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Matt, you are absolutely amazing. Thank you so much for sharing your life with all of us.
what’s going on?
The song that comes to my mind is “The Dance’ by Garth Brooks. “Our lives are better left to chance …I could have missed the pain…but I’d have to miss the dance….”
God bless you!
Matt,
I read the article about your family in the January 26th, 2009 issue and I cried while I read it. I’m now crying again as i’m posting this comment.
I want to tell you that i’m so sorry for your loss. Liz would have been so proud of Maddy; she’s a beautiful baby! You are such a wonderful father to your baby girl. You are now her entire world. Even though this is such a hard time for you, I just wanted to say that Maddy is the luckiest girl in the world to have such a devoted father like you. I know that Liz is looking down on you both and she’s smiling; she’s so proud of all you’ve accomplished!
I’m pregnant with my second child and will deliver via c-section in April 09. Stories like these make you stop and think how precious life is. Thank you for telling your inspiring story. I can’t wait to read more on the blog soon.
I just read an article about you in People Magazine… and it literally brought tears to my eyes. I have two boys and I can’t imagine the feeling of emotions you have. You must be a great man and a strong person. God bless you.
What a beautiful little girl. You should be so proud of yourself. I also read your story in the January 26 magazine…what a bitter-sweet story. Keep up the good work
I am so moved by your blog: your life, your writing, your photos.
All three are very inspiring to me.
Thank you,
Kelly
Matt,
I read your story in People and was so touched. It is so great that you take care of your daughter and want her to really experience life. I think that me reading this article was a little bit of faith. My husband’s name is Matt. When I got pregnant with my daughter he freaked out and decieded he didn’t want all the responsiblility. He abandoned me, went out drinking till all hours of the night, left me at home sick while he took a girl out that he worked with to the movies and dinner. I was put in premature labor three times. Then I had to have a C section too. I was in so much pain and was on the phone with him asking for help cause no nurse would come help me, and instead of coming to the hospital he went to sleep so he could go out that night. It hurts me so much. We are seperated now, I left after I came home. He takes life and our daughter so forgranted. And I just wish someone could show him how fragile life is. And how every momemt counts. My hats off to you. I am a single mom and its hard, but it is the most rewarding blessing in the world. Keep it up and love your little girl with all you have. Thank you for sharing your story!
Life is so precious. Tell Maddy you love her everyday.
A beautiful shadowbox plaque I received when I was pregnant with our first daughter came to mind when you worried that Maddy wore her clothes to bed instead of her pajamas….
“Cleaning & scrubbing can wait ’til tomorrow, For babies grow up, we’ve learned to our sorrow…So quiet down cobwebs, dust, go to sleep…I’m rocking my baby, and babies don’t keep.”
Love Maddy lots, and she will know the love of you and Liz!
Your story hits home for me and my husband. Last year in the begining of my pregnancy I developed numerous blood clots in my lungs and nearly died then. Later we found even more unrelated complications that further jeopardized the pregnancy. I was extrememly high risk and after I had my son, I was watched very closely for months afterward for any more clots, but especially right afterwards. Your story could have very easily been my husband’s story too. I wish you and Maddy the best and will keep you in my thoughts always.
I just read your story in People magazine, and I just had to stop by to say what a GREAT Dad you are, AND JUST SO ADMIRABLE! You are so strong, and it really shows. I want you to know that my prayers are with you always, and although I can’t imagine what you are going through, I urge you to stay strong and look to the future.
first let me say that your daugther is gorgeous. i read your story in people magazine and cried. Maddy is a very lucky little girl to have such a wonderful daddy and i know liz is watching from heaven knowing the same thing. you are an insperation to us all. thank you
~meredith
oh yeah… no it defineatly doesnt make you a bad dad to let maddy sleep in her clothes! couldnt tell u how many times my son has slept in the clothes he wore that day!
Matt,
I just read about you, Liz and Maddy in the most recent People. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I imagine that Liz is very proud of you and knows that you are a great dad and is smiling down from heaven.
Take care and I look forward to hearing more about your adventures with your darling daughter.
i read about your blog in people magazine, and i thought i should look at it.
reading the article almost brought me to tears, even though i am just a teenage daughter.
Matt, I am 29 and my husband died from a rare cancer at 27 when my son was 4 months old. So I can share in some of your grief and also experiences as a single parent with a very young baby. I have not seen People yet, but look forward to reading it. Thank you for sharing your story with all of us.
Hi, my name is Tabby. I read your story in people magazine, and i was very touched. I am a mother of 2 girls, age 5 and 7. I had pregnancy complications with my now 5 year old. Her name is Madison. In January 2004, at 36 weeks pregnant I got diagnosed with 2 blood clots in my lungs. They said it was a matter of 3 days before my daughter and i both died. Thankfully god was looking out for me. 2 weeks later i delivered her fine, and eventually got off my blood thinners. So, im sure you can understand how touched i was about your story. I am so sorry for your loss! I now go to school for nursing, and plan to work with high risk OB patients. my email is tremy22@yahoo.com if you ever want to talk! thank you so much for sharing your story! She is a beautiful little girl, and you seem like a great father! Take care!
