sometimes life just
gets in the way
of the internet.
and there’s been
this other thing happening…
my book is due
to the publisher on
may 15th, which means
my words have been
going to
a different place.
so you can soon
expect more regular updates.
speaking of…
here’s an update
on maddy’s dr. visit.
i’ve said it before
and i’ll say it
again, one of my great
joys in life
is visiting with maddy’s dr.
she reassures me when
i need it most,
and can make
me believe that
i’m actually pretty
good at this parenting thing.
(even though i often feel the exact opposite way).
the appointment itself was awesome.
she answered all of
my questions without
laughing at me.
the measurements taken
by the nurse indicated
that madeline’s still growing,
which i suppose is
a testament to the
fact that
she’s been eating,
drinking and sleeping.
a lot.
this go ’round,
maddy was
25 pounds, 10 ounces
(35th percentile)
and 33 3/4 inches tall.
(45th percentile)
(which means she’s 57% of the way to liz’s adult height).
updated (and confusing) growth chart below:
it’s been awhile, but
someone actually
guessed both her
height and weight correctly
(and a lot of people were close).
congrats to christine k.
on the way to
her is some music
that should help her
with her running,
and a book that isn’t
about fire trucks
or curious george.
what else has been
going on?
well, lucky for us,
brooke was able to
move to los angeles,
thanks to a job transfer.
that means we all get
to spend a
lot more time together
even more important,
maddy gets her
nails polished a
lot more often.
we’ve had a few
visitors in town lately.
there was jen
and family, who drove up
from san diego
(after flying in from the mn)
to spend some time
with us.
maddy and her
boys formed a
band and played some music
while i made dinner
for everyone
(little known fact…i’m not a bad cook, i’ve just haven’t been too interested in cooking since liz died).
tiffany came up
from orange county
(after flying in from ohio),
and joined us for dinner.
tiffany is a blog
reader who is now
married to a widower,
and she reached out
to me after i
first wrote about brooke,
telling me she’d be
happy to talk to
her if she was interested.
she and brooke
have become fast internet
friends, and now
real life friends.
it’s always great
to talk to someone
who has been in a
similar situation,
and brooke needs
support as much as i do.
i paid a visit
to the woman
who delivered madeline.
i wanted to deliver
something important
to her,
so i stopped by
her office and
we had an incredible conversation.
she’s another person
who has been
amazing over the
past two years,
and i wanted to thank
her for everything
she has done.
i saw one of
my all-time favorite bands
(pavement)
play their first
north american show in
well over a decade.
was amazed to
think about the
last time they toured.
i was in high school
and too young
to get into the show.
and that night,
i arrived with my
friend, the bastard,
driving a car with
a car seat in it.
i also found two
hair clips in
my pocket.
i really felt
old all of a sudden.
photos?
here are a
few from the last
couple of weeks…
the griffith observatory:
at olvera street:
travel town:
at griffith park:
before daycare:
all dressed up:
i’ve been warned
by nearly every parent
that eventually
there would be a
language explosion
with my child.
and yeah, over the
past few weeks
my best girl has
been talking constantly
(she is so her mother).
but it’s been
so incredibly fun
to listen to her.
everyday she says
something that surprises me.
like a few weeks
ago when she said,
“go away, daddy”
while she was in
the bath tub.
needless to say,
but i did not
follow her instructions.
or when i cough,
she says, “it’s okay, daddy”
while patting me on
the back.
the other day we
played outside,
and i caught
madeline singing,
then prompted her
to do it again
while i had the
camera on.
then we talked about
our fears
and then we worked
together to
get over them.
and then she told me
what to do.
life with madeline
gets more exciting
and fun each and
every day.
i mean, it’s so
awesome that
we have full conversations.
she likes to tell me
all about what
happened at
daycare each day,
and is especially interested
in one boy in particular.
she’s also suddenly became a
voracious listener.
not so much to
my instructions
(she is two afterall),
but she will
sit patiently and
listen to me as i
read to her,
that is until the
book is finished.
she gets frantic when
she realizes one
is coming to an end,
and it’s not just
because she thinks she’s
going to bed,
because we don’t just read
at night.
sometimes we’ll read the
same book 10 times,
or we’ll read 15
different books.
either way, she
just can’t get enough.
don’t get me wrong,
she absolutely loves
her yo gabba gabba,
but lately it’s been
the books that
make her really happy.
and just when we
thought we’d be
staying home for
a bit, we’re heading
back to the mn in mid
may for a wedding, then
up to the sf to
celebrate auntie deb’s
graduation from law school.
in the mean time,
i’ll be working
my ass off
in order to meet
my final deadline.
let’s hope the
words keep coming.
137 Comments
I have to echo the doc here: you’re pretty damned good at this parenting thing. We all feel the opposite, quite regularly. And then they do something to make you realize you’re at least doing something (or a lot of somethings) right.
