thursday.

(still a week behind).

didn’t get much sleep

last night and

had to get up

early to let the

air conditioning guys

in the house.

why?

oh, ’cause the damn

thing is leaking water

through the ceiling

of our bathroom.

fed madeline while

i waited for the

guys to arrive.

they did and discovered

that the drainage

pipe was leading up

rather than down.

not awesome.

one of the guys doing the

work was sort of big,

maybe too big

to be walking around

in the attic of an 80 year old house.

as madeline napped and

i tried to

pack for our trip to

the mn, i heard the

unmistakable sound of

the ceiling hitting

the floor.

searched the rooms,

looking for plaster.

there it was…

in my closet.

broken light fixture,

plaster all over

my clothes, and

a 3-foot hole in

the ceiling.

i yelled,

“hey guys…be careful! i don’t want you to get hurt!”

the guy came down

from our attic to

inspect the damage.

he apologized over

and over again.

i told him that it

was no big deal and that

i was worried about his safety.

he seemed surprised

by my reaction.

i guess i was

as well.

had this incident

happened six months ago or

more, i wouldn’t have

been quite as concerned

about the safety

of the people in our attic.

i mean, the air conditioner

is fewer than 3 months

old…it’s leaking because of

a really stupid

mistake they made,

our ceiling is

crumbling because of this

mistake, and i’m having

to deal with all of

this just a few

hours before leaving

for the airport.

these days i have some perspective.

a leaking air conditioner,

a hole in the ceiling.

these things aren’t

the end of the world.

they can be fixed.

i let the men

continue their

work as i went

back to packing.

thought about how

liz

would have dealt with

this situation.

she most certainly would

have let the guys

know how pissed she was.

finished packing 5 minutes

before the car

arrived to pick me up.

kicked the ac guys out,

telling them that they

had to come back on

tuesday to finish up.

got everything into the car

on the way to the airport.
on the way to the airport.

and made it to the airport

with plenty

of time to spare.

we were met at the airport

by a representative

from the car service,

who carried

all of our luggage.

i’ve talked to this guy

many times before

and i know he

has wanted to ask

why i’m always alone

with the baby.

today he finally asked the question.

i was reluctant to

tell him.

see, i’ve been using

liz’s

discount on the car service

’cause it’s way

cheaper than taking

a taxi to the airport.

i was afraid they’d pull the

rug out from under

me if they knew the truth,

so i’ve been employing a sort of

don’t ask, don’t tell

policy with them.

when he asked the

question, i had to tell him

the truth without

the usual tears.

he said,

“why didn’t you tell me before today? i would’ve made sure that there was always someone waiting here to help you out.”

i told him i didn’t

want to lose the discount.

he laughed and said,

“don’t worry. i’ll make sure you’re taken care of.”

then he mentioned that he

lives in our neighborhood

and that i should come over

for dinner sometime.

he also offered to

have his wife babysit

madeline if i ever

need an escape.

nice.

i thanked him,

then headed through security.

listened to the woman

ahead of me get

yelled at for sitting

her child on the

rollers at the end

of the x-ray machine.

i laughed ’cause it

wasn’t me.

got on the plane,

walked to our seats

at the back of the plane.

sat down next to

an angry architect,

a guy who wouldn’t

even look in madeline’s

direction as she

sang him a song.

well, it’s gonna be a long

flight for this

guy, ’cause madeline’s awake

and ready to talk.

her song selection was great until

the last hour

of the flight.

she got a little

fussy so i walked her

up and down

the aisle.

this made her happy

and got the attention

of the flight attendants.

talked to one who

asked me

why i was traveling alone.

i told her,

this time i was unsuccessful

in holding back the tears.

she told another

flight attendant everything

i told her and

the two of them

talked to us the

rest of the flight.

took our seat

next to the still

angry architect and

finally touched down in

the mpls

around 11:00pm.

found the g. grandparents

waiting for us

at baggage claim.

grandma candee grabbed her granddaughter

from me as soon

as she could and

grandpa tom g.

and i grabbed

the luggage.

had an extra bag with me

this trip, filled with

just a small

portion of the

clothes that no longer

fit madeline, to be delivered

to a friend who’s

gonna have a baby

girl at the end of november.

drove back to

the home of the

g. grandparents in the mtka.

there was another

grandma eager to see

her grandchild, so

i invited grandma broccoli

over to the house

to see madeline.

everyone did

their best to not

wake her up,

out upon arrival at the grandparent's house.

which was difficult,

’cause everyone wanted

to hold her.

grandma broccoli finally

gave up on the sleeping

baby and headed home.

madeline was placed into

her crib and i took

a spot on the not pulled

out pull out couch.

it took me awhile

to fall asleep, but i finally did so

around 4:00am.

exhausted, but looking forward

to a great weekend

back in the mn.

