the last couple of weeks…

well, so much

for my plan of

hiking and reading everyday.

i feel like i’m

busier now than

ever before.

let’s get right into it…

on august 11th

the goodmans arrived

for our third

annual trip to celebrate

my wedding anniversary.

while we waited

for them to arrive

i watched maddy

try to drive

my car,

trying to drive my car.

play with some

bamboo sticks,

maddy with an apple on a stick.

and pick the flowers

in our yard.

picking flowers.

picking flowers.

maddy with flower.

as she played

i thought about

liz

and the fact

that i had two

wedding anniversaries with

her, and now

three without her.

it just didn’t

seem possible.

there was our child

playing in the yard,

just as

liz

pictured it.

fuck.

***

the next day

we were all on

our way to central california.

heading north.

maddy entertained

us the entire way

her new favorite thing?

to hear stories

with her as the

main character.

we all laughed

our asses off

as she would yell,

“talk about the maddy”

at the end of

each story.

grandma candee and

grandpa tom tell me

that this is

in the genes…

liz

used to sit on

a swing, yelling,

“somebody push me!”

let me translate both

phrases for you.

“pay attention to me!”

i love to see

those personality traits

coming through, even

though the only

time they had

together was

while maddy was in

the womb.

along the way,

we made an

unplanned stop.

as soon as we

turned into the

lookout point,

i recognized the place…

mountains.

we had been

here a few years earlier.

almost exactly four

years ago.

i had just returned

from india,

just in time for

our first wedding anniversary.

and we headed up

to the santa ynez valley

to visit the wineries.

along the way,

we had stopped here.

in this very place.

instantly recalled from

the depths of

my mind,

the photo of

liz.

liz.

double fuck.

we were parked

and we all needed

to stretch our legs,

so we did.

and we took some photos.

walking with grandma candee.

in the sun.

in the trees.

plants.

ready to get down.

with brookie.

with daddy.

with my girl.

i was here before.

with maddy.

ready to jump.

soon we were

back in the car

and on our way,

but i couldn’t

help but think of

that time

four years earlier.

i just wish i could

remember more of it.

***

after a few more

hours of driving,

including a nice drive

along a very dark

pacific coast highway,

we finally found the

place that candee

had booked for us.

candee and debbie

offered to hang out

with maddy while

tom, brooke and i

went on a search

for food.

as it turns out,

there are no grocery

stores or restaurants open

past 10:00 on a week

night in that

part of the world.

so that night we

ate food from

a gas station a few

miles south of

where we stayed.

and it was awesome.

***

the next morning

we headed to san simeon

to check out

hearst castle.

the view from hearst castle.

tree.

statue.

pool.

talking to grandma candee.

statues and pool.

brooke.

roses and ocean.

ceiling.

lights.

dining room.

statue.

auntie debbie, grandma candee and maddy.

playing with one of my cameras.

statue and sky.

we took a tour

that was shortened

for some of us

because madeline decided

she liked hearing her

voice echo in

the huge rooms.

we rejoined the

rest of the group

and madeline fell

in love with the

indoor pool.

pool.

reflection.

pool.

no trip to

any historical monument

would be complete

without a stop

in the gift shop.

brooke (or “brookie” as maddy calls her)

picked up a

toy for maddy

that had both of

us reliving our childhoods.

new toy!

looking through her viewmaster.

soon we were back

at the house…

while the ladies

slept, i went on

a short photo

excursion with tom.

field and mountains.

beach.

tom on the beach.

tree.

on a rock.

after nap time,

we went to visit

the elephant seals…

elephant seals.

holding my camera.

brooke.

walking with auntie debbie.

with grandpa tom g.

hugging auntie debbie.

maddy and daddy.

getting a hug from maddy.

that night we had

an even better meal

than the night before.

this time from

a grocery store,

and not a gas station.

