tuesday.
i slept an hour
and a half
the night before,
and i wanted to
get a little more rest
when maddy woke me
up with her
usual morning noises.
instead of going
to get her
as i usually do,
i let her talk
away and attempt
to entertain herself.
20 mins later,
the talking turned
to crying, so
i reluctantly got out
of bed and
into her room
to retrieve her
from her night prison.
the smell of vomit
damn near
knocked me over
as soon as
i opened her door.
now.
i know i’m
the adult in this
situation, but damn it.
i mean, i can’t handle
vomit, i’ve just never
been able to.
like the time my
brother threw up
pizza and orange soda
all over the
new white carpet
at my mom’s house
and i made
liz
clean it up.
or the time that
liz
threw up all over
the carpet in our first
apartment, and i had
to tie a towel around
my mouth and nose
in order to clean
it up.
she laughed at me
for being
like such a little bitch.
(i tried to get her to clean it up, but she claimed she was too sick).
back to tuesday.
i said, “holymotherfuckingshit”
under my breath
(she is repeating everything these days)
and stepped into her room.
i got her out
of her crib,
gave her
a bath and got
her dressed.
she wanted milk, but
i knew better and
gave her water instead.
i put her
in my bed while i
threw her bedding in
the washer.
as soon as i
got the thing started,
i heard the unmistakable
sound of my child vomiting.
yeah.
again.
bath #2.
outfit #2.
second set of
bedding replaced.
she seemed
way better after the
second puking
episode, so i figured
it was a good
time for us to
head out to
get some pedialyte
and other sick-child essentials.
she of course, fell
asleep on the
five minute drive
to the store,
so instead of waking
her up, i reclined my
seat and took
a nap with her.
eventually she woke me
up so we
went in and did
our shopping.
i spent the
rest of the afternoon
and into the night
holding madeline, because
she got super clingy.
it’s weird, she’s
usually too busy
running around
the house, coloring
on my important
paperwork or playing
with her toys
to spend any time
hanging out with me,
but when she
gets sick, she
ends up like this:
(aka, sweet as sugar).
wednesday.
she seemed better.
she was standing up
in her crib,
repeating, “milk, milk, milk, milk.”
it had been almost 24
hours since she
last puked, so
i figured that i could
give her what
she wanted.
she finished the
bottle, i waited
an hour…
no vomiting, so i
figured i’d take
her to daycare.
before leaving she
did a little decorating:
then we got a quick
photo shoot in
before heading out…
i got her dropped off
and headed home
to write…
i spent most of
my day watching
my phone, hoping that
i wouldn’t get
that dreaded phone call
from daycare.
she made it through
the entire day
with no vomiting.
we had a couple
of visitors
that evening…
our house sitter
during our time
in india, and her
friend who’s gonna
house-sit for
us while we’re gone
for the next month.
then michele stopped
by to talk
about our foundations
and everything else.
thursday.
madeline woke up whiny.
i got her out
of her crib,
got her dressed
and gave her some milk.
she usually heads
straight for her
piano in the morning,
but today she laid in bed
with me
that should
have been my first sign
that something was wrong.
she finished up
her milk and
then the whining
really kicked in…
she seemed so sad,
which led me to
wonder if i
could keep her
home from daycare
due to extreme sadness.
i comforted her
a bit before
deciding that she
should go hang out
with her friends
for the day.
she was still
whining when
i got her strapped
into her carseat.
and it struck
me that
she definitely whines
like her mom
used to when
she was sick.
that made me smile.
we made it less
than a mile
from home
before i heard
that sound again.
shit.
looked in the
rear-view mirror
just as she vomited
all over herself.
damn it.
this time
i wasn’t so
much freaked out
by the vomit as i
was worried about
my little girl.
i decided that
it would be best
to just drive
back to the house
to get her cleaned up.
i got her home,
got her out of the
car and
undressed her on
the porch, then
into the bath
she went…
she threw up
two more times
before noon,
but she seemed to
feel better afternoon,
thanks to
a continuous loop
of yo gabba gabba.
thankfully she hasn’t
been running a fever.
unfortunately she
wasn’t all that
interested in eating
and drinking most
of the day, but
she did have
(some) brown rice,
(a little) pedialyte,
and a ton of ice.
by evening, the whining
was (mostly) over,
and my rambunctious
little girl was back.
she threw two
framed photos
on the floor,
did 10-15 laps
through the house,
and pushed my
desk chair
around my office
for 20 minutes.
and while i finished
up this post,
maddy held her barbie up
up to the tv
and said,
“barbie this gabba”
so that was pretty
fucking cool.
and though it would
have been better
for my writing if
i had
had a quiet
day alone,
i really loved
hanging out with
my sick kid.
i just wish
i had some help
putting this car seat
back together.