103 Comments

  1. Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:46 am | Permalink

    Wow, amazing the restraint you showed with the a/c people. You seem to have the patience of a Buddhist monk nowadays…something I’m trying to achieve, but still have a hard time doing.

    I love Madeline’s little shoes that she has on- really cute!

    Have a good day over there- I better get back to work- gah! It’s much more fun to look at Madeline pics :o P

  2. Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:51 am | Permalink

    I’ve been following your story for quite a while now, and I just have to say she is such a beautiful baby! I’m pretty sure my baby’s got a crush on her. Give her some big squishes for us!

  3. Erin in the L.A.
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 2:21 am | Permalink

    I’m not usually up to read your posts when they first go up, but the pregnancy insomnia has me in its grip.

    Hope you got the A/C problem fixed. Can’t wait to hear more about the weekend in the MN.

    I realize what today’s date is. Hang in there and stay strong. You are surrounded by people who genuinely care about you.

    And the grumpy architect? Fuck him! He either doesn’t have kids or is so uninvolved in raising his children that he just doesn’t get it. Gotta love all those compassionate flight attendants instead.

  4. Cori from Texas
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 2:53 am | Permalink

    The vans are awesome on the baby!
    Can’t wait to see all the pics with the grandparents!

  5. Dana in sunny socal
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 3:11 am | Permalink

    i’m at work checking up on you guys. your attitude amazes me. i would be so pissed at those ac guys. im trying to see the world like you do, certain things are no big deal. i do find myself getting irritated when i shouldn’t. baby steps, you know. cant wait to read about your walk. love the little cutie pie’s shoes.

  6. Sol from Argentina
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 3:32 am | Permalink

    Hola Matt
    Buen dia
    You always amaze me on how you dealt with the most weird/uncomfortable/fucking situation!
    It is comfort to know that there are so much people out there trying to help you and making your days so much easier
    Besos y abrazos
    Sol

    ps: Thinking of you both today…SENDING EXTRA hugs.

  7. Posted 9/25/2008 at 4:16 am | Permalink

    Wow! Good job with the AC guys! My husband would have been furious!

    I would have LOVED to hear Madeline’s song on the plane. Nothing is sweeter than a baby “talking”. They just have so much to say!

  8. Tricia L
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 4:20 am | Permalink

    I want to reach through the screen and squeeze that sweet baby girl. She is one stylin baby with those shoes!

  9. Posted 9/25/2008 at 4:27 am | Permalink

    hey matt…just peeking in…

    it’s amazing after a loss, how small things like that are.. plaster on the ground, holes, … are just that, small… and replaceable…

    good thing the big guy did not get hurt… :)

    ~g

  10. Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:20 am | Permalink

    Thinking of you guys today – like always – but sending extra good thoughts your way today Matt – Hope you and Maddy have a GREAT day together and that she is able to sing YOU some songs to make your heart sing…at least part of the day!!
    xoxo – darcie

  11. Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:35 am | Permalink

    Oh that sucks about the ceiling, but thankfully the guy didn’t land in the bathroom;) I would have been cracking on him about how bad he had to go and that we have steps here damnit!!
    and i’m sorry but I had to laugh at the not telling the car service about Liz… but the guy at the airport was awesome huh?? lol and the car service was it a limo? you guys are soo friggin’ cool..

  12. Jan
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:38 am | Permalink

    So many times I have looked at Maddie’s picture and thought how much she looks like Liz. However, the last one of her asleep in the car seat looks so much like pictures we have seen of Liz takes my breath away. How comforting/sad that resemblence must be for you and your families.

    Maybe you and Maddie should move back to the MN?

    Love to you both from beautiful Central NY!

    Jan

  13. PB and Jazz
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:50 am | Permalink

    Matt,

    Thanks for the reminder of what is truly important. I also hope today isn’t too bad. I will be thinking of you and Madeline today. I hope today is a good day.

  14. Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:51 am | Permalink

    Your story about the hole in your ceiling made me laugh…had a similar experience while in a hotel once. Workmen in the floor above us woke us up early with their stomping, hammering, and drilling. I decided to hop in the shower since I was up already. As I’m in there I hear a huge crash.

    I hurriedly got dressed and peeked around the door…there was a large, jean clad leg hanging from the ceiling directly above my bed, which was now covered in fiberglass, insulation, and ceiling tiles. Awesome. Glad I didn’t decide to sleep in! Everyone was fine but you can bet I got my stay comped. :-)

    Anyway, sounds like you handled your situation with some grace…good for you. Glad your flight went well, and may I say Madeline is getting so big! She looks great.