***

the next morning

we jumped in the car

and headed north

toward monterey so

we could take in

one of maddy’s

favorite activities…

checking out an aquarium.

we had a lovely

drive up the pch

brooke.

coast.

and after a short

stop at pebble beach,

we found ourselves

at the aquarium,

where maddy’s mind

was officially blown.

watching the fish.

watching the fish.

a little scared of the rushing water.

with grandma and grandpa.

excited to see the sea creatures.

touching a starfish.

with grandma candee.

at the monterey bay aquarium.

with grandpa.

anchovies.

with brooke.

watching the otters.

jellyfish.

and then she

got a little confused.

confused.

after an early dinner

in monterey, we

drove home,

fence.

enjoying the sun set.

empty.

once it got dark,

the lovely twists

and turns we experienced

on a well-lit

pch became a little

too much for

some of us to handle

(i won’t mention any names here).

the next morning

we explored the back yard

with scuba steve.

flying.

flying.

hanging on.

in the flowers.

happy girl.

with daddy and brookie.

up.

with grandpa.

then checked out of

our place and stopped

to see maddy’s new

favorite animals.

fighting.

watching the elephant seals.

climbing.

brooke took control of

my camera for

a few minutes,

and got some of

my favorite photos ever.

happy.

maddy and daddy.

pointing at the elephant seals.

flying.

so happy.

so happy.

flying.

soon we were

on the road

back to los angeles,

but we made sure

we stopped along

the way.

first, in morro bay,

where maddy thought

for a few seconds

that she didn’t want

her feet to

touch the sand

in the sand with grandma.

someone didn't want any sand on her feet.

then decided she

didn’t care.

playing in the sand.

running.

playing on the beach.

running.

chasing maddy.

she caught her.

running.

about to jump in...

shivering?

about to jump in...

playing with me.

later we stopped in

san luis obispo

and i almost threw

up in bubble gum alley.

so gross.

(so, so gross).

we had a short

stop for lunch

coloring at lunch.

coloring at lunch.

(and coloring)

then got stuck

in some awful traffic

on the way

through santa barbara.

while we waited,

brooke and i

settled on a destination

for her birthday trip

(which was the next tuesday).

a couple of hours later

we were back in

los angeles, and after

a quick unpacking/repacking

of our bags,

we were in the

car and on our way

to vegas while

maddy stayed back with

grandma, grandpa and auntie debbie.

we made it to vegas

in record time, and

got checked into

our hotel at 1:30am.

we went out for

a couple of hours,

and i watched as brooke

won a few dollars.

(i lost $20).

the next morning we

caught up with

my friend mark

who was in town from

the mn.

the three of us

hit the pool at

mgm, doing our best

to stay cool in the

awful heat

(we probably should have just stayed inside).

after a long day

at the pool,

we had

a great dinner

at the belaggio.

the next day

we walked through a

couple of casinos

and had lunch

before brooke found

a slot machine

that just called

her name.

within minutes

she won $120.

from a penny slot machine.

birthday girl’s luck.

i lost $40.

and like total

tourists, we had

to get a photo doing this:

stupid tourist.

and this:

sign.

soon we were back

in the car

and on our way

back to maddy.

i insisted we stop

and take a photo here:

i've always wanted to stop here.

i've always wanted to stop here.

four hours later

we were back home.

it was important

and necessary

for us to get away

(as it is for any couple),

but we both missed that

little girl so much,

and were happy to be home.

***

the next day we

said goodbye

to the goodmans

and it was back

to our everyday lives.

i’m pretty damn lucky

to have such

great people in

my life…

such understanding in-laws,

and an understanding

woman in brooke.

***

something i failed to write about (at least on my blog) was my experience at camp widow. you can read more about it here.

my favorite part of the weekend (besides getting to hang out with new and old friends), was fulfilling a life long dream of giving away a giant check (on behalf of the liz logelin foundation).

fulfilling my dream of giving away a giant check.

the recipient of this grant, emily morgan, is the 43rd llf grant recipient. it’s primarily readers of this blog that made this possible, and i wanted to make sure that you all got special thanks.

also, i wanted to remind folks that the llf walk run hope 5k and celebration of hope gala are coming up. we’d love to have you at both events, so sign up as soon as possible to beat the deadline for the 5k and to get discounted tickets for the gala.

please help us give out more big checks.

thanks,

m.

(oh…and a book update coming soon. seriously. like, on or before this friday).

86 Comments

  1. Posted 8/24/2010 at 12:59 pm | Permalink

    Love the pics !!

    Can’t wait for an update on the book !! I am so jealous of Chrissy for getting an early copy !!

  2. Marnie :)
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:03 pm | Permalink

    What a lovely trip. Glad you all enjoyed yourselves. :)

  3. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:06 pm | Permalink

    oh Matt…will you guys take us to all of these cool places when we come out to CA? Those seals! I love them!!

