we each got
a new passport stamp.
that alone would
have been enough
to get me out
of the singapore airport,
but we had the added
bonus of hanging
out with one of
my favorite people
in the whole
wide world.
eshwari somehow tracked
us down after
i told her to
pick us up
at the wrong terminal.
and after a
few tears
(she’s never met madeline in person and we haven’t seen each other since before liz died),
she punched me in
the arm and called
me an idiot.
yeah.
that’s a woman
i call my friend.
and she was
a great friend to
liz.
when she was
visiting bangalore,
eshwari would take
liz
to all of the best
shops, and i would
have to follow along
(which kinda sucked).
she was known
to give
liz
a ride on the
back of her two-wheeler.
and she was
liz’s
favorite drinking partner.
(i was always #2 when eshwari was around, except in the photo below).
so it was
great to see her
again, but it
was really, really hard.
she took us
out for coffee,
and before the place
opened, maddy got
to ride on a carousel.
then there was
a light snack
and some playtime
then maddy landed
face first on the
marble floor.
the crack i heard
turned my stomach…
and all i could
think was that
she would be
completely toothless
until the next set
comes in.
she screamed the
scream of the injured
infant, the one
where they hold
their breath
for an hour or
so, before letting out
the shrillest noise
you’ve ever heard.
minutes later she
was back at the
table, playing with
her auntie eshwari,
except now she
had a giant knot
on her head.
eshwari’s friend, amy arrived
and took us out
for a typical
singaporean breakfast…
eggs mixed with
pepper and soy sauce,
and some toast
with some sweet
stuff and butter.
rachel and i
loved the toast,
but felt a little
unsure about the eggs.
maddy was uninterested,
and passed out
with her arm
in the sink.
after breakfast, we
went to the
top of a
tall building, and took
in singapore.
from there, we headed
off to a play date
arranged for maddy.
i didn’t think
she’d have the energy
to participate,
but like her dad,
she refuses to
sleep when there’s
fun to be had.
i was definitely
more exhausted than
she was,
but there
was no way
she was gonna
let me sleep.
all-in-all it was
a great day,
especially because
we made some
new friends, a few
of whom
will be living in
rochester, mn come november.
after playtime,
we caught a cab
and went across
town for lunch
at a sausage house.
the only one with
energy was madeline.
she colored and
colored and colored,
sometimes she
even managed to
color on the paper.
the rest of us
stared blankly
at the walls,
unable to muster
any words.
we had grand plans
for the day,
but by the time
lunch was over,
they had been scrapped.
instead of a
photo of the merlion,
we went back to
eshwari’s apartment
and all took epic naps.
a few hours later
we were off to
the airport, and ready
for our next flight.
we said goodbye
to auntie eshwari
(well, until she comes back to bangalore next week)
and made our
way through customs.
we spent sometime
hanging out in
the airport.
eventually maddy was exhausted
which was good,
because we had
a 3+ hour flight
to bangalore.
(amazing how back-to-back 11 and 7 hour flights can make a 3+ hour flight seem short).
and it was
short, given that
madeline slept the
entire flight.
as we approached the
city, i looked
at the baby
sleeping in my arms.
last time i was
on this flight,
maddy had only
been cooking inside
liz
for a couple of months.
i remember daydreaming
about her
arrival as i arrived
in this place.
i felt awful for
leaving my pregnant,
puking wife
alone in los angeles,
and told myself
that i was done
traveling for
work after this trip.
things are
a lot different now.
i never imagined i’d
be back here
under these circumstances,
but i’m
damn lucky to have
that little dream in
my arms.
we arrived in bangalore,
excited to be home.
after getting violated
by the thermal scanning
devices and peered at
suspiciously by a bunch
of doctors and nurses
wearing facemasks,
we got another
passport stamp and
made our way
downstairs to pick up
our luggage.