  15. Sara GC from the FL
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:06 am | Permalink

    Wow – an AC guy through your ceiling! That’s a bit of a crazy start to your trip back to the MN! I hope you enjoy(ed) your trip back and are rested and have been well fed, relaxed and just had fun!! *hugs*!

  16. CeCe in the NYC
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:09 am | Permalink

    No pics of the ceiling hole?

  17. Kris
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:11 am | Permalink

    goodness she’s getting big and those shoes are ridiculous!!!

    sorry about the a/c crappola.

  18. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:14 am | Permalink

    I’ve gained a little perspective recently, myself. I’m glad a hole in your closet didn’t ruin the start of your trip.

    Thinking of you guys today…

  19. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:16 am | Permalink

    Those Vans are great, especially with the pink ruffled socks! She’s so stylin.
    When I started reading your blog, my daughter sat patiently on my lap and played with a toy. Now she sees a photo of Madeline and tries to crawl off of my lap onto the keyboard pointing and yelling “baby, baby” I say, “that’s Madeline” she responds with “madin” every time. Then it’s off to find me a book to read her.
    Hope you have a good day today Matt. Time goes by so fast.

  20. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:17 am | Permalink

    I do hope you got Maddy’s little feet shoes in larger sizes. I would hate to see those retired.

    As Sol has, sending you extra hugs today. I remember my 6 month mark being the worst for me. Don’t know why, just was. Hoping you and Maddy have a beautiful day.

  21. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:17 am | Permalink

    Hi, everyone!

    Just a quick Flickr related announcement. The photos are really great but many of them do not say where they were taken. Please, please, please go back to your photos and put the location in the title OR the description. All you have to do is change the info on your Flickr page and it will automatically be changed in the group, as well. If you have any questions about how to do this, please do not hesitate to contact me through my blog by clicking on my name. Thanks again!!

  22. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:31 am | Permalink

    I hope you have a great time in the MN. That really sucks about your closet, with the whole ac/leak/guy breaking your ceiling thing.

  23. Brooke
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:36 am | Permalink

    I took my then 6 month old son on his first flight ever about a month 2 months ago. He hated every second of it but on the first flight most ppl didn’t care. When we connected from Denver to PHNX this angry angry old women sat next to me this was our conversation
    “Does he fly well” asked the worried old woman
    “I’m really sorry, but he hasn’t had the best time with it. I apologize in advance.”

    “Great *eye roll* I had to fly once from London to Chicago with a screaming baby once”

    “Well just be glad this flight is only an hour huh?”

    She then gets up to beg to be moved, too bad lady full flight. She plops back down in a huff
    and OFF we go. Simon starts to cry and get fussy, he doesn’t like to be sitting!

    “Can’t you make him stop?” ask the angry old lady

    “No I really can’t, trust me I don’t like this either”

    “Well he is ruining my flight, can’t you make that kid stop his crying” She gets this nasty look that tells me she must have never been a child..

    I turn to my son and say as loud as I can*because he had to hear me over his screams* “Simon you heard the women, you stop crying right now! You are ruining her flight and that is just rude of you, rude rude rude”

    “was that necessary?” asks Bitch *we will just call her that*

    I look at her and say “Of course it was! What do you want me to do? I asked him to stop thats the best I got lady!”

    The Bitch asked to be moved again, only to be shot down once more. She comes back to her seat and I just smile at her and place Simon a little closer to her ear :)

    I am glad Maddie flies better than simon

  24. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:43 am | Permalink

    I love hearing about all of the people in the world who are still honest to goodness kind humans. It is so amazing how many kind people come out of the woodwork everyday in your life.

    p.s. I unsuccessfully kept from crying while reading your post today.

  25. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:49 am | Permalink

    Loving the baby shoes! Loving them!

    Good to hear you’re surrounded by family…or are you home now?

    You know, you ARE surrounded by good, loving people everywhere you go. For every grump, there’s like 5 people who are wonderful. I think there is no coincidence in that.

    Hope you’re having/had a great time away. No doubt your doing/did something good. I’m sure between you and Madeline, you’ve got lots to say, lots to say and pics and your gorgeous lil’ blondie with the fuzzy chickadee hair (i so adore).

    Keep on, daddy.

  26. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:55 am | Permalink

    Can i ask, how on earth do you remember what happened a week ago, to the exact detail? I have to write it down as soon as i happens or its out of my head the next minute. lol.
    Madeline is cute as always, glad to hear you had a good time with your family.

    And i hear you on the angry person on the airplane, i have encountered them many times when i was travelling back and forth from Australia to the USA! My son was extremely fussy one flight….i got eyes rolled at me and everything. lol.