    Looking forward to seeing you all next week – give my love to your girls…xoxo

  4. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:06 pm | Permalink

    *month*
    whatever.

  5. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:12 pm | Permalink

    Your pictures brought back memories of when my Mom and I made a trip to California a few years ago and went to Hearst. It is amazing how our pictures are so similar. Any how – it is always such a joy and honor here…silently sitting back and watching your story unfold.

  6. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:13 pm | Permalink

    I swear, SWEAR I need to meet you people. COME TO CHICAGO, YO.

  7. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:15 pm | Permalink

    It really does look like a wonderful trip, and it is an amazing thing to have such understanding in-laws and an understanding woman.

  8. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:16 pm | Permalink

    i sitting here thinking about how lucky you are, too. you do have incredible people in your life, matt.

  9. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:18 pm | Permalink

    The PIT still loves to hear stories featuring her as the star….but she has serious issues.
    Love the pics!~

  10. jm
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:19 pm | Permalink

    I love the pictures – ALL of them! Yes, it seems you are lucky, but the people surrounding you are pretty damn lucky themselves!

  11. leigh in the sav
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:20 pm | Permalink

    maddy is becoming a little girl right before our eyes.

    as usual, the pictures are amazing and inspired. as usual, i send my love to you all.

  12. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:27 pm | Permalink

    Just want to say I love the tone of this post. Happy for you, Matt.

  13. Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:41 pm | Permalink

    I love the Monterey Bay Aquarium. Also, I live in Santa Barbara, so I know exactly the type of horrific traffic you’re talking about; I make the drive down to LA at least a couple times a month, and it’s so frustrating getting out of here. Oh, AND! I was totally in Vegas recently. Stop following me, would ya? :-P

  14. Sarah
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 1:43 pm | Permalink

    Everytime I read a new blog post, I just find myself smiling!!! Smiling because Maddy is crazy adorable and looking more and more like a little girl in every picture I see. Smiling because the words you put with the pics are just too darn funny and really touching. And smiling because YOU are smiling! I dont even have words to describe how happy I am for you and Brooke and Maddy! Liz is beyond happy for all of you. I know she is smiling down on you guys just beaming with pride. Thanks for sharing your life with all of us stranger friends! I am looking forward to your book and lets just say thats a big deal for me cause well I’m more a magazine kind of gal!! Keep up the amazing parenting job you are doing with Maddy! She is one lucky little lady!!

    Sarah

    P.S. How in the world do you decide what pictures to frame and hang?? I would need to build more walls just to hang them if I was you :) :)

  15. Sarah M. from NH
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:08 pm | Permalink

    It looks like you all had a great trip, even if it was hard at times. The family and I were just in Monterrey back in May and I have some remarkably similar pictures of Charlotte from the aquarium. She is still talking about going back…trying to explain to a 2.5 year old that just jumping on a plane for a cross-country flight on a whim is not a good idea doesn’t go over very well, just for the record.

  16. Glenda in San Diego
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:09 pm | Permalink

    Matt, I’m so happy for you, Maddy and Brooke. The Goodmans and Brooke are amazing! Wishing you and Brooke the best of happiness. Brooke is definitely a strong, understanding woman. She’s a keeper! Thanks for sharing the beautiful pictures and your journey of life. I can not wait for your book and the updates.

  17. Sandy
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:12 pm | Permalink

    So good to catch up. So happy for all 3 of you – especially you. Cheers to bright days in the future – now if I can have a drink at my desk Id be happy.

    S

  18. Heidi
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:14 pm | Permalink

    The pictures of you and Maddy standing atop the very same rocks where your Liz once stood made my heart hurt. Hurt for what you and your family have lost, but also hurt for what you have gained. And, you and Maddy have gained so much and for that, I am happy.

    Best wishes for a successful Gala in September.

  19. Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:20 pm | Permalink

    Aw man, I started tearing up at all the pics of you and Maddy and Brooke, tossing Maddy up in the air, such a joyous life and family… There is so much love here. Thank you for sharing it.