I’m really glad to see that everything is going so well with you, Maddie, and Brooke. I look forward to hearing the word explosion from my 18 month old – it’s still a lot of gibberish.
I look forward to reading your book!
Have safe travels.
She is too beautiful! You’re doing an amazing job, Matt.
Great update! Maddy gets prettier everyday.
Looking forward to the book and having you back posting more often (Ill let the delay slide this time but dont push it mister)
Glad to hear you’re cooking again! Someday I’ll try that again too lol
I read this and just sat here grinning, thinking “oh matt–its only gonna get better from here” My girl started talking at 9 months old and Im not even kidding-she hasnt shut up since. Its fucking awesome! The things that come outta her mouth–her simple mind–purely amazing…Enjoy the chats!! I’ve been keeping a lil journal of things the PIT has said…I go back and read it and just laugh…
Keep up the excellent work Matt–you’re doing a hell of a lot better than you think:)
They will. As someone who has been devouring your words for a long time now, I am one hundred percent confident in you, and certain that the words will come, exactly when you need them.
I feel very happy for you with this post. I know nothing is perfect in this life, but there are some beautiful, sparkly things floating about in yours, and I hope they are lighting up the darkness as much as they seem to be.
As always, I wish happiness & health to you & yours from me & mine.
@kristeneileen
PS – we’re back in the OC now, so maybe I can finally make good on that birthday party invite I extended back in fall of 08.
Happy to see things are going so well! She is getting to be such a big girl with all her talking. Still as cute as ever if not cuter!!
I am looking forward to the book too!
I’ve definitely been having real life getting in the way of my blog life lately. Sigh.
I so enjoyed reading this update Matt. Thank you for sharing how much Maeline continues to grow and amaze you. It must be heartwarming for your and Liz’s parents to read.
So happy to see Maddie doing so well!
Poor Maddie being scared of the stove, I was wondering what it was myself! Thoughts of some Indian icon/god entered my head!! Good to hear you getting on good with Brooke. D
Thanks for the update, I have to agree with Maddie’s doctor, you are doing a fantastic job with Maddie and it is fun seeing her grow into all these new stages. Rock on Matt, Maddie and Brooke.
My 5 y/o daughter is sitting across the room from me. She was coloring as I sat here watching the videos above. Finally my daughter goes, “Why won’t she open it? It’s just a stove!” LOL!!
I am glad Brooke moved to LA and has a new friend who has been though what she is basically now going through. It’s not as though you are simply a single father with a toddler, it’s much more than that, I think. Kudos to all of you for handling this all so gracefully and finding happiness in one another.
Please tell me you bought her that guitar! She looked so cute holding it!
Good luck on the deadline. Can’t wait to read.
Looking forward to the book!
And you are a great father.
Good luck with the words! And congrats that Brooke is in LA now.
I’m so glad Madeline loves books, haha. The world needs more and more kids like that. Someday she can read your book! (And hopefully a few of mine too…)
It didn’t take a doctor to tell you that you’re one great Daddy, Matt. Thousands of us could have, and already have, told you that very thing!! I’m soooo happy for you, Maddy, & Brooke!
awesome. awesome. awesome. love the update. love that she’s growing and learning and laughing and thriving. love love that brooke is in the LA.
congrats, christine k! and congrats to brooke on the move and to auntie deb on finishing law school!
love the photo of maddy in the white hoodie before daycare. gorgeous girl.
SO jealous you saw pavement. were you at coachella? when pavement broke up, i had just graduated college. i was old enough to see them, but i never did. SADNESS.
i got trolled by someone last week asking why i “rip off” your blog. THAT was cool (and also a lot WTF).
Loved the update – fun fact (you might already know this) children at 2 are roughly %50 of their adult height – so it looks like Maddie may be a bit taller than Liz. Can’t wait for the book!
Thanks for the update! Glad things are working out with you, Brooke, and Maddy. Maddy is so little…but before you know it, she’ll be as tall as YOU! Also – congrats to Auntie Deb’s graduation from law school! What a huge accomplishment. Losing a loved one is not easy on anyone in the family. Keep on going, you inspire many! Take care.
You should have a meet up for blog readers in SF! My partner and I both went to Scripps, and we have a almost 2 year old daughter who would love to play with Maddy. The Children’s Playground in GG park is super cool.
Thanks for the update and happy writing and traveling! Congrats on Brooke’s move!! How awesome.
My daughter also had a word explosion at 2 yrs old. She’s almost 5 now and hasn’t stopped talking yet. (She’s actually talking in my ear as I type this.)
So happy for you and Maddy that Brooke was able to move to LA.
Good luck finishing the book! Can’t wait to read it.
Well, first I have to say I was so close in my guess (off by 1″ and by 4 oz!). Glad someone finally won.