(it should be noted that despite the scary health check, the new bangalore airport is a dream compared to the old one).
we waited awhile
for our luggage
but it finally arrived
and soon enough
we were in a taxi
and on our
way through the city.
it was great
to be able to give
the taxi driver
directions to our
apartment, as if i’m
some expert on
navigating the streets
of bangalore.
we arrived at our
place, and it looked
largely unchanged
from the last time
i was here.
we checked in
and got to our room.
the smell of the
place is rather distinct.
the people who
clean the rooms
spray this room
spray, and it smells
a bit like
leather and something
else i can’t identify.
liz
associated that smell
with india,
and each time i
returned from
staying in this place,
she would tell me
that i smelled like india.
it was that
smell that once
again brought
on the tears.
and these tears are
the reason i’m here
in the first place.
to write the book
i want to write,
the book i know
i can write,
i had to be in
a place that
was special to
me and to
liz.
but it had to
be a place
i haven’t been in
since she died.
i’ve confronted almost
everything in los angeles,
minnesota, hawaii, mexico, nyc.
this place…
it’s the place i
need to be
to confront the
feelings i need
to confront.
and there are more
places, and i
will get to them
with madeline.
and we will be happy.
…
by the time we
got settled it
was almost midnight,
and we were all
a little dazed.
maddy seemed like
she was ready to
sleep the sleep
of the dead.
so i laid
with her for a bit.
then rachel built us
a little nest
by pushing the
couches together.
it was a comfortable as
it appears.
eventually i moved
her into my
room, and she stayed
sleeping for a
little while.
after waking up
again and again,
she slept for an hour.
i slept for 30 minutes,
and then she
woke both of us up.
and there in bed
we watched the smurfs
and the jetsons and
the powerpuff girls
in an attempt to
get back to sleep.
we had some apples,
and some water,
nothing worked.
so she stayed up,
and i tried
to sleep as she
threw the phone
to the ground, and
kicked her feet
on the wooden
table next to the bed.
i don’t think i’ve
been this exhausted
in my entire life.
rachel came to my rescue
around 9:00am.
i told her i’d sleep
for a few hours
and then we could
go check out
the city.
i woke up at 8:30pm.
yeah.
i slept for 11.5 hours.
i can’t think
of the last time
i’ve done something
like that.
rachel did an
amazing job of
keeping maddy entertained,
which is a tall
order because
maddy is so attached to me.
she will only
be held by me,
and she wants
to sit next to me
constantly, and if she’s
in another room,
she yells,
“daddy daddy daddy daddy daddy daddy”
until i come to her.
we all took
our first showers
since monday
(gross, i know)
and headed out to dinner.
had a great meal,
and maddy got
a shitload of
attention from the
men of bangalore,
much to the chagrin
of their female companions,
to whom maddy
would not go.
after dinner we
took a walk
through town so
that rachel could
get an idea
of what was where.
maddy passed out
in spite of all the
horn honking,
and stayed asleep
until i removed her
and the backpack
from my back
and set them on
the ground.
as soon as
she hit the
ground, she was awake
and ready to play.
fuck.
it appeared at the time
that this was gonna
be a very, very
long night.
and it was.
the great news
is that maddy
is really taking to rachel.
the better news
is that she
eventually went to sleep.
the greatest news?
it’s now 6:15am and
she is still sleeping.
now…if only
i could join her.
165 Comments
the last 5 seconds of that video are solid gold, rachel. love to you guys. xo
WOW!! awesome update!! How is her head? Did the knot go down!? Can’t wait to see pictures and hear more updates!!!
Glad to hear all are safe, showered, and well. Can’t wait to hear about the writing!
Your book is going to be amazing. I feel like I am traveling right with you guys. And I know Liz is for sure! xoxo
Glad to hear you all made it safely.
I can’t wait to hear about all your adventures. I hope you find what you are looking for, the inspiration to write that book for Maddy.
Loved listening to Maddie’s giggles. I hope you’re able to bring yourself more comfort while you’re out there. Be safe.
Wow–you are so amazingly brave to be doing this. I’m sure Liz would be thrilled to see how well you are all doing! Can’t wait to read more about your adventures!
what a lovely post…I am so glad you made it safely to the place you need to be. Can’t wait to read more.
Thanks for keeping us all updated! I’ve never paid more attention to what is going on overseas than now – and I’m really glad everyone is safe. And it’s been kinda fun to figure out what the hell time it is over there for you guys.
great story. awesome picture of the super-exhausted baby. have a blast.
For some reason the video hasn’t shown up on my computer yet. Anyway, I loved the post and can’t wait for some more. I am glad you are in a place you need to be eventhough it brings up hard memories. Maddie (and the rest of your faithful blog stalkers-I mean readers) will be happy when that book is done. I can’t wait to read it!
I, too, feel like I’m traveling with you. And Eshwari seems like an amazing woman! It’s no wonder she and Liz were friends.
Rachel seems awesomely amazing as well!
