Comments on: glamour + controversy.

By: Janelle

Janelle — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:45:58 +0000

I am a new reader to your blog, but I just had to comment on this. I haven’t read all the comments already made, so maybe this has already been addressed, but even married couples have a double standard. Every time I am at work there is at least one person that asks me who is watching my kids. I had to ask my husband when he came home from work if anyone ever asked him this question, of course his answer was no. I don’t know why it is so shocking that when I work my husband takes care of our children, I am expected to do it when he is at work, but he is a fantastic father because he watches them while I am at work? I mean he is a great father anyway, but shouldn’t both parents be expected to care for their children. I also hate it when people say my husband is babysitting, but it’s never been called babysitting when I have all of my kids.

Anyways, from what I have read so far, only up to October, I think it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job Matt. Almost everytime I read your blog I cry, thinking about how you are doing in this impossible situation.

By: BlackEyedP

BlackEyedP — Thu, 21 May 2009 21:55:39 +0000

Your devotion is totally hot, not to mention your great taste in music/food and all things robot. Don’t kid yourself

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 03:50:24 +0000

I know this post was back in July 08. But I just started reading your Blog. I started reading from before Maddy and I am up to July. Trying to read from the beginning with 3 kids is going to take a while. But anyway… I was not going to comment until I was all caught up, but this post I had to comment on. I was a single parent to a special needs child, he was 4 at that time, in a new place with no friends and just a few family members. I met a single guy (no children) and he is now my Husband. He is a great Dad and Husband to all of us We had 2 kids after marriage. I did feel like I would be single forever and no one would want a mom with a special needs child. So I guess what I am getting at is even if it switched, man or woman…there is hope! Women do have it a bit harder, but it’s possible!! By the way you are a great catch, it is hard not for women to find you attractive! (and I am happily married) You are a great father and your love for Liz is what most women search for! We read your open thoughts and wish our husband could be so expressive!!
PS. Any women that is lucky to have you and Maddy in their life, should also know your love for her will always be shared with Liz. Your a great Dad and a great guy!!

By: Alicia in the ATX

Alicia in the ATX — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 02:14:00 +0000

So, unlike everyone else in the world, I just started reading your blog a week or so ago. Started at the beginning, and I’m on July. I am not surprised by this post. I am happily married to my best friend, who is a fantastic father to our three children (four in May), and we discuss this double-standard regularly.

About a year ago, I was flying a lot, all one-way trips, alone with my under-1-year-old. Because I was flying one-way, I was always flagged by airport security. As you know, flying by yourself with a baby doesn’t make for an awesome time (even less fun when you’re flagged and have to explain your breast pump). Anyway, I never once had anyone offer to help me, even when my crawling baby was halfway down the security checkpoint while I tried to tie my shoes. The *single* time my husband traveled one-way with our baby during this same time period, he was flagged because of his one-way ticket, but airport security not only waved him through while cooing at the baby, the baggage check woman didn’t ask for his ID, and he had multiple offers of help (by women who assumed he was a bumbling idiot, I think). It’s really maddening. And condescending. To dads. Who are not necessarily bumbling idiots.

I think you’re fascinating to people for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is that a lot of women have never had the kind of “mythologized” husband/father they see in your blog. People also start the “what if”s… It fucking scares me to death to think that I could leave my husband spouseless and my four kids motherless because of such useless, shitty luck (I think that was your term ).

But you’re also fascinating because I think people see a truly “good” person in you, whether this good was catalyzed by a truly awful event or whether it was there in the same or different form beforehand.

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That said, the first time I have ever felt the need to comment on your blog (but didn’t) was the post before this one… Are those baby Vans Madeline was wearing?! They’re awesome!

By: Sheena

Sheena — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 07:07:57 +0000

i take men for who they are & because i had a shining example of a good father, i pick winners- good men only. you sir, you are a winner.

but my only advice to any of my friends is advice that people may not want to hear. never choose a woman with “daddy issues,” never choose a man with “mommy issues.” just don’t!

By: Toni

Toni — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 03:36:50 +0000

What’s your number? ;0) Just kidding, something I read in an earlier post. Tried to write something that sounded like an educated statement but figured I would just recycle somebody else’s words and hope it has the same effect on you as it did the first time around. ;0)

By: michelle in the az

michelle in the az — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 22:43:15 +0000

Oh, and the great pictures and sarcastic witicism helps too.

By: michelle in the az

michelle in the az — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 22:41:24 +0000

HA! Over 300 posts?? Women are nurturers by nature. They see a need, they swarm. : )

I think every little girl would love a daddy like you, and we all have that inner “little girl” with us.

Oh, and it really helps to have a stunningly beautiful baby girl that everyone is now emotionally vested in. We’re watching her grow up. It’s totally addicting.

You’re doing an awesome job.

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By: Vinnie Sorce

Vinnie Sorce — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 18:26:55 +0000

Wow Matt I can’t believe the amount of comments here. Funny thing is I have a blog on the opposite side of the street. I’m widowed twice with three children involved and nobody has ever thought I was amazing, not out loud at least. I guess it it’s all relative. I’d love to know more about you and your daughter. Check this post and you’ll see why, http://singledadseeking.blogspot.com/2008/06/what-about-soccer-dads.html