Hope you meet your deadline and am definitely looking forward to seeing it published.
You’re an awesome dad, don’t forget that! I’m glad to read that things are going so well in all your lives. Congrats on auntie deb’s law school grad and I hope someday to come down and meet all you awesome people.
I’m finding screeches and spit-filled blurbs amazing at the moment, actual words and sentences would blow me away.
Enjoy it.
Matt, I am so happy for you, Brooke and Maddy. Twenty years ago I was in the same position as Brooke. I met a widower with twin 2 and a 1/2 year olds and a 5 year old. His wife had passed away due to complications while giving birth to the twins. We recently celebrated our 19th wedding anniversary. Please let Brooke know that I would be happy to help her with any questions she has or advice she needs. I know it can be a bumpy road sometimes – but so worth it. Our kids (we had a 4th) are all grown up now and I miss the days when they were Maddy’s age. You and Maddy seem so happy since Brooke has come into your lives. I loved seeing Maddy’s nails polished and reading Brooke’s twitters about “girl’s day out” and “making cupcakes.” Very important things in a little girl’s life. I am excited for the three of you and wish you all the best. Debbie
she is so cute and getting so big. I love her pink boots
I could not agree more with the doctor, you are doing an Amazing job and just watching the videos proves that. Don’t be so hard on yourself Matt, you have a beautiful daughter who is starting to chat away and is growing like a weed, you are doing a great job!
Can not wait to get the book!!! And you will have no problem finishing it.
Best Wishes!
I want a pair of Maddy’s boots in my size. STAT.
Congrats on the book! The video of Maddie and that stove is a riot; you are a great dad!
Looks like you have stopped wearing Lizs’ wedding rings. How sad.
You & another friend are about in the same place on your book writing & publishing…waiting to see how the drama and suspense of it all plays out
Bonne chance in the final leg! Let me know if you need any frenchie spices for the kitchen frenzy going on there…I’ll send the good sheeeet yo (that’s how Guy says it :p) A+ (short for À Plus Tard-yea, continuing the French ed for your next visit).
yeahhhhhh
so glad for an update, was sitting on pins and needles waiting for Maddie’s height/weight check!
I am so glad Brooke has moved to LA! That is wonderful!
Ya know, if you were on here telling the world what a stellar, amazing, unfailing parent you were.. I would be worried about you.. the self-doubt and being halfway convinced the child may never survive you is part of the deal.. You’re doing just fine!
Thanks for the update.
The language development is great fun. It’s especially funny with children that are not your own….they are so intense in their conversation, I smile and nod and hope they don’t realise that I don’t always understand what they are saying to me!
I’m pleased Maddie is looking after you when you cough
All the best with your deadline. I am looking forward to your book.
we love your updates, matt. and couldn’t be happier that you are doing so well, that maddie is doing so well and growing! we are also happy that you have brook in your life, and happy for brook that she has you and maddie.
it’s a testament to the wonderful loving people that you both are, YOU to step out on that limb and open your heart to love again, BROOK to open her life up to loving a widower and his little girl. it is such goodness all around. sending lots of good mojo your way!!!!!
Everything seems to be going so well! Yeah! Your blog brings a big smile to my face. So happy for all of you!
Total random question… Which law school is Auntie Deb graduating from? My SIL is graduating from a Bay Area Law school this spring too…
Glad to see your update! Congrats to Auntie Deb =) so happy for her.
and im so happy for you and Maddy that Brooke was able to relocate! that’s wonderful for all three of you!
wishing you three the much happiness you deserve,
Lori
psst Maddy’s nails look fab! way to go Brooke =)
Matt, I’m a reader and never comment, and a mom, and a teacher, and after watching you with Madeline and the scary stove I had to comment. That was such a fabulous way to deal with her fear of the stove. It was so great that you documented it, too. I loved the way you talked her through it and then she just ran right over and looked into that scary stove. We parents can always learn new tricks from each other. Thanks!
A few things…first, if that child gets any sweeter I’m gonna have to scream. Her little “ok’s” and “Daddy’s” are adorable. Second, the pic with the 3 of you in the train? Did you happen to notice the smile on Brooke’s face as she looks at Maddy? That’s an incredible woman Matt and I have never met her. She genuinely adores Maddy and I’m sure she kinda likes you too. lol Third, the fact that you recognize how difficult it must be for Brooke to be in a relationship with you is a testament to the kind of man you are inside and out. Not to say that you aren’t a great person to date or anything but it’s got to be hard on her. No matter what, Liz is with you all the time and will be forever. AND that is how it should be, but to be the ‘other’ woman has got to be challenging. Last, it’s truly heartwarming, tear jerkingly beautiful to see you happy. Yes you were happy with Maddy from birth on, but cmonnnn…there’s an intense loss and massive hole in your heart from losing Liz. You smiled through many pictures in the past 2 or so years and the pain was SO palpable. It’s just a good thing to see the smile without so much of the pain pouring out. Because that pain? It would break my heart every single time. And you deserve so very much more than the constant loss. You think you’re just an average single father as the result of an awful situation? I can tell…but you really are so much more. Ya may just want to stop one day and give yourself a genuine pat on the back for a job extremely well done.