  20. Andrea
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:23 pm | Permalink

    You all look like you had an awesome time. I’m only a couple of months new to the site and I already see your Maddy growing so big. She is such a beautiful girl. I just love the pictures. My phone went loco on me so I was only able to see half the photos. When I vet home I’ll see he rest.
    P.s. Have you thought about adopting a 29 yr old…ME!!! I have the travel bug and you go to the best places. :0)

  21. Tara in The Fort.
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:41 pm | Permalink

    Loved hearing all about these adventures! I’m glad you went back to a few of the places you experienced with Liz and created more memories with Maddy there.
    Liz’s parents seem so amazing. I’m so happy for you and for them. Brooke has been good for you and Maddy. When I started to read you were going to Vegas, I was sort of waiting for the part where you said you were married by Elvis! Ha! :D

    Can’t wait for the next update!

  22. Posted 8/24/2010 at 2:57 pm | Permalink

    Those pics that Brooke took of Maddy are awesome!Can’t wait for the book update.

  23. jamie
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 3:02 pm | Permalink

    the love story you have lived and are living with liz, maddie, and brooke is so very amazing. i can hardly stand it. as i read this current post my thoughts wandered and at the end of your post, you summed up my thoughts exactly.

    i’m pretty damn lucky

    to have such

    great people in

    my life…

    such understanding in-laws,

    and an understanding

    woman in brooke.

  24. Posted 8/24/2010 at 3:08 pm | Permalink

    Your trip looked like a lot of fun. I’ve been following your blog for a few years and it always makes me feel grateful. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
    PS – My youngest is 3.5yrs old and loves to shout echos in large, empty rooms. I giggled when I read that Maddy enjoys it as well.

  25. Anna
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 3:08 pm | Permalink

    Love the pictures as always-a lot of them are frame worthy (i.e Flying and you with Maddy at the beginning)

    Glad to hear you and Brooke had a nice get away-I wish I had her kind of luck, I always loose.

    Best wishes

  26. Posted 8/24/2010 at 3:24 pm | Permalink

    am i seriously the only one that noticed that you wrote “blow” instead of “blog” when you said you forgot to write about Camp Widow on your blow??!!

    LMAO. geez, dude.

  27. Posted 8/24/2010 at 3:45 pm | Permalink

    Once again Matt you managed to make me cry while reading this. I’m sorry you have now had more wedding anniversaries without Liz than you had with her, fuck indeed. Brooke is amazing, the love she has for you and Maddy is palpable. You, Liz, Brooke and Maddy are always in my thoughts.

  28. Posted 8/24/2010 at 3:48 pm | Permalink

    Great photos Matt! Maddy is getting so big!

  29. Posted 8/24/2010 at 4:09 pm | Permalink

    Maddy looks like a miniature replica of your wife. Liz was gorgeous, and Maddy is so beautiful. I love these photos!

  30. Posted 8/24/2010 at 4:28 pm | Permalink

    uh, i’ll have to fix that. so used to having an editor reading and fixing my shitty writer.

  31. Mandy
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 4:37 pm | Permalink

    I wish I had known about blogs like this 4 years ago… I think its great that you’ve recorded all of your thoughts and feelings since Liz died. I wish I had done the same! I’m now married with a beautiful baby girl and it was a boyfriend who passed away, not a spouse… but it’s nice to read about how you deal with an anniversary for example or a birthday. It makes me feel a little more normal! It’s just so odd for me, to still be grieving for a dead man but totally in love with a man thats alive… It’s such a weird situation. And by grieving, I want to clarify, I am in no way a basket case 4 years later, but certain days of the year or certain places can hit me pretty hard. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for putting your incredible writing out there for those of us who have been through a loss to read and identify with. Like I said, I wish I had known about this type of thing when he died, it would have helped alot!

  32. Posted 8/24/2010 at 5:16 pm | Permalink

    maddy is so gorgeous!! what a beautiful little girl she is growing up to be. the pictures brooke took are amazing because they’re how maddy is when she’s with you. :) you have a beautiful family. extended & beyond. x

  33. Kelly
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 5:45 pm | Permalink

    Amazingly touching update. I love the pics of you and Maddie standing on the rocks where Liz once stood. The time passing reflects in the growth of the trees surrounding the rocks, and it is so sad, but so moving to see how you have not only endured, but you made this amazing life for you and your daughter despite the tragic start. You are an amazing father. I am happy that have happiness in your life again and that you do as much as you can to help others in similar situations.