You thought about keeping her home from daycare due to extreme sadness. That is the sweetest thing I’ve heard in days and you may just be the most sensitive daddy, ever.
I am glad to hear Maddie is feeling better. I laughes as I read the story as I have been there many times myself with my kids. Get some sleep!
Poor girl and poor dada! I wish I was there to help with the car seat. Just got done putting ours back together after months of reflux spit up. Not quite like vomiting but sure smells bad after a while in the sun.
Maddie’s lucky to have such a great dad!
Carseat puke is THE worst. Glad she is on the mend!
I. don’t. do. vomit.
If I see it, hear it, or smell it, I vomit too. In fact, I almost vomited thinking about Maddy vomiting!
And vomiting after drinking milk is the absolute worst!
Glad she is feeling better!
You just earned one of the many Mommy Merit Badges that we all get during this time in our children’s lives. Sounds like you did a great job though and I hope that Maddy is feeling better. I’m in LA on the West side if you ever need a reprieve… not that it sounds like you don’t have enough support.
So glad she’s feeling better! Poor thing. And poor you for having to clean it up. Vomit is definitely something I can’t handle either. It might just be the only reason I decided not to become a nurse. Haha. The bugs going around this fall and winter have been nasty!
Loved seeing those new pics. She seemed to grow up so much while you guys were in India. I love the Barbie this Gabba thing too.
Wow she is getting big. Glad she is feeling better.
I did have a little giggle about the carseat comment….thankfully my kiddos are out of those things…..hope you got it back together and glad to hear your wee one is better!
Just love your blog!
ahh we have been dealing with sickness for the past 3 days with my 16 month old. Thankfully no puking (yet). I hope she feels better soon but they are so sweet when they are sick!
you are amazing. i cannot imagine dealing with the throwups by myself.
Sorry to hear about Maddy getting sick, but glad to hear she is on the mend.
Matt, I am sorry to tell you I laughed my head off till I was silly with your talk of vomit. Your writing is so awesome that if this is anything like the book, it will be something! I am a grandma not and my son is 36 so I guess I (thankfully now) am missing the whole little ones and vomit.
There is nothing worse then a vomiting child. Well maybe– but I just HATE that for the following ten days after a bout of sickness I jump at EVERY cough. Glad that she is feeling better!!
Vomiting SUCKS! Just wait until it is a McDonald’s hamburger being vomited on your carpet…THAT sucks even more!
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HI matt – have not posted in a long while. hope you got our little gift a few months ago ( little flexible wooden robot
anyway – I am desperatly trying to raise some money for this organization where we got our sweet rescue dog from, they are in trouble, so I thought I could post it here – thanks, beautiful beautiful pics…..
Maddy and my 2 y.o., Abbie, sound a lot alike in their spiritedness. And the need to cuddle when they’re sick.
Sorry to hear she’s been sick. I hope the car seat isn’t a Britax, as those are a REAL pain to put back together.
Good luck! Looking forward to reading how she’s doing over the weekend.
I was babysitting my niece when she got sick during my watch. I offered to take her for the weekend because her parents were celebrating their anniversary.
I didn’t want to scare her parents or send them back home (although, I knew they would). It’s a good thing that their next door neighbor is a pediatrician. She just needed something to calm her stomach.
We went to the park afterwards. That was a relief!
You handled yourself so well. I would have been crying for Joe. Paige never threw up as a child, I always thank God for our “health” department in our house. I know your happy to hold M and it makes you think that Liz is in your arms. But I know this feeling, it is so hard to deal with. Matt really she is growing up and I just can’t believe it…We knew this would happen….didn’t we! Ok what is happening for Christmas with you guys?