Now…when do we get the book? Ya know…the average everyday pathetic reader waiting for our word-King to bless us with his offering? lol Have a great day!
So glad to hear all is well with you and Maddy! So exciting that Brooke was able to move closer to you, I’m sure that makes things a lot easier.
It sounds like life is really great for you right now and I couldn’t be happier. I know a huge piece of your heart is missing, but Liz would want nothing more than for you and Maddy to be happy, carrying her smile and her stories along with you.
Lots of luck on the upcoming deadline! Can’t wait for the book!
So much fun to read the update. Thanks so much for sharing. The videos are fantastic. They’ll be a treasure to watch when she’s older. She’ll ask to watch them over and over. My big kids LOVE to watch old videos of themselves. I wish I had more to show them.
Can’t wait to read the book, too. Can’t believe it’s just around the corner.
Always thinking about you and Maddy and I’m so glad you two are doing so well.
Just Curious, I think that those of us who have come to care for Matt and Maddy are so very pleased to see Matt moving ahead in a healthy, happy, positive way. Your comment is cruel.
@JustCurious: we all grieve in our own time and heal in different ways. what may seem sad to you may seem healthy and necessary to others. why judge?
Matt, you ROCK as a parent. You really, really do. And I know, cause I rock as a parent, too. Ha! Just kidding, mine tasted dog food today. oops!
My 2-year-old has a new favorite obsession, and that would be “watchin’ Maddy.”
Ooooo, you are coming to my neck of the woods! If you will be visiting for a few days and SF is foggy, you ought to check out the Tilden Park carousel and Little Farm in Berkeley. Us East Bayers enjoy sunshine while SF gets cold and wintery in the summer. Another great spot in the East Bay is the Berkeley Marina for kite watching or Cordinices Park for a scary, but fun cement slide. By the way, loooove the video of Maddy and the scary stove (sounds like a children’s book). What a brave girl – way to work through it!
Seeing Maddy being scared of the stove was just SOO cute…but you were a great dad, like always!
So happy to hear about Brooke’s move closer!!
Can’t wait for your book!
I was saying to myself “did you hear that?, she is only two years old and she counted!” She is so smart! Two hands over your ears daddy! LOL
Relax Patty. If Matt found the comment cruel then he wouldn’t have approved it. I noticed the lack of the wedding rings to. Keep up the good work with your daughter Matt, she’s beautiful.
Loved the update! The videos are awesome. She’s such a sweetie pie. I love the whole cover your ears thing.
And it’s so great that Brooke was able to move to LA!
I can’t wait until the book comes out.
Hey Matt,
I just love watching video’s of her, but my all-time fave is the “french fry/fentanyl” one, ahahahah.
She’s such a little beauty, you’re in so much trouble Matt. And I love the little dress she’s wearing with that adorable sweater.
P.S. Still investigating hotels for Paris…And Amsterdam….Staying in Ams for 2 nights, you been? recommendations?
Got a blog finally, it sucks but I’m working on that. My life isn’t nearly as interesting as yours and dear Madeline’s.
Have a great Monday morning
Love, love, love the update! We could all look at Maddy and see that you are doing great as a father. She is thriving!
Congrats to you and Brooke! This is a huge step and I am so happy for you. Happiness with a mate is such a special thing. It’s good that Maddy is quite fond of her too!
hi matt,
great to see your new update, im a follower of your blog.
now, i don’t know if this is appropriate to say but i think your a cool person, so i wanna share this story with you.
i recently watched a tv show, its about a woman who’s husband is a widower and after he died, she found out his will was to bury with his first wife. she was hysterical afterwards. i immediately thought of you, coz i think its a hard decision on anyone and you might have to face it one day. if it was me, i wouldn’t know what to do. one hand is your beloved first spouse and on the other hand is someone who lives with you for several decades and ofcoz u love her too. so who should we choose to be with after we died?!
matt,im by no means to offend u or anything, just wanna share this thought with you. glad to see u, brooke and madeline so well and happy~
Don’t ever doubt your parenting…you are amazing. You have shown her so much of the world already and given her massive love. She is a lucky girl.
Your updates are always entertaining to read. You and Maddy (and now Brooke) always seem to be in motion…glad you’re enjoying the ride.
