I’m proud to announce the launch of a very important website:
The Liz Logelin Foundation was established to assist families who find themselves in the heartbreaking, catastrophic situation of having lost a spouse, life-partner, and parent. The Foundation’s goal is to financially assist these families as they deal with the loss of their loved ones, and struggle to move forward. The Foundation was established in 2009 by Matthew Logelin, who lost his wife Elizabeth in 2008.
I hope you’ll come over and take a look.
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Hey!! I’m first
where would I reccomend someone for your foundation to help??? I was just forwarded this ladys blog tonight and think it would be an amazing gift to her and her daughter and unborn child… http://bit.ly/pIy8
Sheenataber@yahoo.com
So, so wonderful. It’s amazing that something so incredible came out of something so heartbreaking.
Wow… I am completely speechless…
For the Love of Liz is so touching…
this is amazing.
WOW… what a great thing! Congrats!
That’s beyond amazing…
Perfect. Amazing.
It’s beautiful, Matt. Just amazing.
Awesome. Just awesome.
Brought tears to my eyes.
I am a young widow with two small children.
I have been wanting to do something, a benefit run with/for my kids in the their daddy’s name. But where would the money go?He died very suddenly, from a blood clot. I didn’t want to raise money for blood clot awareness, I wanted to do something for other people going through what we were going through. To help others not feel so alone.
And now, we can do something in Liz’s name, raise money to help other families like ours.
Beautiful. Just beautiful. Thank you.
So awesome, a wonderful way to honor a wonderful woman.
I’ve never commented before .. but just like everyone else became an avid reader after someone linked me here, and I have to say that I find it simply astounding that you’re taking the pain you’ve faced/are facing and turning it into something outstanding and beautiful.
It’s unbelievable to me the way people have rallied around you, and that you have then been equipped to rally around others who do not have the support system that you have been so blessed by. Way to go! Best of luck.
Becky
Wow – I’m in awe.
bravo! love, strength, courage, etc … wishing you maddy all the best!
Just wonderful
this is really wonderful, matt
AJ, you are ::awesomesauce::. This is GORGEOUS. What a wonderful effort on the part of so many.
fantastic!
I donated what I could right now. I iwish it could be more. I left an abusive marriage. Yes, it was by choice sort of, but not my choice to be cheated on, verbally and physically abused. I felt parts of me dying and watched my mariage die. I saved myself and my kids.
I wish there was more people like you to start things like this. I had no clue what I was going to do. Had my power shut off, house in and out of foreclosure, behind on every bill imaginable, looking for work with zero self esteem. This resource will help in more ways than you will know. A few extra hundred in the bank would have put me in a totally different mental place. I want to help someone in any situation feel better like that.
I am remarried and expecting. We have kids now and both of us upped out life insurance (in my case – got some). We did that because of what happened to you and Madeline and I realized how your situation paralleled mine in the mental and financial turmoil a life can be thrown in overnight. I literally left with clothes on our backs.
This is amazing and Madeline will be very proud to be part of this someday. What a great legacy for you to start to honor your wife and her mother.
Peace and Love.
This is such a great idea. I have been following since the Star Trib article. Never commented before, but this whole story is so amazing. And the way you are now giving back to others in memory of Liz…all i can say is wow. She must have been a wonderful person. You are a great person Matt, and Madi is lucky to have you as her daddy.
Wow, Matt. Truly awesome. Whether you realize it all the time or not, you ARE a source of strength for many people. This just proves and facilitates that even more.
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In a word, fabulous.
What a beautiful tribute for such a beautiful woman.
Congratulations to everyone who made this possible!
this simply awesomesauce.
I will pray for an OVER-ABUNDANCE of ‘supply’ to meet the need.
despite whatever it may seem otherwise, there is so much good in this world and in other people. congratulations to you…what a beautiful gift to others, and how amazing for maddy to grow up knowing the power of charity and love in this way!
Hi Matt and Madeline
I have been reading for so long and have posted once or twice but I was so proud when I saw the website. You are an amazing person and despite only knowing you through this blog I am so proud of you for turning this tragedy into something good.
Sending big hugs from Australia.
Vicky
Such a beautiful Page. I put the donation widget on my Xanga (I get more traffic there) The interview got me teary eyed.
You are an awesome Husband and Daddy!
Keep up the wonderful work!
I often think about you guys and how much life can change in a blink. I treasure my kids more than anything and would hate to ever leave them. If I did I’d hope that my husband would approach things the way you do. =) You are very inspiring!
Wow, I’m so proud of you Matt. Out of your greatest sadness has come something wonderful- a way to help others in need. You truly are an example of “paying it forward”. I hope nothing but good karma continues your way. I hope Madeline will realize just what an extraordinary father she has.
it’s beautifully done, Matt, and such a great and noble thing to do.
I have a question. Does the foundation including losing a spouse to divorce too? I ask because I was in the situation where I was left with three kids due to divorce and times were very hard. Also, there are stay at home mothers who were suddenly thrown into that situation and find themselves in dire straits because they relied on their husband’s income which is then gone. It’s very hard because they can’t collect life insurance like some can with the death of a spouse. There are no benefits to collect from their spouse’s work, from social security, etc. They have to scramble to find work, only to get something that pays minimum wage. I am in a better position now than I was before, and I would like to help others who are where I was. I would like to make a donation that would help divorced women, but am not sure if the foundation covers that.
When you use the power of love to help others this is the result to you obtain!….Congrats to all who help Matt to make this “real”…Special mention to ALL the creeps who are constantly working and helping….You know that I’m so proud of you!.
BTW, People article is A.W.E.S.O.M.E! (a little bit sorry that did not mention the “international” repercussion of this story)
Love and peace to ALL of you
Sol
I iwish it could be more. I left an abusive marriage. Yes, it was by choice sort of, but not my choice to be cheated on, verbally and physically abused. I felt parts of me dying and watched my mariage die. I saved myself and my kids.
I wish there was more people like you to start things like this. I had no clue what I was going to do. Had my power shut off, house in and out of foreclosure, behind on every bill imaginable, looking for work with zero self esteem. This resource will help in more ways than you will know. A few extra hundred in the bank would have put me in a totally different mental place.
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Michelle, I am sorry you went through that. I understand. It is a terrible time. My ex husband had an affair and left. Not only did I lose my mate of 20 years, but the stress of money was enough to put anyone over the edge. I worked from home but times were still very hard. During that time my friend’s husband passed away. She had benefits from her husband’s work and also collected life insurance. People threw benefit dinners for her too. Years later people still rally around her to see if she needs anything. I had joined a divorce support group and saw the total opposite take place. People did not rally around women going through divorce. There was no support nor financial help for them. For a while, I have been looking for a charity that helps mothers who lost husbands to divorce, but have not found anything. I hope this foundation covers divorce too because I would like to help.
i love the site! i went straight to the facebook group only to get kicked in the crotch to learn it was a “closed group” and i couldn’t join!
i have followed this blog since last april when i read about it in star trib! let me in! 
Congratulations. Thank you for letting the rest of us share Liz’s memory with you.
totally awesome….
I am so excited to see this come to be… just amazing!
You rock Matt.
What an awesome way to honor Liz!