    Looking forward to the next update, thinking of you and Madeline.:)

  27. PaisleysMom
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:59 am | Permalink

    I too have been following your story and your strength, courage and attitude amaze me! Madeline is truly blessed to have you as a father. She is such a dolly! Shes also one TRENDY baby! I love all the outfits you dress her in! High Five to you~

  28. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:08 am | Permalink

    Love the fact that you are passing down Madelines clothes.

  29. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:16 am | Permalink

    Rock on, Madeline.

  30. aimee in the WI
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:23 am | Permalink

    angry architech=assclown

  31. Jen in Maryland
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:29 am | Permalink

    Glad that you seem to be having better days! Love the kicks!! Madeline is quite the stylin’ little girl – I’m so impressed! Sometimes I think my husband is color blind – you should see some of the outfits he puts together for our boys! Can’t wait to see a video of Maddy singing! Nothing is sweeter than a little one and their baby chatter. I didn’t post yesterday but love the wish trees. What a great thing to do on Liz’s birthday. Thinking of you today and sending extra hugs.

  32. Staci
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    She is getting so big!! Love the shoes!

  33. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:36 am | Permalink

    @Erin in L.A.: I can’t believe you haven’t popped yet!!! :-)

  34. Katy
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:37 am | Permalink

    How generous of that guy…to offer his WIFE to babysit…! : ) No, seriously, it’s really nice…it just made me grin.

    Great to see you this weekend at the Creep playdate; hope you’re having a great week.

  35. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:37 am | Permalink

    Love the shoes….

  36. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:45 am | Permalink

    I follow your blog religiously. I have told many of my friends about your blog and your story as well. We all check it daily. I just wanted to tell you that you are doing an awesome job with Maddy. If you are ever in the AZ please look us up. We would love to show you around. Plus, everytime my 16 month old daughter sits on my lap as I read your blog she smiles at the pictures of Madeline and says “baby”. She’s her BFF already. Thanks for making our day.

  37. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:50 am | Permalink

    So long as someone is fixing all these a/c mess-ups, that’s cool.

    Madeline is so cute I can barely stand it. And who says men don’t have fashion sense? She has the cutest clothes!

  38. HANNAH INTHE VERMONT
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:51 am | Permalink

    Matt—I can’t believe how you dealt with those men! That’s great—Wanna come and deal with the carpenter that is screwing/fixing my bathroom this week.

    Did Maddy get a new car seat? I love her new shoes! she is just a doll!

    Sending love,
    Hannah in the Vermont

  39. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:58 am | Permalink

    @Colleen

    my memory sucks so i have to take really good notes ;)

  40. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:00 am | Permalink

    I don’t know what is on that baby’s feet in the last picture, but I want them!!!!

    Hope you had a great trip!

  41. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:00 am | Permalink

    So glad I got to meet you guys at the walk on Sunday (we only chatted for a second – you had quite a few people trying to get your attention :] ). Love the carseat pics of Madeline. Is that a limo? You guys ride in style!

  42. Aimee
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:03 am | Permalink

    LOVE you two! <3

  43. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:05 am | Permalink

    @Trafty in MN

    yeah…that’s a limo. it’s not how we usually ride, but it was the only car they had available. it was the same price as the car they usually use to pick us up…a prius.

    awesome, eh?

  44. abend
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:12 am | Permalink

    Dear Matt…. I’ve been reading your blog for a couple of weeks now, and I am just amazed and full of admiration for you and your adorable daughter. Despite all that’s happened in the last few months, you seem to be coping through the days and fitting well into your new role as a parent. It’s apparent that you are an amazing father and Madeline is completely beautiful.

    Experiencing death and loss really tends to put all the minor things in life into great perspective. It makes us really want to keep our priorities clear, and hold onto to what is nearest to our hearts- our families, our friends. Personal relationships are much more meaningful than the stupid day-to-day crap that is thrown at us.

    Shortly after I had my daughter, my mother died- I remember all to well the pain and depression over her loss, but there was no time to grieve when I had a 2 month old to take care of. It became a lovely distraction of sorts, and really helped ease me through the grieving process. I know that my story in no way compares to the devastating loss of Liz, but I wanted to share with your nonetheless.

    I will continue to follow your journey in life with Madeline…. I wish you both nothing but happiness and love.

    abend in the denver

  45. Erin in MN
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:13 am | Permalink

    Can’t believe the a/c guys, crazy, unbelievable. So nice of the service driver to take such good care of you, great to know that people like that come into your life at the right moments. Love the sleepy little Madeline in her carseat and, like we discussed, the Grammas want to see the baby. She is growing so fast even though she looks so much smaller in person. Can’t wait to hear your thoughts on the 5K, it was such an awesome turn-out and to see all the pink walking around the lake. Extra big hugs for your family today, take care friend.