The book reading can get exhausting, but it’s worth sticking to it. With my son we eventually moved on to me reading chapter books (Harry Potter). One day, he didn’t want me to read to him any longer–and thankfully this meant he’d rather read to himself. I miss it a bit (I consider myself to be a pretty good “out loud” reader), but I have a kid with darned good reading comprehension.
could not be happier for you guys
Matt, I’ve never commented before. I discovered your blog a couple of months ago and then read the whole thing. Your words are great: spare, direct and descriptive. Your photos are wonderful too and somehow anchor the telling of your difficult story.
My wife died about two months before Liz (Feb. 2, 2008), leaving me and my 6-year-old daughter on our own. Kylie, now 8, loves the pictures and videos of Maddy. If you and Maddy ever decide to meet up with your readers in NYC again, we’ll try to come by.
The dating/relationship thing is joyful and difficult and confusing, at least for me. I’m happy for you, Maddy and Brooke and wish for you whatever you desire for yourselves.
Adam
You are doing an awesome job!
You are doing great & the proof is in the pudding so to speak as Maddy is a great little girl who is growing & thriving each day!
We had a great time hanging out with the 3 of you and the boys still speak of Maddy (Jack may have an affinity for blonde girls now) & they loved Maddy’s toys…if I end up buying a piano, I blame you!
Brooke is AWESOME…why she is with you we’ll never know….
Must be the kick ass music collection & your “hobo chic” style…
Hope to see you all soon!
Great update! I have a 2 yr old son & love having conversations with him everyday. He is very bossy especially to his sisters but lots of fun too. I am so happy for all three of you & look forward to your book!
she’s absolutely beautiful! I’m glad that things are going well for everyone!
Good Luck with the deadline!
Can’t wait for the book to come out !!
So Close!!!! Dammit!!! Oh well! Ha! I guess her weight but not her height!
I’m so happy that Brooke gets to live closer to you and Maddy! Its so nice to hear that you are in a relationship!
I loved the videos and pictures, she looks so much like Liz!! And it seems you have one smart kid there, with all the book reading!! So Awesome!! Keep up the awesome parenting!!!
You are as I always have said a Great Daddy!!!!!
Good luck with finishing up your BOOK!!! Can not wait to read it!! Keep the words flowing and the pictures Coming!!!
Matt, you’re amazing! I’m so proud of you!
You are my role model for when I become a parent some day. Maddy is so clearly thriving and happy, and she obviously feels safe whenever her Daddy’s around. (The whole stove thing is hilarious, but also a testament to your relationship … she got braver when you were near it, like she knew she was protected.)
Thrilled that Brooke was able to make a move that is making all three of you happier!
My favorite is my 20-month old, Allison, walks around saying “Gank oo” (thank you) and “welcome” all the time. I also think she says douche but we won’t tell her dad that is what is coming out her mouth. It sounds kind of like juice so I can get away with it. Better than the words I use when she isn’t around. LOL. It is fun to listen to them talk. I was also thrilled when I got Allison out of bed and she searched her crib for her glo-worm and told me “not working” because the batteries were dying out. The things they pick up. My 3 and a half year old shocks me with things she says too. It’s so much fun and makes being a parent so worth it. Thanks for posting your life in words and pictures.
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Never apologize for living your life Matt!!!!
We’re all happy for you so long as your happy!!
Now stop reading all these comments and go have more fun!!
Cheers!!
Matt, she is such a doll! I love that she is talking more and more each day. Enjoy, and keep them coming.
Hey Matt I have never commented before but I have been reading your blog for almost 2 years now. Maddy is such a sweetheart and smart girl. I have an almost 2 year old little girl myself and Maddy acts alot like my daughter. I know they would be good friends. You are doing an amazing job as a Daddy! I also wonder how my husband would do if something were to happen to me, and if he is half as good as father as you than I have nothing to worry about. Maddy is a lucky little girl to have such a great daddy.
I can’t wait to read your book! If you are ever near or in Indianapolis I would love to get our little one’s together to play!
i can’t believe how close I was I guessed 25 lbs 10 ounces and she is 25 lbs 9 ounces and i guessed her height at 33.23″ and she was 33 3/4. She is getting to be so grown up now, Keep sending the video’s i love watching them.
Glad things are going well for you, was wondering if you were going to move back to MN or if Brooke was going to move to California. i really hope you guys come out to Chicago some time would love to send time with you all.
Good Luck with the book, it won’t be long until you are finished, can’t wait to read it.
Rosann
WOW.. so much has changed, for the better which is great. I haven’t been keeping up with you & Maddie since the recent lost of my only sister, but I am amazed at how much Madeline has grown since I last visited the site. It is great to see how far you both have come since losing Liz. I have been wondering how Awesome Auntie Deb’s been doing, great to hear that she is graduating from law school, that is wonderful. Great update..keep em coming..
xoxo Stephanie
i’m so glad you’re surrounded by happiness – maddy, brooke, weddings, graduations! you deserve it!