So so awesome. I am teary just thinking about it. What a wonderful tribute.
What an awesome site Matt. I will definately be donating to this foundation. I got my People magazine last night in the mail. I immediately read the article. It was so awesome seeing you and princess Maddy in the magazine. Have a good weekend!!!!
It is remarkable what you have accomplished in such a short period of time.
The site is wonderful.
…and the world becomes a better place, for the love of Liz.
this is incredible, matt. i just added the widget to my blog!
Congrats to you (and all the helpers) on getting everything up and running! The site is wonderful, and I love the logo too! I hope this is the start of wonderful things to come. And I can’t wait to grab an issue of People today!
Congratulations Matt! What a great site! I’m excited to share your great foundation with everyone I know
First of all, I am completely blown away by your voice. Not at all what I expected! You are a great dad! I love reading your blog. Keep on keep’n on!
Brava! and God’s purpose will be served even through the most tragic circumstances!!
Matt and AJ, awesome so awesome! I can’t believe how this came to be. It’s such a fitting tribute to what obviously was a most amazing woman. I wish I could have met her and been a part of your lives. You are amazing people. Hugs and kisses to Madeline. Best wishes!
I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes. Liz’s website is outstanding and the help that you will provide to families in a similar situation makes me speechless and proud to “know” you. You are truly good people, Matt.
PS…thanks for the widget. I made sure to add it to my blog.
Its such a beautiful site.
Matt-
Madeline is going to grow up to be such a wonderful, selfless child. What a great and powerful way to honor her mother and your wife. My donation will be made soon. I will add your widget to my blog and pass all the info on to my message boards. You Rock!
I’ve been reading this blog since April 2008. I think Liz would be honored and humbled by the foundation. I already added the widget to my blog. What a truly selfless act!
Matt,
you totally rocked it out-the foundation site is perfect! I love thepic of Liz with her cowboy hat too. You made it personal and warm yet still professional, so so awesome!!!
(((((HUGS)))))) to you and Madeline!
beyond words
You’re an amazing man Matt.
awesome
awesome
awesome
You blow me away Matt…that is SO awesome.
I will be telling EVERYBODY about your foundation AND I’ll be buying my People magazine today!!!
Take care and hugs to Miss Madeline
Congratulations. I am going to go visit the site now. You have done an amazing thing, out of such a shitty situation.
Beautiful.
Thanks to all the creeps who have worked so hard to make this happen…it is beyond amazing.
Matt, you continue to inspire. You’re carving something good out of the unspeakably painful…and oh, yeah…raising a little girl (and doing a damn good job of it, from the looks of her). Have a fabulous weekend!
I don’t comment much, but I wanted to say that the site is wonderful and you are doing just great things! I have spread the word as best I can. You are amazing! Much love to you and Maddy!
Your family is beautiful. I’m a new reader and just came on. My husband and I have lost three children (our twins and our little boy) due to premature birth. The grief, as you know, is immense.
I’m keeping you guys in my thoughts.
This is so amazing, Matt! Congratulations on getting everything set up. What an awesome thing you’re doing.
{Putting on my eskimo gear to go get my People Magazine!!}
This is so awesome. I love the website. Good luck with everything.
I’ve been lurking for a long time. I had to de-lurk to tell you congratulations on getting the foundation going! You are truly amazing and Madeline is lucky to have such a loving and compassionate father.
one word~WONDERFUL
Great job on the site, AJ.
Matt, you continue to amaze us and are such an inspiration. It’s a great thing you did here .. For the Love of Liz. For Maddy. And for the families you will help. Your efforts and thoughtfulness even in the saddest of circumstances says so much about what a great person you are. Thank you for sharing all of this with us.
Hugs to you and Maddy.
This is so awesome! I’ll do my part to try and spread the word!
Wow. What a wonderful way to honor Liz.
Amazing job Matt!
I added the widget to my site 
@lisa – if you send a message to the creator of the facebook page, she’ll probably approve you to be in the group!!
I just learned about this through People. What a moving story, it brought tears to my eyes!
I had to laugh at putting Maddy down in her clothes! Sometimes I put my kids to bed in their clothes for the next day, to save time in the morning before I have to take them to daycare.
You just keep giving her all of the love you possibly can. That alone will make her thrive and flourish. Don’t worry about skipped baths or dirty clothes!
Keep up the incredible job, parenting is the most rewarding challenge anyone can ever know!
I couldn’t leave very much right now, but I made the small donation that I could. I will try to donate periodically. I’ve been following your blog for a long time… I think what you’re doing is wonderul. I hope the foundation is very successful.
Matt, this is further proof that not only were you so blessed to have Liz in your life, but that Liz and Madeline are equally as blessed to have had you. You are truly amazing.
God Bless You.
Wonderful. I made sure to add it to my favorites. As soon as I have a bit of money come in, I am sending it over. Oh and I can’t wait to see the People Magazine article!!!
Well done! Donated a little something this morning, hope you have a ton of money already!
AJ-
Your attention to the website made it look amazing! Thank you for helping.
Can’t wait to see what this year brings in store for Matt , Maddy and everyone that will benefit from this.
This is fantastic! I can’t wait to see how it takes off. You are making something amazing out of something so terrible. It’s people like you, that make the world a better place. Maddy is a lucky, lucky little girl and Liz would be so freakin proud. Congrats on getting it running and I will be donating soon and finding out how to help. <3
I’ve been reading your blog for a while now. Madeline and my Seth are 4 days apart. I’ve added the widget to my blog.
It looks amazing Matt. What an honor it is to be able to look over your shoulder as you write the next page of your love letter to Liz and Madeline. You really should be so proud of what you have accomplished.
Words can not express how very proud I am. You really are so amazing. I hate how this all came to be, but I am happy to hear you are making a bad situation good for many suffering the same hardships.
Seriously cannot stop the tears! This is so incredibly amazing. My donation is on it’s way. Please let me know what else I can do.
Incredible. Taking something horribly tragic and turning it into something good for others is an amazing gift.
Good job Matt & Friends.
Rosie (In San Jose)
Congratulations…just wonderful! I’ve already added the widget to my blog. Great job!
Lisa in Pittsburgh
OMG, I just got my People in the mail. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes like a proud Grandma or something!!! What a wonderful article, Matt! I’m so proud of you, and so enthralled with Maddy….
I am so, so proud of you. Sounds ridiculous considering that I don’t know you, but you’ve taken a terrible tragedy and within it found a desire to ease the pain of others. You are an incredible human being.
Can’t wait to pick People up tonight… Sending much love from myself & my Madeline to you & yours.
Congratulations! It is an amazing foundation… will be adding the widget to my blog.
Sir,
I have just finished reading your article in People Magazine. I normally don’t pic it up, because it is my mothers,however, I did, God only knows why. I wish you the best in that all that you do, and I hope that God is with you. Your blogs have touched me, and I hope that you continue to do what you do. You amaze me. You give credit to many people. I thank you, and hope to do what I can. I love children, but I am only 16, and hope to have the magic that you have, but at a later date.
awesome awesome awesome!!!!! I’m happy for you guys!
And I see Julie’s mention of People Magazine. I’ll have to go grab that.
take care!