  34. Kristin
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 6:16 pm | Permalink

    Two of my friends and I have a picture of us with the Zzyzx sign too. We took it on our way from Vegas to Cali. :)

  35. Posted 8/24/2010 at 6:20 pm | Permalink

    I caught my breath when I saw the picture of you and Maddy posed on the same rock Liz was on. There are so many gorgeous pictures here. Can’t wait to hear about the book.

  36. Trish
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 6:58 pm | Permalink

    Okay well if we are going to go there…. you said Brooke ONE a few dollars, instead of won.
    Not that I noticed.

  37. Laura from the mi
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 7:00 pm | Permalink

    So happy for you and your family Matt. You are truly surrounded by amazing people. Hug maddy for all of us stranger friends! And can’t wait for the book. SERIOUSLY pumped.

  38. Diane
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 7:30 pm | Permalink

    Echo gone. Thanks. Funny that part of your post is about echos. Beautiful pictures, as always.

  39. Diane
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 7:31 pm | Permalink

    OH, and bubble gum alley would have made me vomit for sure. How disgusting. HA!

  40. Mary
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 7:34 pm | Permalink

    You have a fantastic family…all of them. Brooke has a great eye for the shot…as she probably knows. :) I love that you guys celebrated the anniversary all together, even if you did have to eat dinner from a gas station. I’m guessing that Liz is so proud of you and who your daughter is becoming.

  41. Ali
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 8:12 pm | Permalink

    Your words and pictures make my heart smile.

    I wonder if “Brookie” would ever consider writing about her experiences? On your blog or her own… What’s it like to date a widower – especially one who has been so public with his grief process. She seems so kind and gracious – but it has to be a unique dynamic.

  42. Posted 8/24/2010 at 9:30 pm | Permalink

    maddy is so so perfect, matt. i know you know that, but really, she’s just gorgeous. so glad you’re happy these days.

  43. Posted 8/24/2010 at 9:44 pm | Permalink

    Such a great post! Through this hard time, it looks like you had some amazing support! What a blessing!

  44. Lori
    Posted 8/24/2010 at 10:16 pm | Permalink

    Oh, my gosh, you have come such a long way! Can’t wait for the next part of the journey!

  45. Posted 8/25/2010 at 2:26 am | Permalink

    She is a wonderful story teller indeed… but it sucks you guys all have to deal with monsters at work.

    What a great trip matt- I know you are trying to get away to a new place for a reason- and stopping at a location that has meaningful memories of Liz must be a challenge I can only imagine..I am grateful that you DO have these wonderful people surrounding you.

    I hope that on some level you realize that these wonderful people who choose to support you and be by your is a testament to what a wonderful person you are.

    Let them be a mirror for you- especially the face of that beautiful child you have- and Brooke, I can’t help but think that their happiness is nothing less of a reflection of how much joy you bring to their world’s.

  46. abby in the hizzy
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 4:50 am | Permalink

    well there is a post that made me smile a ton all the way through even though your typos were pretty bad ;-)
    my group of girlfriends have coffee together once a week and talk about you and your blog sometimes. all of us want to see you and maddy have a happy life. you have us hooked and we can’t wait to read your book to learn more! it is incredible that you met brooke and that she is willing and able to go alongside you on even these toughest of dates. surely they are still tough dates but having a loving supporter there hopefully makes them a little more bearable. that can not be easy for her at all. we all like to think she is liz-sent ;-) and we all love that maddy calls her brookie.

  47. Posted 8/25/2010 at 5:32 am | Permalink

    I can’t believe how far you’ve come Matt. It has been absolutely amazing watching your life pan out the way it has. I’m really happy for you. I’m glad you found companionship in Brooke and it’s nice to know that she cares about Maddy so much. I’m talking like I know you, but I feel like I do. Thank you for sharing your life with all of us…

  48. lauren
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 5:50 am | Permalink

    Nice to see that things are going well for y’all. Maddie is such a cutie.

  49. Lopez
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 6:28 am | Permalink

    I had to chuckle when I scrolled through the last photo of you giving away the check. You look…well…respectable? Nice departure from the t-shirt/flannel look :)

  50. Posted 8/25/2010 at 6:51 am | Permalink

    “an editor fixing your shitty writer”, eh? ;) heh, sorry about that, I had to!