Matt, like many others, I just read your story in People. I felt compelled to log in and check out your website. After laughing and crying, all I can say is WOW!! What you are doing is admirable and beautiful. Keep up the good work and know that there are thousands of people praying for you!
Take care and keep up the GREAT work.
Brandi
Kansas
well i just read your story in People magazine. I cried. Not only for your loss but for your joy. Madeline is probably one of the most happiest prettiest babies i have witnessed. You really are a good daddy and it obviously shows in Maddy. God Speed to you Matt…….life will get easier and even if it doesn’t….you got the best piece of Liz you can…..Madeline
After reading your article in People, like so many others I had to visit your website. What incredible photos you have posted here, and what a beautiful baby Maddy is! Such a lucky little girl to have you for a father.
I know the pain of losing a spouse, but as the saying goes, “life does go on.” We just take things one day at a time, and pray that the next day will be a little bit better. Somewhere, we find the strength to go on.
So, Matt, keep up the great work you are clearly doing, enjoy Maddy, and know that Liz is smiling down on you! God bless.
Matt,
The life you are giving your daughter is the greatest gift you can give her,other than your love. Life does not always turn out the way we plan but, God has a greater plan, we just have to trust Him!! Keep on loven that special gift God has given you to raise.
In pray, Michelle Wolfe
Like many others, I read Matt’s article in People, immediately checked out his blog and got sucked in. I contacted him via e-mail, and was so amazed when he responded within 24 hours. My own mother died during childbirth complications with me back in 1977, so the connection I feel to Matt and that sweet baby is hard to put into words. Like Maddy, I have a strong, loving, nurturing father, and I just wanted him to know that we survived and they would too.
hi my name is lisa. i just read your story and you will do great .stay strong and enjoy every stage of maddies developement. there is nothing like watching your child grow .in my religion we believe that god gives everyone a reason to be alive,a task that has to be done before we go. when a woman has a miss then we say that soul had to come down to finish a task before it could go back. i realize it does not take away the sadness, we as people still have to greive for what we lost but there is always a blessing behind the loss and we hope one day we can see it.you are not alone , liz is still with you just not in a physical way.she finished her job and i know that is hard to here but we are not in charge , god is. my friend had a baby and on the day they were to give the baby the name , her husbands father died so they gave the baby the fathers name.its as if god wanted this baby to have his name not the name they originally chose.who would have thought such a thing.we can plan all we want but it is not in our hands.when i got married i thought i would be a mom right away,as we do not use birth control but it was not in gods plan at that time. i also thought that i would never adopt a child because my mother adopted my brother and it was very hard on all of us. but again god knew what he had planned for me.not only did i not have a child of my own untill fourteen years later, twins and then another three years after that another baby thank god. but i have adopted two special needs kids four years before the twins were born.who would have thought. live everyday to the fullest and yes its ok to complain just do it with a happy heart.live as if you are not alone,as if god is on your shoulder to guide you .we all must gather strength from each other.we have good days and bad days but the good one will one day be more then the bad ones and your liz gave you a gift like no other. god gave you comfort at the same time he took liz from you.we can only be thankful for that.when my mother visits, i bring her to the grave site of her parents and she always brings picture with her to show them,try it , i know it brings her great comfort. take care
Dear Matt~
I, as others, felt compelled to check out your blog after reading the toucing article in PEOPLE magazine. Madeline is extremely lucky to have a Dad who “stepped up to the plate” for her in such a dire time in both of your lives. Not every man would have stuck around for his daughter, knowing HE was the ONLY one to take care of her. The photos of you, Liz and Madeline in PEOPLE were full of love and joy. They oozed it. I commend you on your valient efforts of raising Madeline, and being there for her…Father and friend… dont worry about her sleeping in her clothing, its kind of like the whole “breakfast for dinner” thing. Kids are strong and resilliant and w wonder all their own. Madeline is SO lucky to have you as her Dad….keep up the good work. Though at times you want to pull your hair out…no matter the age, they are angels when they sleep and you wouldnt know what to do without them. I have 3 ( 19,17 & 10)..
Hollie~ Mendon, MA
Matt: I lost my son (age 26) 5 months ago and he left a wife and 2 1/2 yr old daughter. My daughter-in-law has asked the question how is she going to make it without him. I am going to tell her about your story and hope your courage may give her some encouragement. It looks like you are doing a good job of raising your daughter (from the pictures) and even if your wife had lived you would have wondered were you doing the right things in raising your children until they are grown–I know I did. Good luck in your future.