Congratulations Matt! The site is amazing and so is what you are doing for others. It is so heartwarming and inspiring when something good can come out of something so tragic. Thank you and all the creepy internet broads who worked so hard to make this happen.
Congratulations on the foundation and getting the website up! It looks beautiful. I will definitely be making some donations and running in future LLG5Ks.
also, congrats on the people article! You guys look great! Just remember the little people when you guys make it big
Loved the article Matt! You are an amazing father!! Can’t wait to hear about Mexico. I just got back and was shocked into reality with this crazy 22 below zero here in the Twin Cities!
I just read your story in this months people magazine. You are very inspiring man and I pray that some day you will find love again and a good women like Madeline’s mother to love your daughter also. Your daughter will have such a memory book because of you that will be wonderful and I am sure when she realizes all you did for her and raised her alone she will in return take care of her Daddy when he needs it. I know it looks bleck now but there is a reason for everything in life yes it sucks I know, but you will be rewarded in the end…I’ve been though hard times also and time does make the pain eaiser no, it never really goes away but is simmers a bit. You keep raising that beautiful girl and she will be someone someday because of you and you will be someone greater because of her. She is happy you can tell by her pics you doing a fine job….
Mat I seen your add in the startribune in Minnesota. I also see your great artical in People. Thanks for writting how you feel. I have a friend that lost her husband in a car accident. She has 4 kids the youngest just turned 1. I feel so bad for her. We never plan to loose someone we love so young. Thanks for helping people. God Bless. unzens6-animals.blogspot.com
The site looks fantastic, AJ! A big thanks to Teal of Teal Designs who made the ::awesomesauce:: logo. This is exciting stuff!!!
It looks great, Matt! While you can’t bring back Liz, I know this foundation will help her spirit live on and help the many people who find themselves in an unthinkable situation like you. Way to make lemonade out of the sour, rotten, awful lemons you were dealt!
I’m having a hard time finding the right People magazine. Which one is he and Maddy in? I could only find the January 19th edition with John Travolta on the cover, but couldn’t find Matt. Please help!
mrsadlich@yahoo.com THANKS!
This is great. BTW the People article is great. Although I am a stranger I feel as though I know you and Maddy as well as anyone. I am one of those 40,000 people who check the blog daily.
Beautiful. Thank you.
Matt… I just read your article in People magazine and it hit a very sensitive nerve in my heart! One that will remain for the rest of my life… We have much in common! I lost my husband 2 days after our first son was born and my life went off course for serveral years! I never realized how difficult that time of my life was, as I kept reminding myself, God never gives you more that you can handle. He obviously realized I was strong enough to endure such an emotional upheaveal in my life, but I had my doubts!!! Your daughter is beautiful and is a beautiful reminder of your dear wife! It was her gift to you.
It would be so nice to talk to you and share very similar emotions, feelings and experiences! I hope to hear back from you!
Lovely, lovely page and tribute. Congratulations to all of you who worked so hard to get that together – I know that there are so many peices that need to come together for a project such as this. I have added the widget to my little website and hope that it may help to contribte to those who need.
I know that my husband and I live a bit differently since “knowing” Matt, Madeline and Liz.
The love of life and a life of love are amazing! Thanks so much!
Can I just say that the People Magazine article kicked some major ass? It was great to read – and the pictures were AWESOME (as always)! You guys are superstars!
The website for liz came out beautiful. <3 I also read the article in People mag today. Matt you have truly touched the lives of so many through your story.
I just read your article in People and I cried through it! I felt so honored and almost proud having read since the start of it all. You are such an amazing person and I’m so happy to be able to share in it all. It’s just so bitter sweet. Maddy is the most adorable baby ever and she’s so lucky to have such an incredible father.
I read your story in People magazine this week and I logged onto your website and was just amazed by the photos, your beautiful daughter and your story. My Grandmother passed away due to a blood clot in her lungs so I understand the suddeness of what happed in your life. There are no words that I can say that would ever come close to what you must be feeling but to me it seems like Madeline has a wonderful father who loves her and will always be there. Your photos of her are beautiful and just your photos in general are messmerizing. I will keep looking at your photos and seeing how little Madeline is doing!
WOW! Just flipping through People today and there you are! I feel like I’m looking at someone I know…so weird. You, my friend, are such an amazing daddy. Keep up the great work!
I’ve been waiting for the People article to come out ever since you told us about it, and the 14-degree-weather could not deter me from obtaining a copy. This is so cool.
I added the Liz Logelin Foundation widget to my blog! I can’t generate as much traffic as People, but I can try.
Hi Matt! I hope that your trip is going swimmingly! Just wanted to say the article in People was beautiful I am sure you’ll attract many more followers from it. Who wouldn’t want to check out more about your beautiful girls?
Sending peace and light (I’ll send more if you send a bit of Mexican warmth to Northern MN
), Nena and Reese
it’s just perfect. absolutely perfect.
Hi, Matt! I just discovered your blog — My husband read about it and told me to check it out today. I loved that you got a Christmas tree and decorated it for Maddy (and I burst out laughing when I saw the robot ornaments on the tree!) — I love that you are taking so many pics and videos along your journey. Both of our 2 sons are grown and I love to look back on those pics of them growing through the years because they grow up so quickly and we rarely had the time back then to relish each precious moment with them! Hold on to each other, your friends and family — and keep on writing and snapping those pics! Big hugs to you and Maddy – KT in San Jose
What an awesome way to remember Liz!! Way to go Matt!
so awesome – this kind of attention will so freaking good for the foundation! i love, love, love that they used your pictures in so much of the article!
Congratulations Matt!!! You all did an amazing job on the site…
Also, what a beautiful article in People today….Love that they showcased all of your amazing photos….
hugs-
Katie
Very cool foundation in Liz’s name. I just clicked over and gave a little bit. What a great cause…
No love for the robot in People, eh? Someone always gets left behind when you make it big…
A friend drove me to the dr. today and while she waited, she read People. When I came out of the office, she excitedly said, ” This sounds just like that blog you have been telling everyone they need to read.” The foundation will help many!!
Huge kudos to Matt and all your family/friends for making the best out of the shittiest situation. What a tribute to Liz and her legacy. It’s crystal clear that Maddy has two incredible parents- she’s a lucky girl.
WOW! The foundation site is fantastic! I know this will help so many people who may think no one has noticed their struggle.
Way to go Matt!!!
Congratulations on the website for LLF!!! Liz has got to be SO proud looking down on you guys. BTW, my People magazine arrived today and I loved the article!
Awesome site! Wow. You continue to amaze me.
What a wonderful way to honor your wife! Your blog makes me laugh and cry (sometimes all in one post!).
Your strength and determination are inspiring. Keep up the good work !
BTW I love the People article too – beautiful pictures!
Matt…congrats on LLF. I love the site and the spread in People was really done well.
Congrats! That is such an awesome and amazing site! Liz I know is SOO proud of you both right now! Way to go Matt!
That is so wonderful to see…just wonderful!
Matt,
You are simply inspirational. You and Maddy are a force to be reckoned with.
i have been reading from day one. this just brought me to tears. to see it become a reality. congrats on all that you have done
Congratulations Matt!