    I couldn’t read this post all at once. I had to take a break to stop the tears as I sit at my desk. I miss hearing about liz and seeing her beautiful pictures here. Memories are amazing. You forget they are hanging out there, in your mind, until something triggers one and it all comes flooding back. I’m glad you have so many wonderful memories with your lovely liz:) And that you are making new ones with Maddy and Brooke.

  51. Dre
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 6:57 am | Permalink

    Haven’t commented in a while, but wow, Madeline looked so grown up in those last photos running on the beach… how does the time go so fast? Still doing a fabulous job, Matt. Can’t wait to read the book!

  52. Lori
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 9:39 am | Permalink

    loving the pics as usual! truly happy for all three of you. you’re a very lucky man to have the beautiful brooke in your life. im really happy that maddy has brooke =) I love the way maddy looks at brooke in the photos. so much LOVE.

  53. megan
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 10:16 am | Permalink

    was reading this thinking, “man, your sweetie must be an incredible being.”

  54. Jennie
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 11:01 am | Permalink

    I was so bummed to see that you were in Vegas the same week that I was there and at the same hotel. I never thought that I would have any remote chance of meeting you since I live in London, Ontario (Canada). We were in the same hotel at the same time! Dammit!
    I know you probably don’t want blog readers following you around the globe but I missed a sweet opportunity to meet you.
    Was the picture of you at the big slot taken at New York, New York? Brooke faired better at the slots than I did. I only ever won $20!

  55. Libby
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 11:04 am | Permalink

    you went to San Luis and didnt eat at Firestones?! it’s the best place almost ever! and i have def. put a few pieces of gum in the bubble gum alley, my best friend went to Cal Poly and I visited from Thousand Oaks several times every year!

  56. Katie
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 12:23 pm | Permalink

    I’ve been reading your blog for a little over a year now and I’ve never commented, but this post moved me to tears. I don’t know what it is, but I get so overwhelmed thinking about how amazing it is that people like me who have never met Maddy love her and look forward to updates about her life like she is a family member. It really is a gift that you have so many wonderful people in your life like Liz’s family and Brooke(ie). If you’re ever traveling to or through NC come visit us. We’ll show you a good time!

  57. Aunt Rosie in Austin
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 12:52 pm | Permalink

    Great pictures as usual, Matt. Yes you are fortunate to have such good in-laws. You all look so happy to be together. Maddy is such a cute girl.

  58. Posted 8/25/2010 at 1:33 pm | Permalink

    Those pictures Brooke took of you and Maddy are absolutely brilliant and precious (the last of just Maddy is my favorite). It’s wonderful to see candid shots of you and her together.

  59. Annie from Oregon
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 2:43 pm | Permalink

    You and Maddy both are changing by leaps and bounds! I am very happy for you and delighted that Brooke is in your lives! And that you include Liz’ family in everything you do. Deb is an auntie in the pictures, not a sister, but the love she has when she looks at Maddy is intense and true. (And poignant). I salute how brave and giving each family is to the other.

    Thank you so much for allowing me to come along on your journey from the beginning. I am thrilled seeing how it is falling together. Together…a beautiful word to describe your life. I am waiting with bated breath for your book…glad you are sending us an update!

  60. Posted 8/25/2010 at 3:18 pm | Permalink

    I love the “Jackie” dress. We get compliments on our where ever we go.

  61. Angie from MN
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 4:14 pm | Permalink

    Glad all is well! LOL @ bubble gum alley. I think it would’ve made me feel sick too. :)

  62. madeline
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 6:53 pm | Permalink

    Bubble Gum Alley is the grossest thing I’ve ever seen!

    Beautiful pictures, Matt!

  63. Posted 8/25/2010 at 8:41 pm | Permalink

    I’ve followed your blog since Maddy was a newborn! I am so proud of you (even if you don’t know me! ) . You have taught your readers so much about life, love and being a great parent.
    As always, love your photography and I’m so happy you have someone like Brooke in your life. Blessings to you! Oh, I forgot to tell you that my new grandaughter looks like Maddy’s twin. Strange…. !

  64. Posted 8/25/2010 at 8:58 pm | Permalink

    You have such amazing in-laws and the way Brooke is just blows my mind. You are so very fortunate, but I know you already know that. Bubble Gum Alley= gross. For real.

