Comments on: glamour.

By: RC

RC — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 20:05:05 +0000

Matt -

I’ve been lurking for a while, and haven’t known what to say. My sympathies are with you and Madeline, as well as your extended families.

I just read your post over at Glamour, and wanted to let you know – we moms get the unsolicited advice all the time, too. You may not notice it as much, as I think people are more sneaky when they try to “share their thoughts” with a mom, but yes, we feel your pain.

I’m sure they think you are “dad on his first outing with the baby,” and I have no solution for that one, for you… But just know you aren’t alone in your feelings.

p.s. My sympathies on the loss of your grandfather, too. As a firefighter, I’m pleased to hear his station honored him with a memorial service.

By: Jackie B

Jackie B — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 00:55:14 +0000

I really like the tattoos Matt! I also liked that it was in Liz’s handwriting, like some others have said. It was like putting something concrete in the world with something that was so monumental, like a living memorial to Liz. Very cool.
PS. I think you are doing a hell of a job with Baby Madeline. I had a trick to wear head phones (even if they weren’t on) and then people didn’t bother me on the airlines.

I have a funny story for you: When my son was almost 2, I took him to California to visit a friend. Well, the cheapest flight was a red-eye in the early morning. (FYI- early morning usually doesn’t mean “happy kid”.) So, after going through all of the security and crap, he lost his patience right when we were boarding.
He decided he wanted to go on the BROWN plane that was next to us, and not the plane we were on!! He started screaming that he wanted the BROWN plane!! I couldn’t calm him down, no matter what I did. But, fortunately for US a stranger seated behind us started to tickle his arm, and then gave him a piece of gum. Very cool. It was so helpful of her just to do it, and quiet him down, rather than have someone say, “shut that kid up!” Another time, coming back from Mexico, my daughter was a baby and had an ear infection. She was crying so hard and the only thing that would calm her was to walk with her. After about an hour of doing this, a kind old grandpa man stood up and said, “why don’t you sit down, and let me take over?” It was so nice to have him walk her around for the next hour!
So, maybe the helpful strangers are yet to come in your future.

By: matt, liz and madeline - thursday.

matt, liz and madeline - thursday. — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 17:54:18 +0000

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By: Mollie

Mollie — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 21:48:36 +0000

The fucking tats rock! I love that. I love it even more that they are in her handwriting. Love it.

By: Laura in SC

Laura in SC — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 02:24:50 +0000

I have beem following your story since Storked first linked me to it……WOW…you are truly an amazing individual, and I can’t wait for Maddie to enter her interactive phase, you are going to have a blast!! I have a four year old son, and may I say, never onetime did I EVER think of putting the onesie OVER his too big pants (he had short little legs too!)…..what a PRACTICAL, BRILLIANT, and adorable way to solve a problem! Thank you for sharing your life. Hang in there…children bring out the best in us.

By: Sandy from Louisville

Sandy from Louisville — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 00:08:09 +0000

Tami, you said it so eloquently. I also feel as though I know Matt, Madeline and Liz through Matt’s blog and it feels as though I have met some amazing friends through these posts. Thank you, Matt, for letting us cry and laugh with you and learn about parenthood through you words. God bless you.

By: Tami in MT

Tami in MT — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 23:42:03 +0000

Matt,
I’ve written several comments, but never hit post – didn’t know that I could say anything that anyone else hadn’t already – and with as much style. Here goes. But I’ve been thinking a lot about your family lately and wanted to comment.
Life delivered a gut-wrenching punch to you, Maddy and a lot of other people. But I’m assuming that had you known the outcome 12 years ago, you would have done it again. Think about it – YOU knew Liz better than anyone – and did for 12 years and 58 days. How lucky is that?!?
I’ve read comments from so many people that say they wish they had known Liz while she was alive (myself included), but you did. And because of you, so have we.
Liz is proud. Everyone is cheering you on. We all love reading about your days and seeing pics of Maddy. We’d all love to hear more stories about Liz (if you’ll allow). You’re doing a fabulous job.
Good things do come out of bad situations – you have gained the biggest group of friends EVER! And you and Maddy will have a relationship that will be unique and cherished forever. Liz is part of her which is wonderful, and through you she will grow and become the woman that you and Liz dreamed of.
Hope you have a great week! And loved the Glamour post!

By: Jess in the Aloha state.....

Jess in the Aloha state..... — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:32:49 +0000

not sure if my last comment will post – (lost internet connection) buuut i said that i love this quote:

“Be careful whose advice you buy and be patient with those who supply it…advice is a form of nostalgia � dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more then its worth�”

and that the glam article was amazing (as ususal) and that i am praying for you!!

be blessed. aloha!

By: sara

sara — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:32:02 +0000

Matt I have been reading your blog and I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your experience with all of us. I am a single mom of two precious boys and I know the struggles that are there (my circumstances are much different) and I read your blog and I am inspired. My best wishes to you and you are a wonderful father.

By: Jess in the Aloha state.....

Jess in the Aloha state..... — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:31:20 +0000

a quote i love:

AWESOME GLAM ARTICLE!!
aloha friend.