This is a wonderful idea, I am so glad that you are paying it forward!
I am glad you get to share this with the world!
What a wonderful and beautiful way to honor Liz! It’s wonderful that something so amazing can come out of something so horrific. Liz would be proud.
Congrats on the foundation. What a wonderful thing you are doing for other families. I’ve been following you blog for the past 6 or 7 months and to see you in People was awesome. The article was great and it was nice to see your pictures. I know the article is going to be great for LLF
AWESOME! I have checked out the Foundation and it is SO great. I love that you are turning a tragedy into a miracle for some out there that will benefit from the LLF!
YAY MATT! So proud! Hope you and Madeline are doing well and so is your fam in the MN, I thought about them with these temperatures being so COLD! We have even had 12F in MS, thats a record!
oh, I sent a facebook request for the LLF group!
Matt, Congrats on the foundation. What a beautiful way to honor Liz and help other families. I’ve been reading your blog since you first appeared on STORKED! and the People spread was outstanding. Hope you and Maddy are enjoying Mexico with the family. Can’t wait to hear all about it and see the pics! Have fun and take care! XO
Congratulations on the foundation–a touching way to honor Liz and help so many others. The article in People magazine was amazing. I wondered back when they did the shoot if it was for People–a perfect place to tell your story and spread the word. Thanks for continuing to share your life with others. I hope you and Maddy are having fun in Mexico!
Another quick check-in today…
I bought my People magazine and COULD NOT for the life of me wipe the damn smile off my face as I was reading the article…I (along with MANY others I’m sure) am so proud of everything you’ve accomplished. Props to you.
Also…you have to wonder if People’s magazine sales will go up slightly higher this month because all of your stalker friends are going out and buying one just cuz you’re in it
Hi Matt and Madeline! I feel like I know you guys personally lol I’ve been showing everyone at my store your layout in People magazine. We’re so proud to say your a hometown guy from our neck of the woods! Gorgeous photos of the sweet babe, as usual. Liz would be so proud. I gladly have the button to the foundation on my blog. Keep up the phenomenal job Matt. Never doubt yourself!
Wow. Congratulations on the foundation. What an incredible gesture to honor Liz’s memory.
I’m proud, to “know” you!
Maddy is absolutely gorgeous. I just read the article in People. I couldn’t stop crying and I’m still crying. I have three children, Sierra, 8, Hudson, 1 1/2, and Melia 7 months. I feel sad for Liz’s death, and for your loss, and for Maddy not being able to bond physically with her mom and for Liz not being able to bond with Maddy and do all the things that I am able to do with my kids. I am sure Maddy has double the love, care, and attention that she deserves from you, her loving dad. Keep doing what you are doing. It’s admirable.
You rock Matt!
Matt. I am sorry that I am Vista retarded. Or Outlook retarded as it may be.
Blame it on the extreme cold
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And no AJ, extreme is under the 15 below wind chills here, not what you have lol.
((hugs))
You are a much better writer than you give yourself credit for. If you make it to Australia it would be great to chat photography and kids, I think you write with light just as well as you write with ink – best of luck with your new foundation, I will be sure to pass it on to anyone that you could help… from a mother/photographer in Sydney
http://sweetcarolinebaby.blogspot.com/
congratulations and god bless your heart, matt. [and everyone else involved] i’ve been a faithful reader for the past 7 months [1st time commenter] and i feel honored to be able to take joy in your accomplishments. you have such a big heart and all the people who follow you and your story are just as equally amazing for everything they have contributed as well. you inspire people to do and find good in horrible situations, and for that, matt logelin, i praise you.
someone needs to call oprah. she needs to know about you.
awesome, awesome, awesome.
hope you two are enjoying the warmth. it’s actually supposed to get to 20 degrees here today. have a great rest of the trip.
aj : stellar job on all you have done! it all turned out great!
Caught the People Magazine article. Your family and close friends must be practically bursting with pride! It seems like “double edged sword” is truly a fitting description of your life at this point. As a “creepy” reader I continue to be amazed at the twists and turns you life has traversed since that original Star Tribune article…what a crazy, crazy ride.
By the way, the logo for your foundation is lovely…serious props to the creative mind behind it.
Matt,
Congrats on getting the foundation up and running! So great. I haven’t read the article yet, planning on going out today to get it, but it is a balmy -1 here today ! Hope you are having a great time in Mexico! Can’t wait o hear about it!
Take care,
Debbie
Words cant even describe how wonderful you are!
May god be with you and your beautiful child!
That’s amazing!! Congrats on getting it up and running!
And congrats on your article in People magazine! My people came in the mail yesterday and I was so excited to see you and Madeline in there! Great article and beautiful pictures!
What a wonderful tribute to Liz. I bought People yesterday just to see your article…I loved it and cried reading it even though I’m a regular blog follower!! I loved all the pictures and was so touched by it all! Thinking of you!
I just picked up a copy of People today, and have been showing it to everyone. “I know him! Well, not really, but kinda, and isn’t it awesome!” They did a fabulous job and the pictures of Maddy are spectacular. Wouldn’t Liz be thrilled to see her baby girl in PEOPLE? Congrats!
Your highlighted quote from the magazine article:
“It is so unfair that Liz can’t have these moments every day.”
OMG…how I get that. That is what I think so often when thinking about my late daughter. Why can’t they be here to have these moments they had every right to have, to want?? Sometimes, I feel guilt for feeling sad about me, when it is really about the moments each day she can’t have…not what I am left with.
So unfair….so unfair.
I haven’t commented since June, but I have been continuing to read updates! It’s my favorite work past-time! I just wanted to let you know that I was at the gym today in good old Minnesota and I looked down the line of treadmills and all I saw was your face in the magazine! Pretty sure People will see an increase in sales this week!
I have been following your journey since the beginning and think this is WONDERFUL!!! i can’t even imagine how proud Liz is of not only the great job you are doing with madeline but of all the awesome things you have done for others in her name..
Congrats Matt!
How wonderful to put something back into society — to turn a wretched situation around by creating good for other people who will follow in your path.
Hemingway once described heroism as “grace under pressure”. And you qualify using this and any other definition I could think of.
Spirits up, and with best wishes and much admiration.
WoW! Beautiful tribute to Liz.
Three years ago today I held my daughter
for the first time. My heart aches that Liz
was one very special mommy who never
had that opportunity.
Liz will never be forgotten, and whenever
I think of her or you or Madeline, I know
that moments with my girl are to be
cherished.
God’s continued peace and blessings!
Great article (and photos) in People. You’ve hit the big time now. Well with Maddy’s help anyway.
Wonderful to see all the great things that are coming out of a senseless tragedy.
