to reading.
BTW – What you wrote for Glamour was great. I know that Liz would have been proud.
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XoXoXo
Kara