I read the story in People Magazine today. I was touched on a couple of levels. I was raised in a single parent home. I never knew my father, he died in a car crash when I was 2 and my brother was 6 months old. Leaving my mom to raise 2 babies on her own. She had her family close by but she was still on her own. Also, my brother, died 3 years ago of a blood clot following surgery much like Liz. He had just turned 30 a month before. My mom and I had been up to the hospital to visit him, we left, got something to eat and when we got home they called and told us he had died. He had gotten up to use the rest room with a nurse, told her he felt dizzy and collapsed. Our lives have not been the same since and honestly in a way, I don’t think they should be the same. We started learning to live without this person in our lives and that is unthinkable and at times unbearable. I know there are no words but i do understand the devastation of the loss. Both you and your daughter are fortunate to have each other on this journey. I am deeply sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing your story and please know that I will be praying for you and Madeline.
I came across your blog in a “People” feature and being an avid blog reader, I couldn’t pass up checking yours out. Your story is incredibly sad and heartfelt and touching and…well, just incredible. I admire you a thousand times over for the braveness with which you are tackling life and everything you’re going through. I can’t imagine what you have gone through, are going through, and will go through. I can only wish you all the best in the world. You and that gorgeous little girl of yours deserve it.
Matt,
I read your story in People magazine like many others and was drawn to read it right away. I first want to say that I’m sorry for your loss. You have a beautiful daughter and I admire you. In the article it’s mentioned that you were wondered why your blog as inspired such fervor. Well I can’t speak for all but I’m sure there are many moms out there who may feel the same way I do. I’ll try not to write a book b/c I know you have many comments to read =) So here it goes.
In 2004 I became pregnant w/my 4th child. I was a stay at home mom of 3. I couldn’t believe I was going to have 4 kids!! I was very overwhelmed with it all. The baby was due the end of May, but I was swelling pretty bad and the doctor had me come in to see how I was doing and b/c my blood pressure was pretty high,he suggested I be admitted to the hospital and get ready to have the baby…. When it came time to the delivery things weren’t going as well as I had hoped for. I was only dialated to 7 and it seemed like it was taking forever! I had the best nurse anyone could ask for and when she came in wearing scrubs and had a set for my husband to put on, she said, “Hon, we need to go ahead and get ready for a C-section.” I then got so scared and started crying. I was trying so hard not to show it but I just couldn’t hide back the tears. I began shaking uncontrolablly. I’m not exactly sure why I was so scared because I knew that women had c-sections all the time. I’ve also heard stories of women dying while giving birth for different reasons. The thought of them cutting me open and the stories I’ve heard I guess got the best of me. Well the baby was delivered. I don’t remember much about it now but I remember after he came out I felt alot of tugging and I was freaking out asking my husband what was going on. They knocked me out w/some meds and that was it. I woke up in the recovery room and zoned in and out while all the family and friends got to see the baby and I still haven’t held him yet. When I finally was awake enough for them to tell me what the hell happened, I felt so sick. They told me I had a blood clot, there was a lot of bleeding and they couldn’t stop the bleeding. I didn’t want to hear anymore!! I was so pale, I couldn’t keep any food down bc/ the meds made me sick, I threw up everything even fluids. I had to stay about a week in the hospital until I was able to keep food down. My point to this story is, knowing that I was that close to my death bed and was given a second chance makes me look at my life so differently before. I’m sorry for writting a book anyways…lol I got caught up into what I was writting, it seems like it was just yesterday. I do feel closer to my son now (he’ll be 4 this year) and I’m guessing because I didn’t get that bond w/him right away when he was born. Anyways….That’s why so many people are drawn to your story. Because if any of us Mom’s had died after having a baby, we could only pray that our husbands/babies fathers would be as wonderful as you are! It takes a true man to do all you’ve done for Madeline. Your love for her is the best thing you could ever giver her. If you write a book one day, I will definetly buy it. I know it will take me a while to catch up reading your blogs, thanks for sharing your story. Again I’m sorry for your loss and I wish you and Madeline the best. God bless you both!
matt,i just read your the article in people and it brought tears to my eyes.i am so very sorry for your loss.what a beautiful baby girl.you are the exsample of what the perfect loving father is.may god bless you and your little angel.
Matt, Just finished reading your story in the Current Jan 2009 People Magazine. Upon reading your story of Great Joy & Loss it brought many emotions to life. Amazing how well you are doing raising such a wonderful beautiful Daughter (Madeline). Do hope that in the months, years ahead that everyday Madeline will give you a life filled of wonderful memories of your late wife & all the joys you both had prior & all the joys Madeline & you will continue to make as a great pair. You have & will continue to inspire even Single dads’ to & want to become better fathers & be grateful. Continue to do what God has given to you, which is the joy in your daughters’ eyes to give her a wonderful life, home, love, laughter, and the gift to bring you all that you want for you future.
Matt,
Words can not describe how touching your story has been to me. I read what happened to you in People magazine I have not stopped thinking about you and your daughter. She is truly so blessed to have such an amazing father. I know you hear this a lot but you are doing such an amazing job raising her. I gave birth to my son on April 30, 2008 so Liz and I were due around the same time. I hope I can be as good a mother to my son as you are to your daughter. I will keep you and your daughter in my prayers.
Matt, I heard of your story in people magazine & it just touched my heart… To have to deal with this tragedy in midst of your most happiest moment. I can not even imagine.. You have the most beautiful little girl.. When she is older she will know what great parents she has( I am sure that Liz is with you guys everyday). I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless!