Hi Matt…This is a beautiful tribute, I am so happy I stumbled upon it. I too lost my spouse. We have a baby girl as well, ironically Madylyn…we call her Mady. My husband was killed in a car accident on Christmas day 2007 when we hit ice and rolled our SUV…my life changed forever in that moment as you know all too well…like you I couldn’t just curl up in a ball, I had a baby girl to raise and I was the only parent she had left…I think it’s great that you are doing what you can to make sure Maddy knows what happened in your lives after her mommy went to be with God in Heaven…we do a lot of things to try an make sure Mady knows who daddy is…I have a blog that I started a month after Jess passed away, I wanted to make sure she knew that I didn’t take her for granted and that even through the pain I still experienced life with her and made the best out of it that I could. I have a journal that I write letters to Jess in so she will have those when she is older and will know my personal journey…I have a memory journal that I am working on filling up with memories of her daddy…and of course the pictures…luckily I am a picture fanatic, I took over 10,000 pics her first year so I have a ton of pics of her with daddy, I know you don’t have that luxury, but you do have the pics of your life together, the pictures are so important, Mady is able to point our daddy in any picture and she was only 10 months old when he was killed, but she knows who daddy was and always will…From the tiny bit I have read so far I can really relate to what you are going through…your year mark is coming up soon and it will be tough, but you will make it…if you ever need anything please contact me cthompson0307@yahoo.com even if it’s just to say hi…I know you have a huge support network, but it never hurts to have another friend out there. Take care and God Bless!
Carrie
Dearest Matt,
My heartfelt sympothy goes out to you and your BEAUTIFUL daughter. But WOW what an amazing father!! I read your article in people magazine and was so touched by your story! For a long time I was a single mom and had to deal with so much on own. It’s hard but you should be so proud of yourself!! Matt your daughter will grow up just adoring you for all you have done to keep her mothers memory alive!! great job!! dad of the year award should definaltley go to you!!
Dear Matt:
I haven’t ever posted on someones blog before but after reading the article about you and your beautiful daughter I just had to tell you how much I admire you and your strength. I know how hard it is to be a single parent. Keep up the good work, you are doing a great job!
Caitlin I emailed Oprah…
I hope that doesn’t piss you off Matt but your story has touched so many people it is amazing.
I read the People article and it was wonderful, but Matt PLEASE no reality shows…they are evil!
So happy to hear that you got to spend some quality/quite time with Maddy on the beach in Mexico…what a wonderful time for reflection!
I have requested to add the Liz Logelin foundation to my facebook page, I will pass the link on to my friends requesting that each donate $5-$10 each…Imagine if we all did that?? This could be big Matt!
Hope the sun is shining on you and Maddy bringing you peace and joy!
So excited for this foundation and the article in People Magazine. I was so proud.
Thanks to everyone who has helped put this together. It is amazing what this foundation can/will do for people and families in need.
Matt: Your Blogs is really great. As I watch my brother take care of his daughter Sophia Jacalyn Rose who’s mother also died right after child birth I think of you and the many others who are in the same situation. When it first happened we all thought why would this happen to us. You never hear of this happening. Who would think that should a joyous occasion would end so tradically. Well since this has happend on June 13th 2008, I have heard of 4 other men that also lost their wives. . That is awesome that you took Maddy to Mexico. We had a trip planned to go to Puerto Rico in November but we cancealled at the last minute. Not sure if the baby was ready to travel. We are planning on leaving in March. Would love for you to contact us, my brother (48) is a first time father like you raising a little girl. Jackie also died from an embolism but her’s came only 1 hour after Sophia was born. We had to take Sophia to the hospital today, the same hospital where her mother died and there are so many emotions you feel. As we were leaving we heard someone outside the hospital expressing their happiness about a new baby that was just born a few minutes earlier and her name was Maria Sophia. We never got to feel that joy. I know that sounds bad because Sophia brings us much happiness but since you have been in the same position I know you understand. Once again I am attaching a link to a video I made for Sophia. When you get back from your trip and have a free moment please watch it. Next time you are in Chicago we would love to meet with you. God bless you and your daughter. Maddy and Sophia were blessed to be given such great fathers.
Rosann Horist
http://www.onetruemedia.com/shared?p=786083f5ea3aa9a2227af5&skin_id=1704&utm_source=otm&utm_medium=text_url
Saw you in People — wow there were tons of pics! All of them completely adorable (even though I’ve seen almost all of them before!!) Keep it up, you’re doing a great thing and I love checking in on you and Madeline!
I just read your story in People Magazine and it touched me deeply! My husband and I are trying to have a child of our own and its been a rough journey- but I keep hearing the strong will survive, and you and your daughter are super hero strong!
much much love to you and yours
Just read the people article. It was wonderful. Beautiful pics of all of you.
I just emailed Oprah as well. The more people that we can get to email the better the chances are that Matt and Maddy can share their story and the donations to the foundations would skyrocket
Matt,
My heart goes out to you and your beautiful daughter Madeline.
Having experienced loss, I know what your going through. You have a bitter-sweet situation. Your wife death was not in vain. She left you with a legacy and its wonderful that you keep her memory alive. God bless you and your family
The People article was AWESOME – the writer did a superb job!! However, I wondered if the robot was a little jealous that he didn’t get a mention?
I’m sure your story will have a positive impact on so many people and the foundation is going to do great things. Liz is so proud!!!
OMG! Matt and Maddy are in People magazine! I’m probably behind on this… I’m sure it’s been mentioned and I just haven’t read it! I was so excited when I opened the magazine and saw their picture! YAY Matt!
Hey Matt! I finally found the right People magazine. (I guess they are a little slower at getting the current one on the shelf in ND!) The article and pictures are awesome. I was talking to my husband about it like you and Maddy were old friends….I was so excited! Love it! Again, you are such an amazing man to turn such a terrible tragedy into such a wonderful cause that will help so many people for years to come. Bravo Matt, bravo.
What a beautiful tribute to Liz and your family. You are an inspiration to all parents and one heck of a dad.
SO PROUD OF YOU AND YOUR HELPER-ELVES!
It looks GREAT and you’re doing a wonderful thing. CONGRATS for making the world a better place in the name of Liz and Maddy!
Hi Matt and Madeline. I was introduced to your blog from another blogger probably just over a week ago. I’ve spent the last week reading it from beginning to current at every spare moment I could. It was like reading a great but sad book, waiting to find out what is up in your world these days. I must say that Madeline is quite possibly the cutest baby girl I have ever seen! I can say that, as I only have a boy.
No one should ever, ever, ever, have to go through what you’ve been through, but I must say you’ve handled it in such an amazing and inspiring way. Long before the foundation came about, I was inspired by just your every day getting through life. I don’t know that many men could just pick up and do as amazing as you’ve done/are doing with Maddy. It’s funny to read your blog, as it seems that you and my husband have so many little things in common. He has an intense love for music as do you, and I’m sure would grieve much the same way if I were to pass. I roll my eyes quite frequently at it too. 
He loves robots, taking pictures of objects more than people, the same type of art you like, etc. I love the style maddy’s dressed in all the time, and am totally a fan of the onesie over the pants look! I had never thought about that before, but never did like the look of pants over the onesie. 
I could say so much, but it would all be rambly like this, and probably sound sort of stalker-y. 
But, you’re doing a great job, I’m so amazed, impressed, inspired. Your blog has helped me to try and not get so frustrated by little dissapointments in life–to look at my 4 year old and my messy husband and love them love them love them instead of getting frustrated by their candy wrappers on the floor, their music blaring while I’m trying to watch the tv, etc. I can’t wait to keep reading and getting to know the two of you better (there goes that stalker-y speak again). Thanks for doing this, for putting your life out there, to remind us all how fleeting life can be, how special our friends and family and children are, and how no one is guaranteed another day. Thanks, Matt.