  46. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:17 am | Permalink

    I’ve been reading your blog for a while and you gave me some major perspective today. I’m having some major issues in my basement and was just so upset. Thank you for the wake up call.

  47. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:28 am | Permalink

    @Kate in the TX~Pics are now labeled with my location! Thanks for the reminder.

  48. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:31 am | Permalink

    I only wish that I could someday be lucky enough to be seated on an airplane next to a child as delicious as Madeline. I usually end up with someone smelly. I love her Vans! Awww!

    Thinking of you..hoping you are doing ok….

  49. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:38 am | Permalink

    what a great ride to the airport. you could get used to that, couldn’t you. :-)

    take it easy today.

    (((hugs)))

  50. AJ (female) in MPLS
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:41 am | Permalink

    Hmmm… do all “cars” that pick you up have the flashing lights and fog machines? :) You guys were riding in style! Love Madeline’s shoes!!

  51. Posted 9/25/2008 at 9:01 am | Permalink

    Matt, Im a crier, this one made me cry.

    Brooke! I love your plane story! I hate people who think only of themselves. How rude of that lady!

  52. Posted 9/25/2008 at 9:17 am | Permalink

    Love the girl’s shoes!!

    Hope you had a nice trip!

  53. Posted 9/25/2008 at 9:32 am | Permalink

    Happy 6 months to the Miss M!
    I am sending extra special thoughts to you all today – you, Madeline, your family, friends, everyone whom ever knew Liz! Take care and be well!
    Side note – GO TWINS! We were at the game last night – so awesome!
    Hugs!
    Jen and Zoe in the MN

  54. Posted 9/25/2008 at 9:39 am | Permalink

    @Jen in the MN:

    Go Twins is right! Take down those SOX!!!

    signed,
    Cubs Fan

  55. Posted 9/25/2008 at 10:09 am | Permalink

    Wow, a limo. Snazzy. :)
    Hope you are having/had a great trip to the MN.

  56. Posted 9/25/2008 at 10:39 am | Permalink

    kay, first, LOVING the outfit choice, such a stylish girl! and secondly, re: the grumpy architect on the plane has no clue what entertainment he missed out on, song stylings by Maddy Logelin?! doesnt get much better. psh, some people.

  57. KellyMc
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 10:41 am | Permalink

    Sweet pics in the limo – I’m so glad that guy was so nice. Down with the baby haters – how can people resist a cute baby!?! Thinking of you today, and a belated Happy B-day to Maddy.

    @Brooke – good for you! I would have done the exact same thing!

    @all you stinkin’ Twins fans – stop – you are ruining our chance for a fabulous crosstown classic world series!! GO SOX!!!!!!

  58. Becky P.
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 10:58 am | Permalink

    I thought if I waited a while, I’d think of the right thing to say today. But I’ve learned that there aren’t always words. So I hope today Madeline sings her beautiful songs, and you’re able to hold each other when there are tears, and know that there are a lot of heavy hearts today.

    Sending hugs from the MN.

  59. Amanda_from_MA
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:06 am | Permalink

    I can’t wait to hear the rest of the story.

  60. Holly Mcj in Canada
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:11 am | Permalink

    Hey Matt, I just found your blog just a few days ago and I have been reading past blog posts getting caught up on your story. I just wanna say your doing a great job with your daughter. Have a great time on your trip.

  61. Jodi
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:15 am | Permalink

    I hate people like the “angry architech”. On one of our many trips to Arizona we sat next to a woman who sounds much like your fella. She didn’t even look in my sweet sons direction. At one point she sneezed and my sweet 2.5 year old said “bwess you” and she didn’t respond. Not a smile, not a thank you…NOTHING. I wanted to bitch slap her!

    Glad you made is safe & sound! That lil’ one of yours get even more beautiful with each picture you share!

  62. leigh in the sav
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:19 am | Permalink

    thinking of your family today.

    your travel stories are very entertaining – angry architect sounds like he needed a drink. or a soul. not sure which. ; )

    hope maddy a superb 6 month celebration.

  63. Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:30 am | Permalink

    Hiya again, im thinking maybe i should start taking notes then. Seems to work for you. ;)
    I forgot to say Happy 6 months to Madeline. :)

  64. Erin in the L.A.
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:37 am | Permalink

    @K8 in the Northridge. I’m not due until Monday, but I’ve been in prelabor for four days. I’m so ready for this kid to come!

  65. Posted 9/25/2008 at 12:00 pm | Permalink

    Thank you for putting life into perspective for me again. I need to remember that those little irritants are really so unimportant in the grand scheme of things. There is so much more in life that MATTERS.

    And really – who doesn’t want to here Madeline sing? What a bitter, old man…

  66. Jeni in MN
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 12:01 pm | Permalink

    Those shoes are too freaking adorable!! And I think curiousity has finally gotten the best of me… why is grandma brocolli grandma brocolli? Always wondered… finally asked. Hope you had a good time in the good old MN.