Hi Matt. I read the story People Magazine did on you, Liz, and Maddie (she is a beautiful baby) and it touched my heart. I found myself relating to you and your daughter. I know no one could ever really understand what you have gone through personally but just know you are not alone, there are many of us out in the world coping even years after the loss of a loved one. As time goes on you just learn to take it one step at a time.
I keep you and your daughter in my prayers. God bless.
Hi Matt,
My husband Henry and I just read the article in People and it brought back a lot of memories for us… Henry lost his first wife Tammy also after giving birth 26 years ago Febuary 23, from a pulmonary embolism after 2 years of marriage. Henry was very lucky to have had his parents close by to help with Leanne who was born Febuary 09,1983. Tammy had a normal delivery and was at home when she passed away. Henry found her sitting on the sofa, passed away, with 2week old Leanne asleep in her arms. I met Henry and Leanne about 6 months later and I knew right away I would be part of their family.
Matt, you should be very proud of how you are making out in life, its one day at a time, with all the joys, the ups and downs that comes in everyday. Madeline looks absolutely amazing, happy and healthy. I can’t think of any mom, any woman, out there who hasn’t thought of how proud Liz would be of you and the wonderful way you are looking after Madeline and yourself. If we can be of any help, let us know. You and Madeline will be in our prayers.
Sheila S
i am sorry that you have to go though something like this. life can be a joy and cruel sometimes. i lost my husband 3 years ago and didn’t know if i will make it through the day or let along the hour. we have to girls and to raise them by myself was a hard thing for me to think of doing but i had to and had to be strong for them and for myself. i had the love of friends and family to help me get through the hard times. all the first are the hardest but know that time and the love of everyone around you will help you heel. know one will ever take liz’s place in your heart but there will be a day when you will open it up to someone else and it will be a wonderful thing. i have but i’ll never forget the 11 years that my husband and i together and i will never forget him. the best of luck to you and you family. with all my love
I just finished readin your article in People Mag.. all I can say is that you are absolutly amazing and admirable. I wish growing up my dad could have taken the same steps you did. Keep your head up. BTW, your daughter is adoreble!
Matt, you are phenomenal. Thank you for sharing with us, your whole world.
Hi Matt,
I just read the article in People Magazine. Like many others it touched my heart and I feel your loss in my heart. I am very proud of you. I am a mother of 3 sons age 26, 20 and 13, and I pray that God forbids any of them that has to go through a trail like this, they would be like you. Your mother is proud of you I’m sure as so many of your readers are. You have a perfect little angel in Maddy, a gift from God, the joy you will have in raising her, the ups and the downs but cherish very moment for children grow up and you will look back and wonder where the years went. My prayers are with you and Madeline, God be with you.
Kelly Slack
Quincy, Michigan
Hi matt! I read your story in People magazine and was drawn to reaching out and writing this letter to you. I am also a new widow. In January , 2008, I was diagnosed with breat cancer ( Stage 3). It took everyone by suprise beacuase I was healthy, in shape and we also had a 5 year old daughter, Emma. During my chemo therapy I had come home one day to find that my husband of 10 tears had commited suicide on April 21, 2008. Not only did I have to deal with my husbands unexpected death, but cancer as well as being a sincle parent. Emma is my life, she gets me through every day and gives me the strength to go through everyday. I know you have the same strength and you will be an awsome Daddy to Madeline ! You are in my thoughts and prayers everyday!
Your baby is so cute sorry about the loss of your wife
Matt, I see that you have a lot of reading to do here and hopefully you will get to mine! I also read your beautiful story of inspiration and was deeply touched by the commitment that follows such a hard tragedy. You were undecided about writing about what had happened to your lovely wife and the time that follows. PLEASE DO write a book using all your blogs and postings as a memoir for Maddy that will be able to look back at what you were feeling and help remember her Mom from your heart too. This will also help pay for college for her when the time comes! That would be the most unselfish act of all. You are doing this for HER future! I know I would love to be able to read this story in full!
I always read while waing for my children to be let out of school. This is when I came across your story in people magazine, I really feel for you both . To endure such sadness. I pray you are given soul peace and you continue to focus on your sweet baby girl. You are doing the right thing by allowing others to feel and understand how you are doing. We as a society some times forget to give a hello or smile as we go about our busy lives. You will be ok
Matt I am so sorry to here about the loss of your loving wife. Although doing this blog will help both you and Madilene rebember your wife. Liz will always be there for you as long as you teach Madeline about her mom that she never got to know. You are an insperation to all of us that lose a loved one.
I read about Matt, Liz and Madeline in People magazine. My prayers to Matt , his family and friends. Matt what a stand-up man you are. Please continue to update us on your beautiful daughter. God’s blessings, Bridgett
I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story… I gave birth to my daughter in August ‘09… and that was the last happy day I have had in a while. Since then, my husband – and best friend – lost his battle with lung cancer and I am lost. It only happened a month ago, but it feels like he has been gone so much longer. I swear – I don’t know where he got the strength – but on the day our daughter was born, he was so strong and able to do so much. Before and after that day, however, he was in pain constantly. Now, I am a widow at 30 and I miss him so, so much. Again… thank you for your story.