Matt
I have never posted here before tonight. I am so happy for all of you and can’t wait to hear more about your adventures in Bangalore and your writing. I truly believe that Liz is right there with you and Madeline on this journey.
Finally you’re there!! Glad you guys got there safely. Rest up and keep us posted!
I’m so glad you made it safe and sound and all in one piece! I hope this is an incredible experience for all of you. I can’t wait to hear about your travels.
Great. Great. Great.
Matt
thanks for sharing you journey. Stay strong and know strangers are rooting for you.
So glad that you survived, although now I kind of want another shower myself.
Excellent video, as well.
I hope you can get some sleep soon.
What a great post. This is such an exciting adventure! Thanks for letting us share in it.
My two favorite sentences:
” i’m damn lucky to have that little dream in
my arms” and “and there are more places, and i
will get to them with madeline, and we will be happy”
I’m deeply happy you are in the place you are right now.
I’m glad you found a person like Rachel to be there with you and Maddy. Hugs
I’m so happy you’re there. Get some rest and then get busy writing.
Isn’t that sound the WORST?? When they conk their heads? One of my twins fell out of the back of a cart and I will never forget the sound!
I hope the rest of your adventure is injury-free!
How amazing you and Maddie are!
Glad to see your getting settled. Have fun on your new adventure!
Glad to hear you made it safely!
This post got me tonight – shed a few tears for you and Madeline – I think it was the photos of Liz and Eshwari and Maddy’s giggles that did me in…
Priceless vid! So happy you guys arrived safely and are settling in. Looking forward to more pics and vids!
It’s so good to hear that you are settled. Now if only that minor thing called sleep would catch up. From the sound of things, you are right where you need to be at the moment and that will undoubtedly come through in your writing.
*Love those pictures of your sleepy-eyed little one.
Excellent update.
So glad to see you made it to India safe and sound.
That video is cute to boot!
that something u had with butter in your toast in singapore is called “kaya” spread…..one of my favourite.
hoping to hear more from your journey in my motherland.
I sure was thinking you needed a shower after seeing that straw photo! LOL Glad you got one. I hope you all settle in quickly and get the much needed rest you all deserve.
Awsome post, glad you made it safe, omg your appartment is so beautiful, so modern. I can’t wait to see more pictures
Im glad everyone has arrived safe and sound. Hopefully your sleep will work its self out soon.
Hii.. im from bali.. i cant wait for the book.. I’m really enjoy reading your blog.. xo
You made it
awesome post! I hope your jet lag is cured soon! I laughed out loud when I saw the pic of you and Maddy in the Ball pit! The video is so precious! Seems like Rachel is a good match for you guys. And your apt looks amazing! Can’t wait to hear more and see more pics!
Great post. I like the picture of you where you are smiling with your teeth. In all the pics you have shown, there hasn’t been one like that since the ones you have shared of you and Liz together. So, India must be the right place for you and Miss Maddy. Take care. Sleep.
So glad you are happily there! I loved that video with Rachel and Madeline. Rachel is going to be so great with her. Soon her little clock should also adjust. You’re doing a great job!
What an amazing adventure. Sounds like you are truly where you are meant to be. I must say, in the first pic of the play date, I can finally see a bit of you in Maddy. I can’t imagine how it is for you but when I see pics of Maddy she looks like a tiny Liz! Enjoy the ride. Look forward to many great blogs that I’m sure will follow.
Hey Matt,
Ive been following your blog off and on for a while now. Just wanted to let you know that I have a really close friend in Bangalore that runs an orphanage of like 50 kids. If you wanted to get in touch with another american out there, shoot me an email, and I will get you her contact info. Im sure the kids would love her, and Madeline would for sure have a blast. Hope yall enjoy it out there. If you get a chance, go to that Fridays in Bangalore, its like another world. Crazy. Hope to hear from you soon man.
Wow Matt, I thought taking my infant daughter to Disneyworld from Toronto was tough, I can’t imagine flying over 2 days! These next 2 months will fly by, enjoy every precious second of it with your adorable Maddy. Looking forward to your pictures and most importantly your book
Can’t wait to see the gorgeous dresses you’ll find for Maddy!
My daughter fell down our basement steps onto a concrete floor and hit her head like Madeline. That sound is the worst thing you’ll ever hear. I’m glad she’s ok.
I wish you the best on your journey. I hope it helps to heal some of the hurt.
So great to see you guys having a great time there!