Oh man. I feel your pain. When I was a senior in high school, I worked at our local YMCA’s daycare in the afternoons. There was one week from hell when all the kids were coming down with this stomach bug and it was the sort of thing where they’d be running around happily playing one minute and two minutes later they’d be emptying the contents of their stomachs all over the floor. I pretty quickly thought to go over to the pool and invest in nose clips because there were a couple times as I either cleaned a weepy, vomit covered toddler or wiped up the floor that I almost added to the mess myself. Not fun.
Hope her non-vomity-ness lasts.
Matt, I hope Maddy continues to feel better. I remember when my 15-month-old daughter had her first vomiting spell about six months ago. It was awful…I hate to throw up myself, so to see her bracing for it, knowing it was coming and there was nothing I could do for her, was just awful. Lots of Pedialyte and rest…and Yo Gabba Gabba, the Backyardigans, and the like are all you can do. My daughter gets clingy when she’s sick too…totally on-the-go and doesn’t stop to be held otherwise. Maddy just continues to get more and more beautiful, and I’ve always thought she looks so much like Liz, but I was really struck in these pictures with how Maddy’s personality coming through in the pictures, especially in that closeup of her in the navy flowered hoodie where she is really grinning big, resembles what you can see of Liz’s personality in the pictures you’ve posted of her. You are doing a wonderful job…I still can’t imagine how much you must miss Liz, every second of every day.
pedialyte popsicles are the best!!
I concur. Puke sucks! I’d be dry heaving.
My first thought was “Is it the dairy here in the USA?” Was she use to drinking goat milk in India? Or rice. I know that when I travel over seas I can have the dairy of cows or goat but from here. ??? Just a thought.
Feel better girl! and Merry Christmas!
oh man…I feel for ya’….I spent the better part of today cleaning up vomit and the various household items it attached itself to. I handle it okay now after dealing with four kids’ worth, but my fear is that I’ll get sick. Everything seems to fall apart when mom goes down for the count. Oh, and my husband learned a valuable lesson today. Do NOT (repeat DO NOT) attempt to run to the bathroom carrying a vomiting child. As you might imagine this created a sprinkler effect of sorts, covering the walls, hardwood floors, most of the powder room, and a recently showered and dressed husband who was ready to leave for the afternoon. He now knows… vomit sounds = grab the nearest towel, blanket, cup, box, etc….but do NOT run with sick child.
I hope Maddy is all done with the pukies as we call it, and that you’ll stay well!
You handle the vomit-y kiddo with such grace. You are a spectacular dad!
I feel ya. Been there many times. You are doing great! Keep up the good work!
you are awesome! not just for this but for everything i’ve been reading the last few months. I LOVE that since maddy was asleep you took a nap with her in the car!! that is the PERFECT solution and one a mother might not do because of dumb thoughts we would place in our heads from our own mothers or perceived judgments of others – but ALL make believe. You did just what you and maddy needed and took perfect care of both of you. Major Kudos!!
Matt, you have such honesty in your writing.
I love reading your blog-laughing, smiling and also having my heart squished by what an awesome devoted dad you are.
You’re doing a fantastic job Matt. There’s nothing like the love between a daughter and her Dad.
So glad she is better! I am with you on the vomit. I have a 14 and 8 year old and I don’t give a shit who tells you “You will be just fine when it is your OWN kid” Fuck no! It still makes me ill and I feel like a shitty mom gagging while my kids puked in the early years. Now they are good on their own because they know their gagging mother is worthless in this situation other than to run baths and give them towels to clean up.
I feel for you on the reattchement of the straps in the car seat too. Holy shit that sucked. It gets better with age, at least they can tell you they have to puke. I ALWAYS carry those plastic grocery store bags in the car, MORE than once a kid has had to puke in one. Makes it much more “tidy” than all over the damn car seats.
Leather seats are your friend… Always with kids…
Happy she is better. Get it over with for Christmas!
I hate sick children.
Not the children themselves…more so that helpless feeling I get when I can’t make them better.
And I hate carseats.
Not the carseats themselves…more so the helpless feeling I get when I can’t put the fuckers together.