  67. Jen from Denver
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    Yay, car service guy! That story brought tears to my eyes. People can be wonderful human beings. And, Matt, you didn’t do too bad yourself with the bungling air conditioning guys.

  68. Glenda in San Diego
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 12:31 pm | Permalink

    Happy 6 mos Maddy! She’s Gorgeous! Can’t wait to hear about your wkend in the MN! and see the new pics. That was so nice of the car services guy to offer dinner and his wife to babysit Maddy. Maddy… keep singing! :)

  69. Dawn in the OV
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 12:38 pm | Permalink

    Thinking of you today and hoping Madeline is keeping you surrounded with her beautiful smiles and songs.

    And I’m friggin’ LOVIN’ her outfits!!

  70. hawkfeather
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:15 pm | Permalink

    Sometimes I just need to put my wishes out there.. and hope a good strong wish tree catches them in the breeze..

    I truly wish that one day Matt- all the beautiful positives in your life will not have to be weighed against the loss of your wife.

    That your calm- your reactions to the everyday stresses in life will once again be because you were born a beautiful person- and not because you had to experince the most heart wrenching theft there is.

    I also wish that the great and vast amount you have impacted the lives of others.. of strangers.. hits you full force one day.

    With your loss- and all the affects and all the prioritizing that has come with it- has also come a great writer- and documentation of a human heart.
    Because of this site- people all over the world are learning to stop- breath deep and take a second look at their lives.
    Without the profound pain of loss.
    it is an amazing thing you have done.
    and I fully suspect like most amazing things being done- it may not be recognized as such- and that is my wish..

    Your life isn’t just a car crash people are slowing down to stare at- it really is a gift for us to share with you.

    I am glad you were with your family..
    lots of love!
    -HF

  71. MeM in the MN
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:21 pm | Permalink

    So thoughtful and generous to give Maddy’s too small cloths away. I love that.
    take care

  72. Nantucket YaYa
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:23 pm | Permalink

    What a dolly! Hope you had a nice time!

  73. Mollie
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:25 pm | Permalink

    Hi Matt and Madeline,

    I’m sure I don’t have any right words for you today – if there even is such a thing, but wanted you both you know that I am thinking about you both today and am honored to have been able to follow your journey over the last 6 months.

    I hope you both know how much you are surrounded by love and good wishes from all over the globe.

    May you spend today knowing how much love you have in your life and how you, Liz and Madeline have touched so many strangers that now consider themselves almost friends.

    Wishing you to have a day filled with big smiles from your little girl….

  74. Diane in Kate's Library
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:58 pm | Permalink

    Car driver guy/neighbor *ROCKS*. Understand about the attic work; recently had a guy in my attic tacking down insulation knock a hole in the drywall in the living room ceiling! It was easy to fix, but startling to be sitting right there when pieces of ceiling rained down! Have a good trip.

  75. Diane in Kate's Library
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

    As in last week. Hope you HAD a great trip.

  76. Debbie From Ohio
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 1:59 pm | Permalink

    Matt,
    Extra hugs for you today.

    Take care,
    Debbie,Bella and Sophie

  77. Heather
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 2:33 pm | Permalink

    6 Months…. 6 months of pure joy watching Madeline grow into her personality, and 6 months of the worst shit life has to offer. Quite a dichotomy. I hope the weight of today is not too much to bear, and I hope that Madeline is giving you lots to smile about through the tears.

  78. Julie
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 3:19 pm | Permalink

    The kindness of others can be truly amazing sometimes. Bless you and yours, and I hope you have a marvelous trip! ?

  79. Posted 9/25/2008 at 3:28 pm | Permalink

    I just wondered the other day what lucky little girl will receive Maddy’s outgrown clothes… that makes two lucky little girls with a rockin’ wardrobe!

    This post was uplifting and a reminder that there is still good in the world and the small stuff just really shouldn’t be sweated. And I’m pretty sure sweated isn’t really a word…. ;)

  80. Melissa NORTH Jersey
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 4:00 pm | Permalink

    Man, I cant follow these fine people’s comments with anything witty. You have grown so much in this shit hand you were dealt. But God, your gift you were given, she is straight from Heaven.

    You are in my thoughts on this most difficult day. I am sure there will be more, but I also think there are going to be MANY MANY more wonderful days as you grow with your daughter.