I’m so glad to see that you guys made it there safe and you are all settling in nicely.
Miss you! Be Safe!
It was great seeing pics of Maddy having fun. Maddy looked beyond exhausted sitting in that blue chair. Can’t wait to see more of your adventures.
Nice place Matt!! and I love the way Maddy says DADDY!! in a high pitched squeak! I can’t wait to hear about more of your adventures!
I feel outted from being a lurker! Nice to meet y’all and glad you’re all settling into Bangalore! And, uh sorry about the eggs, but you had to try them. The eggs are definitely on-par with the Merlion.
Oh my gosh, the little bags under her eyes! I was exhausted just thinking about how exhausted you all must have been. I’m sure it will take a bit for you to all adjust, but what an amazing time this will be! The apartment looks so nice!!
Thanks for the updates! I’m looking forward to them all.
I remember when Giggles fell hard on the concrete….we took her in to the ER because I was freaked out, they had to sedate her to get a CAT scan-she was fine and charmed all the doctors and nurses. I felt like an idiot for taking her although they all assured me it was the right choice.
Matt you are doing so well with Maddy, I look forward to the many stories and photos you will share of this journey you two are taking. And I look forward to reading your book!
so thrilled for the update! I think you took a little piece of all of us with you
I hate hearing my childs head meet any kind of hard surface. It’s never easy to watch them do it either.
I’m glad you guys are all settled. Loved the photos and I just loved the video. Reminds me of my daughter Lilly. I hope you are all doing well.
Looking forward to more updates.
Damn Maddy is a lucky girl. I have never been out of this country! lol
btw.. love the crazy exhausted pic of Maddy from that last flight!
Awesome post!!
I love the pictures and video!! There were a few that made me laugh my ass off and then some that were so breath taking! The video was so cute, I am so happy she is taking to Rachel!!
Great to hear that you guys got to India safe, but sorry about the super Jet lagged part!
I am so happy that you are in a place that makes you this happy! Its almost like you are describing a completion of yourself, that was missing for a very long time.
I’m Glad Maddy can see everything you and Liz once shared and Loved!!
Love this Blog Post!!!
Maddie is definitely experiencing the time of her life. Screaming and giggling and running around at 3am. What a blast! I hope you three recover from jetlag soon. I can’t even imagine. You and Rachel are two tough people to take on a toddler with jetlag.
Best of luck.
Glad you arrived safe.
Wow – that “Daddy” was super clear!! What a cutie!
Very cool that you have an apartment while you’re there. I was wondering if you guys would be hotel hopping or if you’d have a permanent spot.
Hope sleep finds you soon!
Love the video, and the Daddy at the end was so awesome.
You guys will flip schedules pretty quick, just give it some time and nap a little more during the day.
I loved this post!
thankyou for often updating us, i expected to miss you all more lol! (thats a good thing)
and i thought you were being sarcastic about Maddy taking to Rachel, i was expecting for the video to show Maddy crying against the wall as rachel tried getting Maddy to like her
your result was better 
oh and lastly, eventhough Liz isnt there physically, a lil part of her is (Maddy)…and she always will be.
“and we wil be happy.” Amen to that Matt!
Maddy is sooo big, i just want to hug her!
enjoy your trip to the fullest!!!!
Lulu smacked her head in the same spot. It usually looks worse than it is, and our pediatrician said that’s actually one of the “better” places to hit your head (if there is such a thing…)
You guys stay safe. Lots of love coming from Brooklyn!
The video speaks volumes to me! Maddy can do it, she can trust a woman beyond grandma.Awesome. Awesome. This little lady bug has seen more than most adults, so give in a bit.
Her little eyes have seen more world than most will ever see.
I hope Maddy’s head is good.
When kids get hurt and they are crying and no sound comes out, blow into their face ,it gets them breathing again andthen the tears start.
Also, with the bumps on the head, apply direct pressure with your fingers and rub it in a circular motion immediately and there will be no bump. Just bruising and tears while you do it.
Have a good safe trip!
Matt,
You are doing amazing things out there, not just for yourself, your daughter and Liz; but also for a lot of people that ‘watch’ and ‘read’ you on a regular basis. The inspiration you give others really is something, and while I am pretty certain that is the farthest thing from your mind, you have to know there is so much good coming out of this tragedy you have endured with Liz. Peace be with you always.