Thank you for sharing your story Matt. I was at the doctor’s office at the time i read your story. I’m a man, and i cried. I have two beautiful stepkids. I love them very much. When i finished reading it made me want to become a better stepdad to them. Thank you Matt you really inspire me. May God bless you,and your beautiful daughter.
Matt, just read your story and it touched my heart. I lost my husband in a car accident when my daughter was 10 months old and my son was 5 years old and disabled from a near drowning accident 2 years earlier. That was 23 years ago. I lost my son from complications 8 years ago. You have lots of challenges ahead of you, but please hang in there. Having your beautiful daughter and memories of your wife will help you thru this journey. I promise. You are in my thoughts.
Matt:
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story with all of us. You and Madeline are in my thoughts and prayers. I wish you peace and happiness someday soon. God bless you both forever.
Matt, I read your story just now on AOL. I was deeply saddened for you but also believe you are so strong and your daughter is the luckiest treasure to behold. She is beautiful and as it is, a father ,daughter relationship is hard to break, but you two will be unseperatable and I’m sure you wouldn’t have it any other way. Even if you have no spititual belief, I believe you are in Gods hands, and if you can find just a little belief, he will guide you through lifes way. You are in my prayers.
Hi Matt, your daughter is beautiful, you are doing an amazing job raising her yourself. I understand your pain in September of 08, my husband of 14 years was killed in an accident while at work and I am left to raise three boys (12, 9, 7). I love them dearly and we are getting by every day. It is not easy but we must go on for the kids and keep the memories alive. Good luck and I wish you the best in the future.
Matt –
I just read about your blog on AOL (you’re on the home page today!) and I had to come and see this for myself. I started at the beginning and have so far worked my way to April 2008. I know, I have a long way to go. My own (first) son was born in January 2008 and I keep having to stop in between entries… mostly to give him giant hugs. You’re an inspiration to me, as it seems you are to many people. I know that your sweet Liz would be so proud of what you’re doing. Proud of what a wonderful daddy you’ve been to beautiful Madeline – and proud of you for being strong enough to share your story with the world. Hang in there… and thank you so much for sharing your story with us.
Hi Matt,
I read about your heartbreaking story in the January 26th. issue of People. I just want to say I’m sorry for your loss, but your baby girl needs you more than ever and you are an awesome daddy!
Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you.
May you and your family have many more blessing in your lives to come.I am sure you are going to do just fine as a father. You share your life with the world and show the world there are fathers out there who are doing what they need to help their children grow.For us single parents you show the world we are not alone.
I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my husband when our youngest was 4, the twins were 11 and our oldest was 12. That first year was the worst! It’s a blur – I was on autopilot – after the first anniversary things became somewhat easier. Knowing what the kids missed out on still saddens me. Steve was a wonderful father. My youngest went through a period where she would see a father playing in the park with his kids and she would come and sit on my lap and cry her eyes out and tell me that she misses him – she really doesn’t remember him though and that hurts. These next few years will be hard – but you’ll make it through. As you’re attending to your daughters needs don’t forget to take care of yourself too (grief counseling – getting plenty of sleep). You’ll do fine – just remember to take it one day at a time! Prayers for you both.
What a beautiful …yet tragic story….my heart goes out to you and to your beautiful Madeline. From what I have read, you have become an awesome Father, showering so much love and attention to your little daughter….and creating so many wonderful memories for her. Your bond will grow stronger and stronger everyday, and you will have this (bond) to cherish the rest of your life. Your wife would be so very proud of you.
God bless you both.
Matt I want to tell you that it does get easier and you do find happiness in the memories after a while. I know this because I have lived your dream and nightmare. My sister was 33 and was removed from life support almost one month to the day after the birth of her 4th child. Four children under the age of 5 (4, 3, 18 months and a newborn) with no Mommy and a heartbroken father and family. I thought I wanted to die too at the time. 1 week shy of her 34th birthday she dies from a clot and a stroke…don’t know which came first. It was devastating but also heart warming. We received the most wonderful support from the most broad spectrum of friends.
I am happy to say that having my sister’s four children during this time has been my saving grace. A touchstone so to speak. They are all different and special in their own way but they all remind us of their Mom in different ways and we can now smile and laugh and feel appreciative.
I pray for that peace for you and can only hope that your sweet cherub faced daughter can know her Mommy through you, your families and this blog.
I Just Read Abot You In An Old Peoples Mag.
And I Started Crying.
Your Story Is Amazing, Thanks For Sharing It With Us.
Hello Matt – I’m just in out of the blue. Saw the piece on AOL about you and your daughter. On that site, there is a photo of Madeline, back to us, sitting at a piano. In front of her is an audience of stuffed animal friends. I am a watercolorist, paint mainly from photos, and was thinking….if there is some way a painting of that photograph would be of some benefit to you – in your life, or prints could be sold – I would be happy to do it for you. What a painting that would be! We need more great Dad’s in this world. It seems you are quite an inspiration to many.