Matt,
You are one ROCKIN’ DADDY!!
What an awesome tribute to Liz. You have shown us once again what a beautiful soul you have.
Madeline will be very proud of you.
AWESOME article in People. It was perfect. How could it not be with all those beautiful pictures. Thank you SO much for sharing Liz and Madeline with us. You are an amazing Dad. Madeline will love all the memories you are preserving for her.
God bless,
Kathy
The People magazine article is perfect, how totally awesome! Hope you’re having a great time in Mexico. Can’t wait to see all the pictures!
Paying it forward..many graces will bless yours and Maddy’s lives.
Wow – the site for the foundation is wonderful. I am certain Liz would have loved the pic you chose of her in her hat – such a great picture. You are amazing. God will use the foundation for great things and at the same time I hope it eases your grief just a little to help those who are walking where you have already walked.
The people article rocked! As others have said, I felt like a proud sister or something instead of someone you’ve never met. {smile}
Hope y’all are having a GREAT vacation in Mexico. Can’t wait to read all about it.
what a tribute to liz! I saw the article in People and its so awesome, how many people you manage to touch everyday with yours and maddy’s life. Your fucking awesome matt! Keep up the good work dad!
I read about you in People magazine. Wow, what a great daddy you are. Maddy is a very lucky little girl and the way you are remembering her mother is just awesome. Too bad the world can not have more good daddies like you. For all the deadbeat daddies, cheaters and liars, you should all be ashamed and be more like Matt. God bless you and Maddie, you are so love & I will keep you in my prayers always!
Thank you for sharing. A little over a year ago I was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer. Its a tumor in my spinal chord that is terminal. I am a 46 year old male, married, with a 5 year old girl that loves me like crazy, and an 8 year old boy that thinks I will always be here. Your story tears me up. Id like to post your story on my blog if you dont mind http://www.cancerforum.wordpress.com
or I can post your link if you would prefer.
Read your story in a magazine at the dentist office today. I am so sorry for your loss. So as I sat there with tears streaming down my face I also had a huge smile. You are one amazing man!! What a wonderful daddy! maddy is so lucky to have you. You have been through soooo much and have stepped up to the plate to be the best parent your daughter can have. You should feel so proud. I love that you are keeping track of your life story for your daughter to read later. Be sure to keep the pictures up to date with the stories!! I will add you to my prayers! Congrats to you on being the best daddy you can be!!!!!
Stacey
Wow, Matt. Lots of new *creeps*. Amazing.
I’m a long time reader, first time poster. I remember when my girl was born, I was trying to get her arms into one of those long-sleeve kimono-style shirts they wear as newborns. I couldn’t get her arms in and I was forcing them in and it looked kind of unnatural. I apologized out loud to her for not knowing how to dress her (I had no prior experience with kids). But then I realized, and said out loud, “You don’t know the difference! You’ve never had any other parents to put one of these on you!”
Keep doing your best, it’s all you can do, and your best is awesome. You rock.
Paying it forward is a wonderful way to give. You will have many blessings in return. Your story was truly one of inspiration and courage. I know I may be one of thousands who feel this way. I just read about you in People magazine and I cant express how truly sorry i am to hear what happend to you and your daughter. Please know if there is anything we can do and millions of us would let me know. I pray God continues to give you the strength you need to raise your beautiful daughter.
ok, so weird and stalker -esk… but last night I dreamt that I met you and madeline for a movie.
I figured that is a sign that I read to many blogs….
I hope all is well.
Matt, I wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss. I am so touched by your story. My niece had her beautiful little girl on October 24, 2008 and 4 days later my niece died. She too had a c-section and we are waiting on autopsy results (still 3 months later). We believe the Dr. did something to cause internal bleeding. My niece leaves behind a husband and three small children (ages 6yrs, 4yrs and the new baby).
God has blessed you with this beautiful legacy of your wife. You are a strong man and will help your wife’s memory live on through your little girl.
God bless.
Hi Matt…
Congrats on getting this off the ground. I, unfortunately, am one of the millions that lost her job at the end of the year, but I donated what I could. I know it will lift the weight off of some worthy shoulders.
Matt…what a totally awesome foundation in Liz’s name. Maddy will no doubt see & feel the love you two shared by all that you are doing in her mother’s honor! You are truly amazing in the way you are choosing to focus your energy after such a tragedy (that is hard for me to even fathom).
I recently found an article about you, Liz, and Maddy, it really touched my heart, I know things have been almost unbearable for you but keep ya chin up there is light at the end of the tunnel.
They tell us that God doesn’t put on us no more than we can handle, but when you feel like your whole world is falling apart around you its very hard to believe that, but just seeing the beautiful little Angel you are raising helps to somehow get through one day at a time. You are truly amazing and the love that is felt through all you are doing in Liz’s name will help Maddy one day know that she had a truly wonderful Mom.
God Bless you both.
You are doing a wonderful job with your daughter, cherish every
day, every change , every moment that this little gives you.
She is beautiful. All the best to you both…
For the love of Liz is so touching. I love what you are doing.
By the way, I read your People article. It had me in tears. I loved the pictures. I really think you should write a book. It may touch so many others in your situation
the site is fantastic. i am an avid reader – but don’t ever comment. i am touched by the site, the foundation, the community that has sprouted from this tragedy. you are a remarkable human being and madeline is lucky to have you as her guiding light.
I just found your blog and am reading away. I love it. I started my blog almost a year ago when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I found it a very useful tool for my grief and a good creative outlet. Your daughter is so beautiful. I am so sorry for your loss.
Hey Matt and Maddy,
I read your article in People of Jan. 26th. I think that your guys story is amazing. I am a single mom of 3 myself, so I know how very hard it is, but as long as you have a support system, believe me u can do it. Just remember to keep thinking about Liz and what she would want want you to do with you and maddy’s lives and everything will keep and get better all the time.
I keep you in my prayers all times.
Good Luck
I agree..you should write a book! You have an amazing amount of strength and perseverance. God must be enabling you to do what you are doing! His grace is priceless and free!
Matt- you are awesome!
Matt, I hope everything is going well right now. I read your article in People and caught up with your whole blog in the last two weeks. Your determination and energy are inspirational and you seem like such a neat person. You should put all the songs on your iPod on here so we can all know what music to listen to! You are a wonderful father and a great person. Keep blogging!
P.S. I loved the wall of photos with all the mismatching frames.
I miss Maddy! I have been following your blog for a few months now, and just wanted to say you’re doing a great job. I know you hear it all the time, but she is adorable! I love when she wears those little bows in her hair. And of course I admire your strength and all that you do.
I have been reading your blog or a long time now (first saw you in the Star Trib) and just wanted to say congrats on the People magazine article! I hope it helps raise money for your cause. I also wanted to say that I found out today that I sit next to one of your old neighbors from elementary or Jr. High (Tina, she is Thai and you used to walk to school together). What a small world!