Tracy
I’m glad you finally got your showers! This post brought me to tears, per usual. I hope you get some great writing in and enjoy the ride. The strength you show is amazing. Keep rockin’.
Ooooh, are you staying where I think you’re staying? If so, please eat at Sunny’s for me. Man, I miss India.
Matt, those pictures of a VERY tired Maddy are hilarous. Love her bed head, too. So funny.
And I have to agree with at least one other person who commented, that one picture of you, just smiling so big, you look so happy. This trip is the right thing for you to be doing. I know it is all bittersweet, but making these new memories with your best girl is going to be an amazing thing. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Can I just tell you how flipping adorable you look in that nest?
The scent memories, man, those are the ones that live on forever.
Matt, thanks for sharing the pictures, and so glad you made it to your destination safely. Looking forward to reading all about your adventures and discoveries. Can’t wait for you book! Love the pictures of Liz! I’m sure she’s looking down at you and Maddy and very proud that you went back there to write your book. Hope Maddy’s knot is better too! Glad to hear she’s warming up to Rachel. I’m sure everything will work itself out for you and Maddy! Keep us posted! XX
This is so fun for us readers Matt. When you get a chance can you take and post photos that show us the outside of where you are living, the inside, the streets around you etc. I’ve never been there and I’d love to see the environment. I’m craving Indian food now.
I am so glad to hear, read and see that you all arrived safely (minus the bump on Madeline’s head)!! What a contagious, adorable laugh M has too, by the way. Good luck on the rest of your stay in India-I cannot wait to continue reading all about it.
Maddy’s new Singapore-found friends are lucky to have met her…and lucky to be moving to Rochester, MN (my town)! Best of luck to you and Maddy on this journey!
AWWWWW! Thanks for the update. I have to say this, but the look in your eyes in the pic of you and Maddy with the other lady and her baby ..you look so happy! It is nice to see!
This is going to be the trip of a lifetime!
So so so happy to hear that things are going well! Maddy’s legs look so long on the couch and her hair is getting so long! She’s growing up so quickly.
Can’t wait to read the next post
she’s saying daddy so clearly!
She sure seems like a little dream! So sweet!
wow that’s alot of flying! I’m sure traveled better than most kids…suppose you’ve been breaking her in for a bit now
So amazing your able to take Maddie to all the places you and Liz have been. Apartment looks sweet too! Looking forward to more updates!
Take care!
You MADE IT! Wow. Peace to all of you as you get settled into the new place. Looks like you’re already getting in the groove of things, and looks like Rachel is *fantastic* with Maddy. I’ll be reading!
Matt, I was just thinking out its been over a year since I started reading your blog and its been such an honor to follow your story…Wishing you and sweet Maddy happy and safe travels! Thanks for continuing to share with all of us.
I’m so excited for all of your adventures and to hear about the wonderful things maddy, you and rachel will get to experience.
I think it is absolutely admirable that you are facing your memories, moment by moment, to have something tangible for that beautiful baby girl!
she’s starting to look so grown up, and though i’ve never met her, i am so proud!
I am so tired just from reading this! I cannot imagine traveling for that long! Wow. I am really excited to see what happens next!
this one got me, matt. that book is going to be awesome. wishing you some healing peace there, right where you need to be.
love all your tweets and so happy your guys are there safely…..
what a great gal…. she takes after mamma.. and you!
keep it up… write away!
You and your ventures take me places every day that I have never been… but I always feel like I’m right along with you!
<3 Can't wait to see what tomorrow has in store!
So glad to hear from you guys!!! I love the video and am happy to know that all is well. Can’t wait to hear more from you and to see some amazing pics!!!
“and we will be happy.” that is my favorite line of all.
Thanks for taking us on your trip with you!
Great post! Maddy is so gonna kick your ass when she sees that picture of her someday… Ha ha!!
Glad you guys all arrived safe and sound in the place that you needed to be in!! Sounds like quite the journey, and it has only just begun!! I hope you find peace in India and the inspiration that you need to write your amazing book for Maddy!! Loved all of the pictures of you guys…and Rachel and Maddy look like they will be very good pals
I loved the video of the two of them!! Can’t wait to hear more of your adventures together…BTW..your apartment looks gorgeous!!
The video was adorable to watch. It looks like Rachel really cares about Maddy and likes having fun. A great combo!
“little dream in my arms’ *sigh* So lovely.
Looks like things are off to a wonderful start, thank you for updating us so often!
Wow, that is some wicket jet lag.