(Please identify, so I don’t delete by mistake) God Bless.
Mary – h2ocolourmom@aol.com
Hi, Matt
This is my first time hearing about your story and my heart goes out to you. I commend you on being there for Madeline as a strong father and wonderful. Many men would have quit but you kept going and im happy to have read your story. I wish you many wonderful moments in life to help cut the pain of your loss and times of struggle.
I grew up without a father, but if I had one I hope he would have loved me like you love maddy.
I will keep you and maddy in my prayers.
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Matt…..I came across your story by chance. I wasn’t looking for it and I have no idea who you were or your ordeal.
After reading the blog I can only imagine that It must have been extremely painful to loose your wife. From what you have shown..she was so beautiful and full of life. I can see in your eyes as I listen to your UTube interview that this forum has been helpful to cope with your loss. But the only advice I can share is to give yourself the privacy and time you really need to grieve. Your daughter deserves this and especially you do too. Reaching out and creating a new world for yourself is only part of the process to healing. Take the time to absorb your feelings that you lost when she died. Your new life with your daughter is the same as it was before her mother left….and all the dreams you shared with your wife will come true, just give it the time to let it happen. Make it a promise to yourself to allow the intimacy of the precious moments between your daughter and yourself to be yours and your wife’s alone….you will see that you will be filled again and again….with the love you miss so much. Much love and happiness to you and your precious daughter.
Liz is with you, every moment of every day. You’ll feel her in the breeze, see her in your daughter’s smile…she’s there. Trust me. Prayers are with you
WOW!!!! How amazing of you to share your life with family, friendsw, and even total strangers, but for a very important reason. What a fucking awesome man you are. Some ( actually a lot of men) would not show this side of himself with anyone, let alone the world. Amazing Daddy/Father doesn’t even come close to what you are! I came across your page through AOL. I seen the title and got curious. I’ve cried and laughed all day with my own little girl by my side all day. I am not even done reading all of the blogs you’ve posted. What amazing Family and Friends you have been given in your life. I can’t say I know what you are going through but I can ( like other children/grown up kids) say I know in a way how Lil Madeleine will feel when she is older about her Mommy not being there in person. I grew up with my Father in my life. Didn’t know how he looked or anything. Just was told he left my Mother when I was only 2 years old, only to find in our local newspaper on my 8th birthday that he had passed away! Atleast you are giving Maddy an amazing gift for when she is older. Liz would have been an amazing Mommy to her Maddy! I can see in your picture’s of her that she was a wonderful, kind person with an amazing heart! You were given the gift to have her as not only your wife but your best friend. Some woman take their husbands, fiances, children’s father’s for granted and I see where I have made mistakes myself with my fiance (father to my 3 children) sometimes. There are single Dad’s out there in the world who do not get credit for what they go through everyday of their lives. We don’t hear many stories of Daddy’s like yourself and I have to say I am happy to finally see a man/Daddy/Husband put in words what he goes through in life. Not glad under the circumstances though! We as Mommy’s only know how we deal when it comes to raising our children and it is great to see how a man ( a Daddy) deals. You think like us Mommy’s think! It is hard for any first time parent but in your kind of situation it makes it a thousand times harder. As I went on reading your blogs I could see you were getting better at everyday life. I can say this as well. It is hard to go to the same places by yourself or with Maddy that you have gone to with Liz but your drawn to go there for a reason. I believe that when someone passes on, they leave little things behind to remind us of them. Like Maddy’s bright smile, and her adorable face, looking just like her Mommy! You may be out some where and hear a voice that sounds very similar to Liz’s. That is Liz letting you know she is still here in spirit with you and watching what an amazing job you are doing with your baby girl! I know she is smiling huge watching down at you and Maddy, your family and friends! Take it one day at a time, it will get better. And everytime you hear a song, or see something that reminds you of Liz remember she is there. I will continue reading your blogs from where I left off tonight. By the way your story, would make one amazing book! I also would like more information on where I can send some gifts for you and Maddy. They may not be amazing but they will be made by hand and the thought of you and Maddy will definitely be put into the work. God Bless You, Maddy, All Your Friends and Family!!!!!!
All the power to you man! Much Love!
Hi Matt,
Thank You so much for all of the writing and pictures that you have shared with the world. Im also a single parent, not the same circumstances but you get the drift. I wish you the best of luck in all that you do, I wish you happiness, courage, resilliance, and most of all love. You are a wonderful father, and Madeline is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! She is lucky to have a daddy like you!
I just got home from the Hospital, shit I’ve been visiting your website for almost a year. Unbelievable, my husband is in intensive care with.. His lungs are filled with clots, he can’t breath. WTF….I had to come get my son to take back to see his Dad, I just needed to send this shit out to the Universe.i hope you don’t mind, I have no one to call.
take care.
