Comments on: 14 weeks ago (tuesday).

By: Michelle in the az

Michelle in the az — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 20:39:05 +0000

::one eye crying for your post, the other for my Christa in the Valencia::

By: Katie M. in Mpls

Katie M. in Mpls — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 01:13:23 +0000

I saw your blog mentioned on another and started reading and now 4 hours later I’m still working my way through. I’m touched by your story, glad that you’ve shared it, and amazed by your love for both your daughter and your wife. My brother died 4 1/2 years ago and the thought of the day when I have been alive without him more than with him scares me too. Although the pain isn’t as intense with time, it’s still there, just different.

By: Candice

Candice — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 19:47:11 +0000

Yeah, those points at which you measure life vs. time after death are really unfathomable and so unbelievably hard. Or at least they were for me (I’m a date person, so I always know them). The point when Anna was alive longer without her father than when he was alive, 10 months after his death when she was 20 months old. Excruciating. The point, at 19 months after his death, when I was widowed longer than we were married. Devastating. I don’t know if it’s good news or not, but there is a point when you don’t notice those “points” as much–or at least they’re not as upsetting…which is sad in it’s own way, that you don’t notice, but it does help the days get easier to make it through. I don’t know exactly when it was this spring, but there was some point–around April or May (I intentionally never stopped to figure it out)–where I’d been widowed longer than we’d even had together, married or not…and by that point, at almost three years into “getting used” to his death, it wasn’t painful, especially. Just another (unfortunately) “normal” aspect to my life now. it’s a far cry from what my life used to be, but it was no more or less painful than all the other “average” days in widowhood.

Big hugs to you, Matt, and peace to you as you’re wading through these early days of grief. Just take it one moment at a time….

Candice

By: Jane

Jane — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 15:55:24 +0000

WOW, what a BEAUTIFUL LITTLE BABY!!! Oh my gosh, she is simply adorable. There’s nothing like that first REAL laugh. Thanks for sharing the story of her first laugh and an adorable photo — I feel like I can hear her too! She’s absolutely beautiful, such a sweetie pie.

By: Lindsay

Lindsay — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 15:39:36 +0000

Hi Matt. Glad to see things are going well for you and Madeline. As well as could be. I love the blue outfit (Ansley would be proud) on Madeline. Its beautiful. I check on you guys everyday.
The boys had their 1st birthday last week they are thriving and it was the anniversary of Ansleys death. It was rough but we made it thru. You will too. Hang in there and keep doing what you are doing. It works well. Peace, Lindsay

By: aslyne

aslyne — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 14:16:36 +0000

matt- i just feel compelled to write you and maddy. i wish their were more men on this earth like you! you stay strong and keep your head up; it will get better. maddy- what a wonderful man you have for a daddy-i cry everytime i read this blog. i love yall, take care!

By: Pam MN

Pam MN — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 13:43:40 +0000

Hugs my friend. 12 years and 58 days. wow, don’t think for one minute she’s not up there still counting! She’s got your backs. You know she does, doesn’t make you feel better I know.

By: Jamie Thatcher

Jamie Thatcher — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 22:05:46 +0000

Hugs, god bless,
tears come fast when you post your feelings, it makes me want to treasure those close to me. I think the keeping the clothes for Maddy would be awesome. Great pictures by the way, and the baby is changing, so much to come, my daughter is seven months, I can’t believe the changes. God everytime I post I lose my thought process and sound like an idiot. lol.
just want to say,
always here to listen

By: Jacki

Jacki — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 20:23:20 +0000

Matt, maddy is getting so big and beautiful! You are very lucky to look into those eyes everyday!

also, haven’t seen a picture of liz in awhile and just scrolling down to come upon her picture warms my heart. To see her beautiful face puts a smile on my face and I can only imagine what it does for you.

hope things are well.

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 18:45:28 +0000

Madeline is so beautiful, especially in that pink dress. It really brings out her complexion.

I have been reading your blog for weeks, but have never successfully commented. There is no rush in packing Liz’s things. Only you will know when you are ready. I cherish the things that belonged to my mom that my dad saved for me. I believe Madeline will cherish the things saved for her, too.