Heartbroken for you, yet so happy for you. You live on a constant world of black vs. white, how exhausting.
Simply, thank-you.
OH so good to hear how the last leg of the trip went!!!
For future knots…use vanilla extract on the bump and you’ll skip the black and blue phase of the bruise. Works like a charm!!
Congrats on making it to the other side of the world and for tackling something so loaded for you head-on. Best of luck to you, Maddy, and Rachel! Wishing you many successful, productive author vibes. ;o)
What a shame to miss visiting with you and Maddy while you were right on my island!! Geez! If you guys pass by Singapore again a few months later on the way back to The States, I will love to meet up with you guys!! All the best in Bangalore!
wow matt. i don’t think i’ve ever seen such a tired child. or adult. but awesome post. hope the acclimatisation happens quickly, for all your sakes.
We’ve managed to narrow down the jet lag to three days. So far the key has been not letting him sleep for more than three or four hours during the day. Good luck! And Namaste!
That is so cute Matt. Rachel is doing a great job. I love how she says Daddy.
The apartment is so nice!
Need I go on!
I’m so glad you guys made it and are getting settled. I love the picture of you guys with your new friends. It looks like Maddy is telling the baby to look at the camera. She is such a picture pro!
Glad you guys are safe and sound. Now hopefully you’ll all adjust sleeping wise and fast so you can be relaxed and enjoy your whole stay. Madeline sounds really happy to be there yayyy
Okay, I must stop reading your blog at work because it is getting hard to explain why I am crying into my coffee. If your book is half as poignant as your blog, you will have a best seller for sure! I can’t wait to hear more about your adventures…
Great update. So glad you guys made it safely. Can’t wait to hear all about your grand adventure! Maddy is adorable as always.
I’m so happy to hear that you arrived in India safely! Hopefully in a few days you will all be on a new schedule, rested and ready to tackle the wonderful book we know you will write.
That video is so sweet..I can only imagine how tired you must be. So happy that you have Rachel with you on this journey. Your daughter is beautiful and I LOVE to check in on you both. Take care and thanks for sharing your adventure with us…I can’t help but smile when I check in on you. :O)
“and there are more
places, and i
will get to them
with madeline.
and we will be happy.”
This is my wish for you…
Peace.
I love the ‘Daddy!” in the video. Great pictures, the one of Maddie with the bed head and puffy eyes is hysterical. You look happy, you sound content. I know you will forever have the scar but you seem to be on the road to healing. That is so good to hear and so good to see the smile.
-Kelly
Matt, I’ve been reading your blog forever, and have never posted here, but I’m pretty sure that this is the best thing you’ve written:
but i’m
damn lucky to have
that little dream in
my arms.
I’m so excited for you & this part of your journey. I anxiously look forward to all that is to come!
“and we will be happy”
Damn…that’s a statement I really need start making for my own life.
I’m sure you already have a really awesome title for your book, but “the dream in my arms” is pretty awesome.
You lived a nightmare but you have that little dream. You have such an amazing part of Liz that loves you so much – and that’s a blessing.
Yeah ya’ll made it! The crazy tired picture of Maddy in the chair…baahaaa. Rachel seems like a peach. Looking forward to the next post!
I feel like I’m traveling with you.
Madeline’s laugh and her cute little voice saying “Daddy” is priceless.
you will be happy. That little one will make sure of that!
I am so glad you guys are finding your way in India. And hearing Madeline saying “Daddy” just made my day!
You look so happy in these pictures…at peace even. Still praying for you and Maddy (and Rachel), and I can’t wait to follow along on this adventure…
Matt, I’m so glad that you have your dream with you.
I’m sending you a cool MN breeze (yeah, it was CHILLY this morning), good travels and peace in your heart! Good luck getting settled in and up and running over the next week or so…
The “daddy” in the video was the straw for me. LOST IT!!
“and there are more
places, and i
will get to them
with madeline.
and we will be happy.”
My wish for you as well.
Good luck on your book.
and I cringed when you described the crack, and the cry… oye…been there as well.
Kisses to Maddie.
goose bumps followed by more goose bumps. amazing matt – simply amazing. thank you again for allowing all of us to follow in your amazing journey of life.
Great update! Love the video, I need a Rachel of my own! My favorite pic is the one of Maddy sitting in the chair looking completely exhausted and disheveled, but still completely adorable. Can’t wait to see more pics from the trip.