We second (or third) the SF-area gathering!
Loved the video!..Ive been dying to take my 2.5 yr old to travel town..
Just when i thought my daughter was the only one covering her ears and listening to airplanes..i see that we all share the same experience..so cool.
Thanks for sharing an update. Hope things continue to go well for all of you. She’s a sweetie.
Matt – Please do not apologize for not being here… living your “real” life with your beautiful daughter and Brooke is frankly much more important than keeping all of us happy with your updates.
Best of luck to you as you seek to meet your deadline – you can do it!!
Thanks for the update…I was beginning to go through Matt & Maddy withdrawals:)
I’m glad you mentioned Brooke’s need for support. I’ve been thinking about her and wondering how she’s handling everything. And now with a move (albeit a good move!) on top of it, I’m sure she’s having to make some adjustments. And while I’m sure this whole relationship with you AND Maddy is overwhelmingly positive and wonderful, I imagine there are the times when confusing/difficult emotions sneak up on her. The fact that you are aware of that and seem to be super supportive just confirms what a kick ass person you are.
Anyway, enough rambling. Best of luck with the book!
Oh, and could Madeline BE any cuter with her talking and singing?! Yeah, I didn’t think so. And smart, holy shit! I’m feeling like my 3.5 year old nephew is really far behind! Good work:)
Just Curious–it seems that Liz’s ring is on Matt’s right hand. Besides, does it really matter?
That little girl is so precious! She is looking very grown up now. You are doing a great job with her!
You have an incredibly bright and beautiful little girl.
I’m glad to hear the job situation worked out for Brooke and y’all will be getting to spend more time together.
I have been reading this for so long, and I have never posted! I just had to tell you that your little Maddy is really starting to look a bit more like you. I think it might be those bangs!
I think the stove looks like a mask (at least in the videos). You could be asking her to open someone’s head!
Great update, happy to hear the happiness!
I can’t even believe you would think you suck at parenting. You’re great and all natural you’re not even aware of it. That little girl is growing up so fast.
Oh, I loved that stage so much, and it’s gotten better and better every day since (my daughter is 3 years and a bit). The language, that is. The behavior, not such a smooth path.
And what she gets back from your face when she talks and sings is that she is amazing. Your doctor is right.
If you can believe it, because I know this will sound impossible, it will get even more exciting, loving, and fun every day and just when you think the experience can’t get any better, it will. Amazing isn’t it?
I agree. You’re raising quite the little lady and now I can say that with confidence having spent an afternoon with her. I think Liz would be proud.
It must be so nice having not only an extra set of hands around these days, but also someone you enjoy spending time with, someone that makes you smile and a “girl’s touch” for Maddy, which lets face it, you don’t have. I feel confident when I say that with Brooke around, you will never cut Maddy’s hair again by yourself.
I think it’s going to be a great summer for you guys!
Matt, Love the update! Maddy is gorgeous as ever. Love, love her lil fingernail polish. Too cute! So happy for you and Brooke and wishing you only the best of happiness… you deserve it after all you’ve been through. Can’t wait for your book, and hopefully meeting you and Maddy at one of your tour dates.
Just Curious
Posted 4/25/2010 at 3:14 pm
Looks like you have stopped wearing Lizs’ wedding rings. How sad.
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Possibly Matt decided that the rings would be safer if not worn daily…I’m sure they are valuable monetarily & sentimentally. Or maybe he put them away for safe keeping in hopes Maddy may use the rings someday. Whatever Matt’s reason, it’s not your place to pass judgment.
Cannot wait for the book. Good luck.
Book tour=DENVER
Get it done.
So so happy for the update! I’d still like a full post on Paris. Your little girl is such a doll. You are a great parent and are both lucky to have each other.
I’m with Erica…we need a full post on Paris!
sick raybans matt.
Hey matey,
Glad to hear that the appointment with the doc went well. You’re doing such a wonderful job! Well done!
Just wanted to give you my 5 cents worth about Brooke…
I’m so happy to see all 3 of you so happy. You guys are wonderful and I’m happy to hear that Brooke has support from someone in a similar situation. I’m so glad that she now lives a little bit closer to you guys!
I’m a stepmum to 3 boys (16, 15 and 5 and I’m about to turn 29!) and I have to say, its not always as easy as people think it is, but so utterly rewarding. I love seeing pictures of Brooke and Maddy together. Its just so special, so utterly wonderful.
Our situations are vastly different, but in some ways, are quite similar too and I just wanted to provide a little bit of support etc
Love ya guys from Down Under
I didn’t think I was going to cry again…..until after I watched your “hairplane” clip that is. It was a sweet cry though.