Just buy a new one.
A little nurse trick is to put a bit of vick’s vapor rub under your nose to deal with vomit.
Mouth breathing helps a bit too.
Im the same way with vomit. That doesn’t pay when you work in a hospital. Im glad Madeline is feeling better though! I just started reading your blog (like yesterday). I never thought I could feel so heart broken and smile so much at the same time. Madeline also might be the cutest little girl I’ve ever seen. You have truley mastered the adorable little pigtails.
I love how you just slept in the car… Thats the way to be- fit your schedule into their’s and not the other way round. If you do that it will be less stressful for both of you!
Shit…there is nothing like having to put a car seat back together after washing the cover. I seriously think it takes some sort of engineering degree to get all the clips and straps and everything back on right. Not to mention all the little holes that puke and everything else goes into. Best to just hose the thing down and let it dry in the sun!
I hope that you and little Maddy have an awesome trip to Minnesota and that you have a wonderful Christmas. She’s going to be SO much fun this year!!!
I don’t know what it is about men and vomit… but you are not alone in that one good sir.
I have found if a kid is feeling pukey water will most likely make them throw up for sure or again — pedialite is okay but i like old school remedies like gingerale….my daughter is 6 and still associates gingerale to that fizzy pop she drinks when she’s sick ;o)
I feel you on cleaning up the pukies. My two kids, 4 and 6 and my husband just had the stomach bug a few weeks ago. And just as they were getting better I got it! Ugh! Anyways, a very bland diet is the way to go. Gatorade for the first 12 hours. Start with a teaspoon to see if they can keep that down and work your way up. After that saltines, dry toast. BRAT diet is the way to go. No milk for at least a few days. Glad she is feeling better and hopefully you don’t get it.
Mom dies having triplets, husband left devastated
Atlanta, GA 12/07/2007 08:45 PM GMT (FINDITT)
Andrue Smith was left devastated after his wife died having triplet boys. The 28-year-old said the babies were born last Friday six weeks premature. He says after wife Debbie Smith gave birth to their sons, she sudden got ill.
Doctors were not able to save her. “My wife’s heart had stopped beating. Her body suffered and her brain suffered…It’s not the kind of thing people will recover from,” says Andrue. So he decided to cut life support.
The triplets – Legend, Tristian, and Jaisyn – is what keeps him strong, Andrue says. “My wife, I know she’d expect me to be strong and she’d want me to take care of those kids,” he added. “It’s going to be very, very hard. I can’t imagine life without her.”
The Tucson, Arizona resident is a full-time construction worker, but says he doesn’t know how he is going to afford to raise three babies.
Contributions to Smith and the triplets are being collected at the Victory Assembly of God Church in Tucson. “Absolutely anything anybody can help out with or contribute, I’d be very happy to accept anything. I’ve got my babies, my three boys to worry about, and that’s what’s keeping me strong.”
Just wanted to pass on this info to ensure that Madi is as safe as possible in her carseat.
This website has tons of carseat info.
http://www.car-seat.org/forumdisplay.php?f=5
Safely cleaning haness straps:
http://www.car-seat.org/showthread.php?t=92659&highlight=cleaning+harness+straps
Hi Matt,
Just reading your ‘life story’ and have laughed and cried and laughed some more..
Now the vomit…can you get Vicks Vapor Rub over there, now that stuff is liquid gold, smear a little bit of that under your nose and gad damn you won’t smell shit (no pun intended).
I used it with my 2nd pregnancy when my first born was still in nappies (aka Diapers) and I thought that vomiting on my own child probably constitutes abuse in some way…..
You are an amazing man!!!!
This is a 2 year old blog post, but omg I was laughing so hard reading it! You have such a funny way of describing things. And I can’t believe you once cleaned up after Liz when she was sick! That’s true love, dude. There ain’t nobody in this world I love enough to clean up after! lol I just can’t do it!! That should be your response to the comment debate happening on your recent entry hahaha, that’s gold star love right there. I’m going to be a terrible mother, aren’t I? I can’t help it. I just can’t do that stuff in any capacity. Most of your posts make me cry, but this one made me laugh. I appreciate the break from the tears!
Aww she is so cute