    Love, Mere

  65. Antonia
    Posted 8/25/2010 at 10:56 pm | Permalink

    I’m glad you guys had so much fun. Times they are a changing…

  66. maria in san diego
    Posted 8/26/2010 at 9:06 am | Permalink

    that indoor pool freaked the hell out of me, i still have nightmares. seeing your pics gave me chills.

    loved reading about your trip with the goodmans and the fun times you have with brooke. still madly in love with maddy. you are still super awesome.

  67. Posted 8/26/2010 at 1:34 pm | Permalink

    I recently introduced my boyfriend to my in-laws. And I am so grateful for an understanding family (I can no longer call them my in-laws) and my boyfriend.

    Beautiful photos as always.

  68. Becca
    Posted 8/26/2010 at 2:26 pm | Permalink

    Matt,
    Long time reader but I don’t usually comment, however, I just have to tell you that I can no longer open my computer without my daughters yelling “Maddy”! They just love watching the video on this post and they crack up when Maddy giggles! Seriously, it is the best video and I just love hearing about all of your adventures and watching your cute girl! So happy for all of you and Brooke seems so great! We are MN people, so I’m hoping we can make it to the Gala/Walk in September.
    Thanks for keeping my kids (and me) entertained!
    Becca

  69. Caroline
    Posted 8/26/2010 at 2:43 pm | Permalink

    Time and life marches on, and it seems like all of you are doing the same… We don’t know too much about Brooke, but she sure seems like an amazing woman. Beautiful on the inside and out. Can’t wait to hear about the book!

  70. Posted 8/26/2010 at 7:05 pm | Permalink

    You all have one amazing guardian angel with you.
    I think that this is just one very remarkable family. You’re all blessed, and I have to say, how fantastic it is that you are opening Maddie’s eyes to so many different things. I haven’t experienced loss like you have. I have a husband and I can’t even accomplish all the things you do for your children. There’s 2 of us here and we aren’t even as close to being fantastic parents, such as you and your amazing ring of friends and family. You were all meant for each other–and I’m grateful to know you thru this blog. :)

  71. Natasha
    Posted 8/26/2010 at 8:41 pm | Permalink

    Just like another commenter mentioned, I would love to know if “Brookie” would share the side of her experience to this beautiful, heartbreaking love story.

  72. Kathy
    Posted 8/27/2010 at 7:45 am | Permalink

    Love all of the pics!!! What a neat vacation!! Maddie is getting so big. The Xxyz exit is right outside of my hometown of Barstow!! I miss the desert!!

  73. Posted 8/27/2010 at 1:02 pm | Permalink

    Will Brooke ever post as a guest. Im curious to hear what her experience has been, her point of view in your life with Maddie and without Liz.

  74. Posted 8/27/2010 at 3:50 pm | Permalink

    Y’all have been busy! As always, fantastic photos. Can’t wait to hear more about the book!

  75. Megan
    Posted 8/28/2010 at 10:55 am | Permalink

    Happy Anniversary, Matt. What wonderful memories for Maddy on that trip. Love, love, love the pic “So Happy” and the next one. Made me tear up. I only know Liz from here, and man, Maddy looks just like her mother.

    And a Happy Birthday Brooke!

  76. Posted 8/28/2010 at 6:38 pm | Permalink

    I LOVE the pic of Maddy with her hands up in the air! Good job Brooke!

    Also, her stories are SO cute!

    So happy that you and Brooke got some time away together… and it says a LOT about her that you BOTH were missing Maddy!

  77. Posted 8/28/2010 at 8:56 pm | Permalink

    The pic of you and Maddy that Brooke took with her pointing reminds me of my all time favorite pic of you two that I put on the CD I sent you. Good job Brooke!!

  78. eliza
    Posted 8/28/2010 at 8:59 pm | Permalink

    It’s just so obvious what a beautiful person Brooke is in every way. You can just see it. She exudes warmth and beauty in every way. Be sweet to that one. :)

  79. Michelle W
    Posted 8/30/2010 at 12:23 am | Permalink

    All of you are just amazing, beautiful and loving people. Brooke is my new hero, I know she is be rewarded for her strength in countless ways and it’s so obvious that she loves all of you but I’m not sure I’d have her strength and wisdom. I’m just grateful you all have each other as I am sure Liz would be.

    Mad respect and love for you guys. And the pictures took my breath away and made me teary. Just beautiful.