So glad you guys arrived safely and are doing well! Wonderful update, as always. Madeline is so so beauutiful. I say it all the time but I can’t help it, she is!
i just spit out my pizza laughing at the jet lagged pic of maddy with her hair all messed up.
that’s a picture that says a thousand words!
Matt,
I wanted to make you aware of all the things in the airport before you left, but could not as I myself came back from India last week.
We have a little one, 6 months younger to maddy, and it was handful traveling with her.
Maddy will probably do this ( sleeping at odd times) due to the jet lag and will last for 5-7 days.
One thing to keep in mind while you are there is Swine Flu. Despite what anyone tells you, make sure you dont allow maddy to touch things or people as she is used to in US. We had a tough time doing that. I know you would probably say she will be fine, but as a medical professional, I have to warn you.
Also, if she ever gets sick (touch wood), go to a corporate hospital immediately and she most probably will be put on antibiotics (which is again very rare in US). You have to understand, it is not the Virus but bacteria which affects kids from abroad there.
And one more thing, try not to over expose her to the B’lore pollution.
If you need any more help while in India, feel free to drop me a line
V
I love the video! So glad you’ve all arrived safely.
Thanks for the updates !!!
Love the video when Maddy comes running for you and says “daddy”… too cute !!!
Bloody starbucks everywhere….
I find it great that you travel with your baby. You rock guys!! Keep on, you’re giving her something good for her future!
“Teeth!!” I acually said it out loud in the office. You can see the aura of peace around you. Your smile is so genuine.
Glad you guys are ok and settling in. Love this blog and can’t wait for the book.
Hope Maddie’s noggin is better. Thanks for the emotional ride. You know,the yippie..awww, hehe, ouch! aww, eww, aww, hahaha.., aww.. sniffle.shucks,feelings I get when I read about you guys.
All the best, Sandy
how much i wish i was in b’lore my city ,i would have loved to meet you and maddy …seeing your pics makes me miss my home so much
esp the dosa ..will be in bangalore in december but you guys will be back here ..hope you guys have wonderful time there and b’lore is the best!!!
So happy to see you smile in photos.
Let your friends know that there are lots of babies that love playdates waiting for them in Rochester. It’s a pretty cool place (well literly!)
I cried when I saw pictures of Liz, and thought of what you’re going through, then laughed through my tears as you described perfectly the soundless cry of kids that have hurt themselves really badly. I love your blog, and the best thing about this update, is that I saw a picture where you are actually smiling, and you sound hopeful. I can’t wait to read the book, I’ll definitely buy it!!
Those pictures of tired Maddy are making me tired! What a trip. So glad you arrived safely.
Thanks for the updates. I check everday to hear about your trip. Great pictures too. Be well Matt and Maddy.
You and Maddy look exhausted! I hope guys get into a routine soon
Love the way Maddy says “Daddy”…but probably no where near as much as you do.
I’m following along on here and Twitter and am so happy for you guys. Be careful and take care of our girl
I’ve never commented before even though I’ve been following your story for many many months. “I will get to them with Madeline and we will be happy” just for some reason hit me tonight. (Almost every post makes me cry anyway.) You’re doing a good, brave, important thing for both you and Maddie. I can imagine that Liz would be proud of you both. Take care of you, the dream you hold in your arms and the lovely Rachel, sharing in your journey.
That laugh….I just love it
Loving your blog more and more and love the writing accompanying the pictures
I am sure once she gets used to her surroundings and done with jet lag she will be back to her old sleepy self. It sounds like you have so much love for that city and what it meant to you & Liz. I cannot wait to read the book.
Check it out! I sent you an award because you inspire me daily.
http://www.sneakpeekatme.com/2009/10/taste-of-success.html
Janis
glad you made it safely! and managed to maintain most of your sanity. 11 hours + 7 hours + 3 hours, wow.
eshwari seems like an awesome person. how did her and liz meet?
Coming from someone who doesn’t get the opportunity to travel I am so eager to read about your adventures in India! Glad you all made it safely and are settling in.
I love it all! Thank you for taking us with you!
I assume you – or someone at the foundation- has been alerted to this story- but just in case…
http://tinyurl.com/yh4luu9 .
Hope someone can initiate some support for this dad and his family.
Peggy
Love the updates!
Maddy is getting SO big! And you’re doing a great job with her! Now good luck getting both of you used to the time zone difference…
I think you should get Maddy her own robot while in India.