    (big hugs)

  81. Posted 9/25/2008 at 4:17 pm | Permalink

    Hi Matt~
    I found your blog..somehow. Can’t remember the order of events that led me here. I started at the beginning and read about 1/4 of the way through. I am still reading the archives while following along with your current posts.
    I love this post because you hit the nail on the head with -perspective. All those reading your blog, while they may never experience loss to the same degree you have, will all be reminded of the perspective of life, because of you. You can’t read Matt Logelin’s blog and not be deeply touched, and walk away with a little more perspective. Thanks for sharing, and helping us all to love more deeply.
    Amy – northern cal

  82. mar in the mn
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:28 pm | Permalink

    I can’t believe that the repairman fell through your ceiling…..crazy. Kudos for handling it way better than I would have. I would have been a real assmonkey. It was great to see all of the pictures from the memorial walk. I would have loved to have been there, but I am due with baby #3 at the end of October and can barely make it up two flights of stairs. I hope to attend the second annual walk, I hope it will become a great tradition.

  83. Lopez
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:44 pm | Permalink

    I’m cracking up at the picture with your daughter in her jungle animal car seat…disco limo lights and enough room for a kick ass party in the background.
    :)

  84. Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:50 pm | Permalink

    I admire your restraint with the a/c guys!!!!
    What kind of person won’t appreciate a beautiful baby singing such a cute song???
    How many carseats does Maddy have? This one is cute!

  85. hawkfeather
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 5:56 pm | Permalink

    i dunno if she has many car seats.. they were in a fender bender a while back and I know Matt spoke of replacing the one from the accident..

  86. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:12 pm | Permalink

    Matt, I hope you are getting through today ok, and have your beautiful smiling baby to help you forget the pain the world has to offer.
    Your patience amazes me and I try to take that in my daily life. Not always easy, and doesn’t always happen, but better than not even trying.
    Hope Ms. Madeline has fingers and hands left after this whole teething thing! (and you as well!) :)
    @Jeni in mn, thanks for asking about grandma broccoli…i’ve been wondering but never asked!

  87. Posted 9/25/2008 at 6:43 pm | Permalink

    …a week behind, huh? i don’t remember 1/2 the things i did yesterday :p

  88. Posted 9/25/2008 at 7:20 pm | Permalink

    Thinking of you and your sweet girl today. Hope today was beautiful and she sang some songs for you. Watch it or you’ll be attending her album release party soon ;-) .

    Sending you peace and light, Nena and Reese

  89. DejaVous
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:05 pm | Permalink

    I have been reading your story fom the beginning….I did have a hard time finding the beginning…so worked backwards until I realized I could change the page numbers on top.

    I laughed..I cried, and thought Oh My God…too young to go through all this….but Madeline is the light at the end of the tunnel…how fortunate you are!

    As I read I see you have many followers and guess what I have come up with..a Reality Show with you and Madeline….I have not come up with a title yet…perhaps someone else will be able to. You may not realize it right now but you do lead an interesting life, your pictures show it.

    Would you be interested in starring in your own reality show…showing your trials and tribulations …. and your success in raising your beautiful daughter.

    You might think I am way off base…..but if not a Reality Show……..then perhaps a movie starring you two!

    What do you think…am I being ridiculous or do may thoughts have some merit?

    Canada Girl

  90. Posted 9/25/2008 at 8:20 pm | Permalink

    OMG… I LOVE the baby Vans! Too cute! Hope you had fun in the MN.

  91. Amyinbc
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 10:01 pm | Permalink

    Have a wonderful trip with the gorgeous Madeline.

  92. Sarah from Vancouver
    Posted 9/25/2008 at 11:50 pm | Permalink

    Hey Matt!
    Sorry about the a/c!! I feel partially responsible as my HVAC husband told you that it was fine! Oops!

    Hope you’re able to get it all fixed up!

  93. em
    Posted 9/26/2008 at 12:05 am | Permalink

    What a whacked fucking world we live in.

    I mean, I get the good intention, but I dunno about a Maddy and Daddy reality show. I suspect it’s hard enough for Matt to live through each day just once right now — can’t imagine he’d want THIS reality going into syndication.

    But a wacky sitcom — now there’s a possibility, Matt! You could get a young Greg Evigan/John Stamos to play you, find a pair of future anorexic billionaires to play Maddy, and each episode a different guest celebrity can wear the robot suit — after Kramer Ben gets it dry cleaned, of course. (Prince could be first — he’s just the right size!!)

    And for days like today, you could have “a special heart-warming hour-long episode,” with a soft-focus montage of photos of Liz, set to beautiful music, to entertain the masses who have come to care so very very deeply about you that they sometimes forget you’re just flesh and blood, and far too many very real tears.

    But all I’d really like to see is you continuing to find the strength, humor, and optimism that will allow you to keep doing what you’re doing as [amazingly] well as you’ve been doing it — living your life as best you can, loving your daughter better than any one can, wringing laughs out of crapola, writing on your limbs, finding beauty everywhere, getting support as needed, hawking t-shirts…and recording Maddy’s earliest days for her, so that she’ll know what it’s been like for the two of you, and how very much her mom loved her and is loved.