I’ve just recently come across your story. I’ve loved and lost too. I might have not lost my best half, but we’ve lost our first two children in miscarriages. The hardest thing we have to live with is waking up the next day and realize you’ll never see that person ever again. And as hard as that is, you have to move on. Since the our lost we have had four beautiful and wonderful daughters. Our youngest was born in September 2008. She hasn’t been our scare too. She’s stopped breathing once, she’s gotten RSV and the Rota-virus, she’s been hospitalized. I live in fear daily that I will wake up just to find out that she’s pasted on to a better place. Thanks to my beliefs I know that I will see those I’ve lost. I admire the fact that your raising your beautiful little girl on your own. I don’t know what my husband would do if I were to die. Labor is the worst. I remember when I was in labor with our third daughter, her head put pressure on my blood vessel and I need oxygen. And when I got the epidural with my last one, the fluid moved up towards my lungs and I was having trouble breathing then. They had to sit me up and put heart monitors on me.It scared the crap out of me and my husband.
All I can say is that your doing a wonderful job, and she loves you as you can tell in all the pictures of you two. I wish you all the best and I’ll keep reading your blog.
Hi Matt,
I am SO sorry to hear about your loss. I read your article in People today. My heart aches for you and the darkness you are walking through. I lost the love of my life, my fiance to be, best friend and sole mate Aug 2005 in a motorcycle accident. He was 30 and I was 31. We had the fairytale love that you and your wife had, I am certain as I can see it in the pictures of the two of you like I can see it in the pictures of Mac and I.
I have struggled to stay strong, as I am sure you have. To lose someone at a young age, in the beginning of your lives together is a great tragedy that few have to endure. Many will never understand the great loss…it isn’t just the person, but it is the future and everything the two of you wanted to do and to be together. People will unknowingly give you hurtful advice, say things that they didn’t mean, and some will appear out of no where like Angels and soothe you and support you. My advice is to cling very tightly to those that are helpful and supportive. Remember, everybody grieves differently and what you do is normal.
My heart and prayers go out to you as you find your strength. It is a very tough road that we are on, but your wife will be cheering you on and is very proud of you.
Matt I read your story in the people magazine and it really touched me. I cant imagine what your life as been like. Since yesterday I haven’t stopped thinking about you and your daughter. At work today I cried reading your blogs. I have a 20month old son and he is my life. My heart goes out to go. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I always said when my baby was born God gave a piece of heaven. In your case he truly did give you a piece of heaven. That little angel is very lucky to have you as her father.
I am watching your story on Rachel Ray at this very moment. My parents were married 33 years when mom died. I was devistated at 31 years old. I see my dad dealing with losing her. You seem very strong and a wonderful dad!!! I trust that you will be fine. Just make sure to keep her memory alive for your beautiful daughter.
My grandfather told me once when my 12 year old was about Maddie’s age…..”You need to teach your child the morals and values you want them to have for the rest of their lives before the age of 5!!!” I now have a 12 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. While they are not perfect by any means, they are good kids. My boy opens the doors for my daughter and me and just about every stranger we see anywhere in public. That’s about the best advice I can give!!!
Have a wonderful week and kiss Maddie for all of us!! She’s beautiful.
I saw you and your daughter on Rachael Ray this morning.
your story was so touching and I cried…I’m so sorry for the loss of your wife, Your daughter is so beautiful, like her Mom ! Your a truely amazing father that Madline
is blessed to have.Good luck in the day’s ,nights, and years ahead. We want to see Madlines progress as she grows. God Bless you both !
Tammy Mullins
Hi Matt;
I saw the segment on Rachel Ray this morning and I was very touched. Your daughter is beautiful you can see Liz in her so much but also so much of you!!
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Seeing you on t.v. hereing about what happened for the first time makes me think you brought me wonderful spirit an hope for me an my 10 month baby gurl, in set ways that i’m 21, had difficulties with a c-section, blood clot as well, But hereing your story makes me thank you for showing me how to be a wonderful parent, and very happy for your baby gurl gourges as can be, you changed my life for knowing that for my baby being with me knowing that i’m happy with her.for the thing’s to say makes me happy that you show your feeling’s and life on live t.v. or web about how much you care for your wife an your wonderful child. that I wishing that her father would marry me to be a small family, but it’s sad cause he won’t so thank you for your story you brougth me more happiness to know that life is hard, but you have to get threw lots of sad sitiuations. god is with you threw the hole way. your an amazing father. please show lots of goodies about madline sbout her growing life different stages to see how happy she is in her life. god bloss you the LOGELIN FAMILY. thank you again jessica palacio
lampasas T.X.
Champ.
Hi Matt and Madeline: I was watching Rachel Ray and saw your story for the first time. I truly take my hat off to you. You are amazing and have done so well by your daughter. I know your wife has watched over your shoulder and guided you. Please continue keeping yourself strong and I will pray the both of you. God bless you both. Leticia
Amazing story just watched you on Rachel Ray. I’ve began to rethink my priorities. Continued strength…
Hi mat and madeline ..I saw u
Guys on rachel ray and tears came to my eyes listening to your story.u r a good dad
………and madeline is so cute…she is very lucky to have a dad like u..