Bangalore, I love that place.
Hope u guys have a good time.
You are doing the right thing – praying for the best for u guys.
You’re home. Happy will happen. Your adventures are wonderful.
Hi Matt: I will try to write short note. Your story has, again, moved me to tears. However, I can see the love, hear the giggles, and see the most important part, healing. It will be a long, long time. Your mom and I have been communicating. Very nice talking with her and it sounds like she also needs to talk this out. I have been in contact with the aunt, relative to the recent 25 year old lost in preganancy with the lone husband w/the three small children. We will await whatever outcome this has. I am also passing your website to the newest person. Our friends lost their 33 year old in a car accident three weeks ago, that not being enough, they had just lost their son to flu-like systems about a year ago. So now mom and other son are all that is left, perhaps they can find peace with your website also.
You take care Matt & Maddy. Safeness and peace to both of you,
Love Sharon
Just wondering if you can explain how Liz met Eshwari and became such good friends with her? From what you wrote she seems to be an important person in your live.
Thank you so much for the pic’s & post’s. Be safe and stay happy with each other. Life is a journey and yours is a wonderful trip now. Enjoy it all, it will fly by.
Glad to hear you made it safely! Can not wait to hear how your first week goes, hopefully no more knots on the head :/
This post brought tears to my eyes Matt. I’m glad you’ve brought us along with you, truly glad.
what an amazing adventure to start on, thank you for sharing!
hey everyone…(matt, hope you don’t mind this reminder)
i was just reminded that there are only a few more days to vote for you favorite charity at the christie cookie $25k charity giveaway! The most nominated charity will receive a check for $10,000. The runner-up wins $5,000, and the next 10 will receive $1,000 each. it looks like the liz logelin foundation is still in the running, but be sure that you have voted and have asked your friends to vote!
Nominations must be submitted on or before October 15, 2009. The winning charities will be announced in November 2009. One vote per email address.
here’s the link to vote:
http://www.ilovechristiecookies.com/contest/form.asp
Good luck and take care!
Long time lurker had to finally post! You rock! Love the jet-lagged little Maddie. Soooo painful. we are Americans living in the Middle East with our 3 sons. Jet lag is painful with little people, but worth it. You are giving your girl such a fantastic life. Keep up the good work. And Rachel, you rock too!
Katy
Matt! I would give anything to be in Bangalore while you are there! Looks like you’re staying at the Melange! *sigh* Remember 35 Kingfishers night at the Tavern? Sunday brunch at Casa del Sol… I can only imagine the amazingly meaningful time you’re having, and I’m truly and excitedly happy for you to get this experience! We’ll be there in December if you decide to delay your return to the U.S.!
Steve
I cannot believe how much she has grown since I last saw her! I can’t wait to hear about all of your adventures and finally coordinate some beer-drinking at the Red Lion upon your return.
XOXO
Marie
Matt, your pictures are – as always – so gorgeous. Hope you’re having a productive trip.
good to see you more playful and happy Matt! Glad you all had safe travels. Madeline’s giggles at the end are the BEST.
peace and goodness
Regarding children’s music…MMW has a good CD, it’s called Let’s Go Everywhere.
Love the video! Eshwari sounds like my kinda gal
Keep having a blast and exploring the world and your feelings. I know the book will be great!
How do you solve a problem like diarrhea in India? Really. I want to know.
So glad the rest of your travels went smoothly. love the pic of Madeline when she is extremely tired, she is still adorable. Can’t wait to hear more about Bangalore.
Congrats on this trip! Have wanted to comment since you disclosed your plans for India but didn’t quite know what to day. I’m wishing that you have all the moments you are hoping for while on this journey. No doubt there will be some unexpected ones too. Best to you, Maddy and Rachel. Look forward to hearing more of your adventures.
the first think i said to myself..”im getting that book”
Reading your words again I am reminded that you knew in your heart you *needed* to be here to capture the words and let your heart heal. I am so thankful for you. Thanks for the privilege of traveling along with you…I appreciate it very much. Love and prayers.
Hi Matt,
I only knew abt you today…was watching Rachel Ray Show….in my opinion not many men would do what you did, and you are a very strong person to go thru the most terrible thing…to lost someone you love dearly is a very difficult test to go thru…Madeline is very fortunate to have you as her father…i wish that your life and Madeline will always be filled with happiness and she will grow up and be the most beautiful young lady….
with love from Singapore
Siti…