    Hope today didn’t totally suck. And again, thank you so much, Matt, for letting bazillions of nutty (sometimes compassionate to a fault) strangers into your painful reality. I understand the why, but how you do it, I’ll never know! :-)

  94. em
    Posted 9/26/2008 at 12:22 am | Permalink

    PS: Just to be clear, I totally consider myself among the legions of the nutty. (It’s one of my better qualities actually, so I wasn’t aiming to offend anyone.)

  95. Posted 9/26/2008 at 12:41 am | Permalink

    @Jeni & Joelle
    re: Grandma Broccoli- she’s called that due to Matt’s humor I think. The other Grandma is Grandma Candee (Candy), so I think Grandma Broccoli just seemed like a natural and funny alternative.

  96. Posted 9/26/2008 at 4:55 am | Permalink

    How ya doing Matt? Silly question i know…just wanted to drop in and say hi. Thinking of you and Madeline, give her big squishy hugs from all us strangers/lurkers/stalkers :)

  97. SHANNA in MN
    Posted 9/26/2008 at 5:45 am | Permalink

    Hi Matt & Madeline,

    How about those Twins last night, what an awesome game. Not sure how long you two were in the MN, I hope you were able to go to the game or at least watch it with some great friends at a fun spot….awesome game. Take care, Shanna in EAST GRAND FORKS

  98. Myrna
    Posted 9/26/2008 at 6:16 am | Permalink

    Hi Matt,

    Greetings to you and the gorgeous Madeline.

    She is looking so much like your wife! I showed my dad your blog and I could tell he was about to cry. But know that you and Maddie have a new fan.

    I was just in Puerto Rico last week and thought about the pictures you take. I tried very hard to use your “eye”. I guess we’ll see when I get them developed.

    Are you coming back to the NYC soon?

    Take care,
    Myrna

  99. Posted 9/26/2008 at 6:51 am | Permalink

    Asalamalaykom,

    Loved the line, “i laughed ’cause it wasn’t me.”

    You didn’t fall through the ceiling.

    You didn’t put your kid on the rollers at the x-ray.

    You didn’t scowl at baby karaoke.

    So, go ahead and laugh! You might as well!

    In Islam, we say, “Alhumdulillah,” thanks be to God for everything. Laughing is a simmilar deal, isn’t it? It lightens your heart.

    Anger is the opposite, right? It darkens your heart. You feel oppressed by the weight of the upset.

    Sadness is something all together different. It’s like a transition moment. You want something better than what you have. It’s the readying for the uplift.

    In the begining there was light…no, I mean, yes. But that isn’t where I was going.

    In the beginning, you were angry often. That seems to have subsided. It is so reduced in you that MEN FALLING FROM THE CEILING don’t even get you in a huff. HELLOOOOO! He created a skylight in your closet! But, YOU remained cool. Alhumdulillah.

    Keep it going! Things in motion stay in motion.

    Oh, and I got a teaching job in MN, alhumdulillah! Two days before I was supposed to fly out to Egypt. We’ll still have one year to take the flight (minus $500) and I’m thinking this summer. So, Mr. Matt and Miss Madeline, your invites to Cairo are not rescinded, they are just postponed. Try to get the reality TV show lined up by then!

  100. Posted 9/26/2008 at 7:20 am | Permalink

    Your reaction with the A/C guys seemed really peaceful to me. It’s something that usually would have had my anxiety all riled up but your words “it isn’t the end of the world” just hit me in a way they haven’t before.

    Thanks for that!

  101. Posted 9/26/2008 at 7:52 am | Permalink

    I am digging Madeline’s shoes!

  102. Posted 9/26/2008 at 8:11 am | Permalink

    Hey fucker! Thanks for the eats and drinks last night. Next time it’s on us!!

    Kisses to Maddy!

    Oh and next time, I want some of the Robots junk. We’ll have to tie Kate up and blindfold her for me to get a piece of the meat, but I’m kicking myself for not getting a one on one with him!

  103. Posted 9/26/2008 at 8:16 am | Permalink

    I am usually a day late and a buck short. Happy 6 months to adorable Ms. M, and I hope today brings you new hope for what lies ahead in your future.

    I am generally a lurker, and can now not remember how I came across your blog, but have enjoyed following Ms. M and you along the way. I am sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife Liz, but can tell you as a mother she is oh so proud of the job you have and are doing. You ROCK!!

    Lastly, I counldn’t help but laugh that the A/C guy feel through the ceiling. I would have been pissed, but probably would have been rolling on the floor in laughter.

    Enjoy MN.

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