  80. KT
    Posted 8/31/2010 at 10:30 am | Permalink

    Matt, lovely pics and trip. Glad Maddy got to see the aquarium (yes, it is mind-blowing). And she is the queen of the American Apparel stripey hoodie! :)

  81. Posted 9/1/2010 at 2:33 pm | Permalink

    Great post. So heartfelt. I’m glad you had such a good time with the Goodmans and that you could get away with Brooke.

    Now I have a question as a photographer. I think we have pretty similar cameras and I wanted to ask what lens and setting Brooke used to capture those pictures of you and Maddy where she is in the purple striped hoodie? I especially love the one where Maddy looks like she is floating in the air with her arms over her head. The color reads beautifully on those shots and the depth and dimensionality in the photos is quite extraordinary. I’m guessing she finessed some settings and I’d love to know what she did. I used to teach photography and I am still kind of confounded by everything my Nikon D90 can do.

    Finally, where do you get Maddy’s clothes? They are just too darn cute! They are definitely not the run-of-the-mill Target and Carter’s duds that I dress my kids in. Teagan already has quite a wardrobe, but none of it is as unique as Maddy’s.

    Hope to see you around the L.A. soon.

  82. Stephanie Melski
    Posted 9/6/2010 at 12:32 am | Permalink

    I have to admit its been awhile since I stopped by your page…My 27 year old sister passed away suddenly leaving behind a 3 year old daughter and the grieving process is a hard road as you can imagine.

    I now live in Nova Scotia, but I am actually from San Luis Obispo so thats why this entry called my name to be posted on. I was in Morro Bay 4 weeks ago, siting with my other sister reminiscing about our sister that passed away. Its such a beautiful part of California, San Simeon is gorgeous and serene too. I love the Monterey Bay Aquarium, to this day it is one of my favorite spots to visit. So thank you for bringing me a bit of home when I needed it tonight.

    I am so glad to see how well Maddy is growing, I have been reading from the beginning and this is my first comment. :)

  83. Caressa
    Posted 9/6/2010 at 6:30 am | Permalink

    In malaysia..we get back seasons of Oprah..but i faithfully watch though i know we r so so so so behind time…n that is where i heard about u n maddy n liz….i was tearing up so bad that i quickly search for your blog..Now..i will be in a journey to learn n to know….i am looking fwd to it…
    Happy anniversary…n happy birthday to Brooke…

  84. Yosra
    Posted 9/6/2010 at 5:49 pm | Permalink

    Asalamu Alaykom,

    Loved the Hearst Castle pics. ROSEBUD! OK, so there wasn’t a sled in sight but really nice digs.

    The best pic, however, was Maddy in her purple hoodie pointing to the right place. She knows the way now! Good for her!

    And she rightfully knows the star of the show when she asks for stories about herself. Have you ever tell her THE story of Liz’s passing? For me, I’ve always found that incredibly hard info being told to a child is actually easy once you do it. They are only told a little but are told in simple honesty and they comprehend as they grow.

    Other hard question I’ve got is this: what happens now when you get in your remembering moods? I’m thinking of how you revisited that scenic overlook (and of course another beautiful pic of Your Liz). Do you share your inner thoughts with Brooke in that moment? Do you get silent? Does she catch on? Read your mind? How do you navigate the reality of thinking of the past while trying to build a future with someone new?

    Sending you all the best wishes from the Pyramids. May God’s blessings keep flowing your way.

  85. Posted 9/12/2010 at 7:40 pm | Permalink

    It’s been over a year since I’ve been to your site (don’t ask…lol), and OMG has Maddy grown!!! She is just the spitting image of her mama. :) The picture of Maddy looking at the cow at the aquarium just made me laugh. Classic. You’re looking well, Matt. You really are.

  86. Stephanie Melski
    Posted 10/7/2010 at 2:10 pm | Permalink

    I know you wrote this post awhile back, its been a few months since I had the strength to come look at your site. My 27 year old sister suddenly passed away on July 31st due to a heart problem no one knew she had. She left behind a 3 year old daughter that my mother is now raising. I was so surprised when I clicked on this entry and saw pictures of where I am from. I grew up in Paso Robles, Morro Bay and San Simeon are some of my favorite places to visit. Living all the way in Sydney, Nova Scotia now any pictures I can get of the California coast are great! Thank you for this entry and for giving a bit of strength to me in this hard time of grieving.

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