It’s almost the one year anniversary of a very sad day for me. I started following your blog approximately 6 mths ago upon a friends recommendation. This year has been tough for me, but she wanted me to believe in LOVE again; consequently, she eagerly persuaded me to start at your beginning. It was her belief, and now mine, that there really are men out there that know how to love deeply. She softly stated “Because you’ve never had it with him, you don’t know what love really looks like. Go, read, watch, absorb….and witness what it is when a man truly loves.”
Your daughter is a testament of said LOVE.
and now
Since I now know how to recognize it, I won’t let it pass me by …. next time.
You’re doing an awesome job with your best girl and it certainly shows! Keep it up and can’t wait for the book! So glad Brooke has moved closer to you both…what a blessing I’m sure!
Did Maddy get a fake id when you were at Olvera St? That’s what I’ll always remember it best for. Ha!
Matt, I can’t wait to read your book…and I think you need this.
http://www.etsy.com/listing/45683447/i-write-stuff-monster-magnet
Erika
I’ve been following your story since July 2008. I’m sorry, Matt, but I can’t help but feel so incredibly sad for Liz to see how quickly you’re going now that you’ve found someone else. My heart breaks for her when I see that you’ve taken off her rings and moved this new woman to LA already. Your blog used to be about, as you put it, moving through grief, about enjoying life while mourning someone you lost, but now it just… gives me a gross feeling. I don’t know.
Hi Matt,
So on saturday I was sitting in front of the merry go round wacing to my 2 and 3 year old as they passed by, and then I saw the beautiful Maddy, with her cute brown dress and matching shoes. She was SO! Lovely and had so much life in her <3. I wanted my kids to meet her. But I was too shy. She looks just like her wonderful mommy. I am so happy to have had to chance to see her and you after reading your blog for a year or so.
Hope you guys are doing wonderful.
Rita <3
*smiles* I love the way she talks. She’s just so cute. Both of my younger kids just enjoy her videos so much. You’re doing a great job. We all think we’re pretty crap parents when we’re actually doing alright.
So happy for you, Matt….after everything you have been through, you truly deserve to be happy.
The stove looks like another robot creature–maybe you and Maddy can paint it together.
And while in SF: CA Academy of Sciences is amazing, and don’t forget to get Maddy a tiny bowie (or maybe even pavement!) tee at Wishbone in the Sunset.
She is the cutest little girl! i love that she was really scared of that stove in your back yard, but that you guys worked through it, and then the HAIRPLANE!! SO PRECIOUS!!
What a wonderful
gift
you three are.
we miss you out in the Internet world – but glad to hear that things are going so well! the videos of maddy are adorable – what a little lady. good luck wrapping up the book!
i like the way Madeline allows you to believe your thoughts and suggestions are *your* idea…
humouring you so nicely with her constant “okay”s..
she tells you to open it- you ask her if you should open it.. and she says okay.. like you had the best idea ever.. nice girl humouring her old dad like that.
I hope that made sense more than just in my head.
it is late.
I have missed ya!
Haven’t read all the comments. I for one was happy we hadn’t heard from you – meant you didn’t need us – that’s a very good thing. So very happy to hear of Brooke’s move. Looking forward to the day when you’re too busy for us.
I can’t wait for the book!! But you have share more about Paris, it’s my favorite place in the world, I’ve been there 14 times. Did Maddie love it?
I LOVE that you ask her questions and instead of saying, “yeah” or “yes,” she always says, “OKAY!” (or “ho-kay”)
You are an incredible dad. So happy for you & Madeline that Brooke is now in LA!
I have missed your updates, but am thrilled that life is getting in the way! Enjoy peace and happiness.
Great videos! My 2 year old had her language explosion recently too, and I get the “okay”s all the time too…as if HER saying “Okay” will make ME say “Okay”/agree to something.
Love her painted nails, too!
Wow, awesome post!
Glad the three of you are doing well. My mom always said, if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything. How about not judging. There is no set limit for grieving. Leave the man alone. We are on this earth to lift up and support, not tear down.
Blessings to the three of you and hope the weeks ahead go smoothly.
Glad to see you blogging again! Looks like you all are doing well. Glad to see it.
Wow, Brooke moved to LA. Congrats!
My boyfriend is moving in this weekend. It’s so weird for me to have another guy moving into “our” house. But also good.
I am happy for you.
Matt,
I so love Maddie’s pink high top shoes!!! Where did you get them? I have 3 girls, who have to wear pink everyday! I also can’t wait for the book. I hope you come to Ohio ( Columbus).
Keep up the great job!
apropos of nothing…
Yo Gabba Gabba + Coachella = hilarity
http://brobee.blogspot.com/
Adorable pictures as usual. Love the videos. I asked my 4 year old son what might be inside that she was afraid of (before you said nothing) and he said “uh…ants?”
My cousin is graduating from Law School in San Francisco in early May too. I wonder if he goes/went to school with Auntie Deb! Small world.