Matt
I too just discovered your web blog after reading your story in my people magazine, I am sobbing with tears and holding my two girls (Emma age 3, Callie 5 months) very tightly tonight! Strangely I was very nervous about the delivery of my second child, maybe knowing I already had one at home who was counting on me to come back. I had some serious complications and it was scary at one point, obviously not to your heartbreak. Not sure why I am telling you this but just know my heart goes out to you and Maddy. it is more than amazing to see that beautiful little girl grow up inside her daddy’s eyes. You have captured the most breath-taking photos, some of the favorite moments that take me back when there little heads used to just sit in your hand after eating. I am so amazed by your maternal instincts. Maddy will one day read all this and realize how amazing her mother was and how lucky she is to have such a loving father. God bless your little family…forever in my thoughts and prayers. A new “friend” from Washington, Katie.
Dear Matt,
I’d like to tell you how much your story touches home. On July 7, 2005 my niece Bethany (Simard) Joyal passed away DURING childbirth, but Cole, her son was delivered. To see the obituary, click on this website http://www.peabodyfuneralhome.com/Obituaries.htm
& under ‘obituaries’ enter JOYAL.
Her husband, ironically also named Matt, has been a wonderful single father to a beautiful toddler! Just to let you know that Cole, who is only 3 yrs old, has said that his mother is with him. He’s actually responded, to another child who ask where his Mommy was, ” She’s right here.” while pointing to the seat next to him. I believe that your wife is now an angel watching over your daughter. Good luck in all that the two of you do.
Prayers & Thoughts from NH, Michele.
Matt!
Hope you’re ready to enjoy the weekend. I’ll will definitely check out this site right now. Take care,
~X~
Tremendous idea.
I’ve found your site from Ms. Single Mama and I’ve found inspiration through you and your story. With the power of People magazine and bloggers worldwide, I hope this Foundation takes off.
Continued best wishes for you and Madeline.
I read your story in the People Magazine. So sorry for your loss but something beautiful arrived with her spirit. I work from home and would love to share with you my company that is Eco-friendly, especially with household cleaners and how you can work out of your house and be around your beautiful child. If it can help email me:) She is so lucky to have you:)
Matt,
I have been on bedrest for 34 days now and I came across your blog a few weeks ago. Since then I’ve been reading all of your posts since just before your wife passed away. I am so, so sorry for your loss.
I just wanted to say that I think it’s an amazing and very special thing that Madeline will one day be able to read. She will be able to see firsthand how special her mom was, and what an effect she had on others. She will be able to see how devoted a father you are, and how much you love her and Liz. You’ve done so many wonderful things in remembrance of your wife. You are a great dad and i’m positive Liz is proud of you.
Thank you for sharing your story, and I’ll continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
This is amazing Matt!
Hi, I just seen your story on the news. Last march the father of my unborn son (who is now 6 months old) was killed in a car accident. He was so excited about the birth of his son. 3 days before he passed away we had found out the sex of our child! It’s so hard doing this alone but I find strength in your story! Thank you!
Just wanted you to know, I gave you a shout-out on my blog today. I love your blog. Keep up the great work, Matt, you’re a great dad!
Matthew…..I just read of your story on the WCCO news site….
It reminded me of another story: my old Pastor’s son Tim, and his wife Joy, very much in love…..two little girls, very close in age……after the second birth, there were blood clots…..the doctors debated whether to dissolve or blast them……they decided on blasting…..one large piece lodged in her brain…..
Tim never even wanted to look at another woman in that way again, in love…..but God moved, and he did…..the two little girls are grown now, and married, and giving grandchildren…..and they have two younger brothers, and two younger sisters…..a very sweet family…..and Joy is still very much a part of it…..in more ways than one, like with C.S. Lewis….
You are doing well; thank you, and kisses blown across the air waves to your little one…..
Hi Matt. I live in LA, My name is Shari Ilene Bialick Rosemblat. I too have a daughter. She is at Berkeley age 18. I saw your story in People today. I got an early copy. My email is imarose2@aol.com. If you are curious what we look like you can check us out in facbook Shari Rosemblat and Marissa Rosemblat. Life is very special and every day I am thankful for life. I do financial planning and help families with their needs. My full time job is selling supplemental insurance to LA City worker and public sector employees. My interests are gardening. I have pets. I live near my family. WE are all close. My daughter is a freshman at Cal Berkeley. I am 45 years old. Everyone needs a friend. Feel free to add me to your list of people. God Bless you and your daughter Madeline. She is beautiful and I know she brings you blessing and joy everyday. It is hard in the beginning. I was 27 when I had her and single 5 years later. She will be more wonderful as she grows.
We miss you guys!! Hope all is well. Can’t wait to hear all about your travels! Is Madeline’s first word going to be “hola”?
happy 10 months to miss madeline!!
(((hugs)))
Happy, happy 10th month you sweet girl!
Your Daughter is beautiful.
Hi Matt, I’ve been reading your blog for a little while now and have noticed your (obvious) eclectic taste in music. I was wondering what your favorite radio station is. I live in (the) Boston but grew up in (the) Orange County, so I’m familiar with most stations there.
ps. You are doing an amazing job with your beautiful daughter!
Howdy Matt, I found your site through the Bloggies (voted for you!) and I’ve spent the better part of this weekend reading your blog. I’m not even close to caught up, but just wanted to tell you how moved I am by your story and your strength and your beautiful, beautiful daughter. Congrats on launching the foundation. I look forward to reading along.
Just had to let you know you and Maddy are in my thoughts today. I read your article in my People magazine again today, and you are such an inspiration. I can never say this enough….you are doing a wonderful job!
Thats how i found out about him too. I told everyone on my facebook how i was amazed by this blog and the story
I just wanted to let you know that I searched high and low all the way over in Athens, Greece just to find a copy of People.. I found it and was once again touched, as I am every time I read an entry in your blog.. Keep on keepin’ on, you’re doing great!
I just read your touching story in People Magazine. What a wonderful thing you are doing for your daughter and your late wife. I wish you all the best in your life, and treasure everything your daughter does and says because they grow up way to fast. I will be thinking of you and your journey with daughter often. Jennifer in Arizona.
This is such a great idea. I haven’t read People magazine but just wanted to let you know that I come to visit you almost every day and your story have travelled all around the world, as I am in Montreal , Canada. Even french people care about you and Madeline. We then practice our every day english.
All the best for you,
Karina
I am so sorry about your lost, its must be hard to lose a love one. But in the long run you do have a healthy beaitful baby girl, who will always know her mother in her heart if not physically.
Its a shame the doctor coulnt see this comeing, because something that people dont think about everyday, can kill them the next. We all have to think about it, because it can happen to us, we could go that quickly in life.
But keep up the good work in rasing your daughter, she will love you for it one day. But always make sure she knows she had a loveing mother who would loved to have been here today to see her baby grow up.
Even though she’s not here physically, she is always here in your heart and memories that you made. So make some good ones for your daughter.
I came across your blog by fortune. After the loss of my child I thought I would never get through “one” more day without her. However, by sharing my thoughts and own personal story with others it allowed me the chance to speak her name “just one one time”, keeping her fresh in my thoughts. Not allowing her to be forgotten…… I so can relate. I truly am touched by the journey that you’ve allowed so many of (us) to peek into. Instead of saying “Godbless” , I say “May The Force Be With You and Madeline”……Always.