I am so glad that your life is exactly what it is and where it is. It has been a privilege to go with you on this journey and I can hardly wait for your book. I wish you every happiness.
I absolutely love to hear and see Maddy. From the get go she has been a wonder and a joy. Brooke is a gift to you and you to her. Enjoy every minute. I am delighted she moved so you can all be together.
Okay, can we please understand that just because some might express a sadness or displeasure in Matt’s choices regarding Brooke does not mean that they are “judging” him?
I’m personally thrilled for Matt, and think that more than enough time has passed for him to move forward with romance. But I don’t think anyone else is “bad” for not feeling the same as I do.
I adore this blog, but it is indeed public and when your life is out in the open people are going to comment on it. I certianly don’t think anyone should be name calling or anything of that nature, but really what is the harm in expressing your sadness for Liz or displeasure with the situation? It’s an opinion to which everyone is entitled.
I think Liz will be happy as long as Maddy & you are healthy, happy & safe..
the person who is gone is the only one who doesn’t have to grief isn’t it?
Maddy’s precious by the way
can’t wait for the book!
Hi Matt and Maddy,
have been falling your blog for a very long time and Im loving it. Can’t wait to read your book and was wondering when you think it will be in stores like barnes and noble? Maddy is just soo cute and Love watching all the videos.
Matt!!! I had a baby in November so I haven’t checked on you in a couple of months. I am soooo incredibly happy for you and Maddy. Bless you all!!!
Inspired by you…Took our Lucy (20m) to Travel Town yesterday – this after braving Disneyland earlier in the week and having her refuse to ride anything but the Choo Choo Trains. Remember the pic of Maddy you took inside the train? Yea…we took the same one…only crop out Maddy and crop in Lucy, screaming hysterically, stamping her feet, bright read and scared as hell! Fun times! Thanks for the inspirtation ;0
Thanks for the update. Sounds like you guys are enjoying your spring. I love the videos too. They always make me smile. She’s such a smart girl. And good luck with the book. We’ll all be waiting!
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Yay! A Matt and Maddy fix!
I am so glad to hear that Brooke moved close to you – and that she is reaching out to other wives/girlfriends of widowers. It must be tough for her, too. But from the pictures, you three look so content and happy together. I am sure LiZ is proud that you have found someone to care for, and that there is another woman to love her little girl.
You are such a great dad – as always, thanks for sharing Madeline!
Hi Matt, I hope everything’s going great on finishing up your book. You’re an inspiration for all of us!
Hi Matt,
I order books for our library system and was wondering if you have a title for your book yet and who will have it available? Amazon? Ingram? Hope a travel book is in the works as well…Anthony Bourdain, add child minus food.
Thanks much.
Hi Matt,
In that last video I totally saw you in Maddie! I know she is the spitting image of Liz, but there’s lots of you in there too.
Regarding THE WORDS…argh, losing the words is my worst fear! So far I haven’t, but there’s always that pervading fear. I’m starting a new e-magazine and with a six-month-old that I am at home with all day, I do have to chase the words down or beg them to come during one of his naps, but inevitably they still appear…sometimes when I am in the tub after a long day winds to an end.
Are you around May22-28? Konrad, Finn and I will be in Long Beach, and I’d love to introduce you to my guys! I’ll send you an email.
Hope you’re all doing well…
Tamara
Matt, I’m so happy for you and Brooke=)
Maddy has grown so much ~ she’s beautiful. Love the videos of her signing <3
Reenie
Matt:
I’m a faithful reader & occasional commenter and I have to say, you have done an amazing job with Maddy. She’s SO smart & beautiful! I can’t believe how fast she’s growing and how much she talks — and so clearly too!
Btw, tell her I think her nails & dress (in the videos) are beautiful.
You’re an awesome example to single dads all over the world. Way to go.
Loved the videos!
Please do a book tour in Canada?
Thinking of you today…Happy Mother’s Day to you and all the dads who are remembering the special person who brought joy into their lives.
Matt, I would like to take this time to issue you an apology. I have made some unkind remarks here on your site and for that I am deeply sorry. I was judgemental regarding your situation and how you live your life is none of my business. I don’t know you so it’s not up to me to cast judgements. I hope you, Brook and beautiful little Maddy will live a long and happy life together and I wish you the best of luck on where your life’s journey takes you. Peace
Hi Matt…not hearing from you via your posts tells me that your are occupied by other things. Glad your are! Miss daily posts…can’t wait for your book. Hugs & kisses to all.
these videos are hilariously cute!
I am waiting impatiently (as are like lots of people) for that book.
I am constantly finding things in my pockets and purse- paci’s hair clips, toy people, sippy cups, random (clean) diapers and McDonalds happy meal toys. It make me laugh but yes also feel old as well!
Matt – I Love, Love, Love to read your blog. You are always so well-spoken and share your wonders with the world. Thank you.