Hi Matt you hang in there, and I know you will do a good job, you seem to be all heart, I know a little of how you feel, in 1998 My wife Dayna was having are fourth Baby her Name is Jessica, we had 4 children at that point a 7 yr old little girl Kelly A 10 yr old boy Jason and a 14 yr old girl Jennifer, and course are new born baby Jessica, Dayna and I met in high school in 1976 we were together until 1998, Dayna had some problems through out with her pregnancy, seemed like little Jessica wanted to come out sooner than she was to, Dayna would keep going in to labor seemed like every day and night we were at the emergency room, the doctor finally said that he would induce labor at 8 months if Jessica’s lungs were mature enough,so they did the test and the day came for her to deliver Jessica, it was a long night but around 845 in the morning Dayna delivered are beautiful little girl Jessica , since she was born early they wanted to keep her for a few days because she was jaundice and they would keep theses special lights on her until she was ready to go home, after a few days mom and daughter was ready to come home, we left the hospital with Jessica as we were walking out my wife turned to me and said all the pain that we have gone through in the 8 months was worth it, as she looked down at are little new born, she was a few days old at that point, we went home Matt and everything seem to be going so good that day. it was the first day my wife and Jessica was home together, that night I fell a sleep in the living room I was a bit tired from the past few days but my wife was a die hard she was up with Jessica that night, Dayna seem to get a headache and tried to take some thing for it, but buy morning she still had it, I had no idea she was up all night with it, she woke me in the morning in the chair and told me what she was going through that night and that she still had the headache, and ask me to drive her to the emergency room so they could give her something for the headache, so we packed up little Jessica and the other three children and when we got to the ER she told me to take the baby home and feed her because it was her feeding time, and to feed the other kids breakfast, and that she would call me when she was finished at the ER , well I did as she told me matt and I never got that phone call back from her , so I called the hospital and explained what happen and they asked my name , they told me if I could please come down that they needed to talk to me, I asked what was wrong and they told me that I would have to speak with the doctor when I got there, well I called one of my family members to come over to watch the children while I went to see what was going on, when I got to the hospital they took me in a room and told me that my wife was in a comma and that her headache was from a anarisam on her brain and that she has lost all feeling in one side of her then she went in to the comma, cant even tell you what was going through my mind at that point all I wanted to do was to see my wife, they took me to her and the doctors said that it was very series, to look at my wife she was so healthy and to see her lay there still like she was pregnant with Jessica and wasn’t able to say anything or open her eyes on life support was horrifying, I was broken hearted and didn’t have any idea what to do, I felt totally helpless to helping her out, they had a pressure rod in her head that measured how much presser there was, they wanted it to get down to a lower number, but it just kept building up, so the doctors wanted to operate on her brain and remove the blood from the anarisam that bleeded out , when the doctor came out of surgery, he said every thing went great they got all the blood out, and they wanted to monitor her preserver in her head, but it turned out that the presser really didn’t go down but the machine that measured it wasn’t working right, I believe it was a battery that needed replacing, so they got a anther machine and found that the presser never went down and that the brain was still bleeding for the next day or so she spiked a fever over a hundred and 6 and at that point there was no brain activity at all, so the surgeon got me and the rest of the family together and explained that she was brain dead and would never come out of the comma and the only thing that kept her heart pumping and breathing was the machine, I was sitting there in disbelief the doctor said if it was one of his loved one that he wouldn’t let them stay hooked up to the machine because there was no hope of her ever waking up or getting any brain activity,so we decided to shut the machine down, I guess you always have it in the back of your mind that things will be all right and when they shut the machine down she will keep breathing on her own, but that isn’t how it went when they shut the machine down I ask to be alone with my wife and I layed on her and told her how much I loved her, and that I wouldn’t let anything happen to the children and that I would take care them, it was at that point when I was done talking that her heart stopped beating, you have to understand something all the time I was marred with my wife she was the main support in are family because I had anxiety and panic where I could hardly ever even step out of the house never mind go to the store, I made up my mind that I was going to fight to keep are family together no matter what it took, Jessica was about two weeks old at this point, and the others children 7 10 14 well and her I was lost what to do, but something takes over in side you and you stick together as a family, when I had to go to the store or go for a doctors appointment for the baby for shots we all went together as a family and supported each other, and we did this for everything Jessica was colic and had her hours mixed up so it was a bit tough there but she grew out of it and everything started to look a lot better my town of Newington in ct I could never thank the social serves department there enough for all the help and moral support they gave us, I still at that point had my panic and anxiety but I kept one foot in front of the other and we all did are own parts the kids went to school I took care Jessica and then a year went buy and then another and another, at that point I met this woman on the Internet that I talked with for all most a year she was from Scotland Dundee well we decided that she was going to come down over seas for a visit because we talked so much, and are relation ship grew until we decided we would marry, I ended up going to a councilor and they put me on medication for anxiety and panic attaches, and with that I could do just about any thing I wanted I could go in to stores, alone I could go shopping alone if I wanted to, the thing is I needed something to fight for to get better and that was my children, anyone when any disorders you have to know if I could get through all that , where I was at the begging not even able to go out of the house with out my wife or kids, to where I could do anything I wanted to, so don’t ever ever give up on any mental health problems you may have out there because there is always hope out there you just need something to fight for to get better, to date My oldest girl Jennifer 25 is in medical assistance school, my 21 yr old son Jason is in his second yr of collage for graphic design, and my 18yrold girl Kelly is in her last yr of hair dressing school,and Jessica 10 now is in 5th grade not bad for a guy that couldn’t even go out of the house for something at the store, I owe it all to a mental health system, I cant emphasizes how importion it is not to give up and to get help and medication out there, if the medication doesn’t work at first then keep working with your doctor and try something different until you find what works for you, the first time I went on medication it didn’t work the first time, it took a few times until we got it right, but trust me don’t give up you just keep working with your doctor, again up to day I am sorry to say that my wife that I marred has walked out on me and the kids two weeks before Christmas this year , my now 10 yr old Jessica was so heart broken and cryed her heart out I had to cry for her to I have never seen anyone so hurt as she was last month, you have to understand this was the only mother she new, because she was just a week or so old when her biological mother died, but we have gone through lots before and we as a family will get through this too one way or the other, I just want to say that I have the most wonderful children any parent would be proud of and I wish my wife could have seen how they have turned out, but some how I think she does and I wasn’t there a lone bringing them up
Hi Matt and Madeline,
I saw the Oprah Show today on T.V. What a touching
story. I lost my mother when I was 9 yrs old, I’am one of
11 children now 51yrs old. My Mother went to the hospital
to have the 11th child and went into a coma and died the
next day. The 11th child, my sister is now 42 yrs old and
all 11 of us are living good lives. My Father passed away
on Father’s Day in 2005 after having a stroke. We were all
with him surrounding in pray of thanks for a great life he
gave us. God could’nt have picked a more appropriate day
for him to join my Mother in Heaven.
Always keep Faith Hope and Love.
I will always keep you and Madeline in my Prayers.
God Bless you both.
Barb
for got my email
forgot email twice lol
you are the greatest dad in the world …
you’r daughter is sooooooooo cuteeeeeee