God is watching over u guys and so is liz…..bless u always
Matt,
First let me say that I am sorry for your loss. I realize how precious life is every day. I too have had a major PE but I am still alive. I lived over 8 months with the knowledge that it was there and some doctors basicly sent me home to die but I didn’t. My PE completely blocked my right lung. I would like to share my story with you if you are interested. I thank God each day for the life He gave me and for all He has done for me. Without Him I would not be.
God bless you as you raise your daughter.
You have no idea who I am, but I felt compelled to write a comment.
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful wife Liz.
I found out about your blog through an internet friend and from your story on the Rachael Ray show this morning, and I have to tell you….I am absolutely, completely touched and moved by your story. As I read about what happened on that day, tears poured out of my eyes. You are an amazing father!!
Just know that you do have Liz with you in heaven, in spirit and in Maddy, watching over you both, protecting you…
My thoughts and prayers go out to you….and may God bless you!
You are the best daad in the world Keep up the Great work!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Matt,
unlike many of those who respond to your blog, im a 17 year old junior at high school. i just wanted to say Madeline is so blessed to have a father who is so dedicated to her. When she grows up she will definitely appreciate everything you have done for her beyond words.
Matt, saw your story on RR yesterday, and like everyone else, was moved by your loss and courage to reach out and blog. I particularly related to your initial fear and the subsequent challenge of raising your daughter by yourself. I’m a single mom, too, like a lot of the women who posted here, and I have a dog, and I live in Manhattan! Suffice to say, my life is nuts.
It is a joy and a privilege to raise my daughter — she’s 18 months now, and like Madeline, she’s SO EASY — but sometimes I have to just sit down and cry from the sheer work load. Right now I’m weaning her from her bottle, and it is so difficult not to cave! I always feel like a partner would keep me strong at these times! That 6 a.m. rise, morning after morning — thank goodness the dawn is beautiful. All this to say that I know firsthand the extent of your effort, and I’m so glad you have 40,000 readers supporting you in it. You’re doing your wife proud. Good luck and love your family’s way in the years to come. PS: next time you’re in NYC, check out the Bemelman Bar at the Carlyle Hotel — they have a “MADELINE TEA” for little girls every Saturday — and the room is painted with Madeline scenes, I think, by the original author. My daughter is obsessed with Madeline, the animated movie and books, and we’re on our way there as soon as she’s old enough. Cheers.
Hi Matt. My name is Troy and I’ve been through something very similar. My Wife passed away during a routine ultrasound 21 months ago. She was 29 weeks pregnant. They were able to save my son, but we spent 71 days in Neonatal intensive care. My son was and always will be my stregnth. He’s kept me going through many hard times. And I know your daughter does the same for you. If you want to more info or just need someone to talk to just give me an email or put something on your blog to let me know. You are a great father and a wonderful person.
By the way your daughter is absolutley adorable.
Keep the good work, and stay strong.
Your story took my breath away.
The way you are honoring Liz’s memory did, too.
Matt, you are a beautiful person and your little girl is going to be very, very proud of you when she is a little older.
I wish you could know how my thoughts are with you!
You are such an inspiration to us all. I had my first son via c-section 8 years ago, and within 2 weeks had a blood clot in my leg. He was born at 29 weeks so in a hospital about an hour from where I was with my clot. Don’t have any answers for you, but want you to know that you are both in my prayers. You are such a strong man to be able to “go on” and raise your precious baby girl after such a life changing shock. I’m a good listener if you ever need to vent. God Bless you both! Remember to allow yourself to feel…feel every emotion you have.
I seen your story in peoples magazine.I have two kids of my own and have taken care of them by my self most of there life.The oldest is 11 and the youngest is 9.I was in a really bad relationship with there dad he would beat me often but i just want you to know you can do it just remember that.You will have some hard days and some not so hard just remember that she needs you now and forever. take care hope to hear from you soon. jen
I lost my wife 11/19/2007. Shyla was born 11/23/2005. Two days after my youngest, Sadie was born we found out that Candise had CANCER. She fought the good fight. But, did not make it to see Sadies’ first birthday, and died the week of Shyla’s second. I just wanted to let you know that I know were you are coming from.
Matt,
Matt,
You are truly an inspiring person. I just finished reading your story in People magazine. Madeline is a beautiful child who will one day realize just what a wonderful dad she has. I cried for your loss and I wish you the best life has to offer. Take care.
Regards,
Fred
Hi Mat,,,I’m From East Timor, I Just Read Your Story About You, Your Wife And Your Boy, Very Interest. So, I Just Want To Say That You Are Very Strong To Take Care Your Girl Without Your Wife. For Your Wife I Just Want To Say Good Bye,,,All The Best And Take Care Mat,,,
Best Regards,
Barreto,,,
hey Matt
it’s my 1st time in here
i just saw u on RR show
and i was really amazed by the way u dealt with the situation
wish u the best of luck with ur life and ur gorgeous daughter
hi matt. im one of davids friends and he was telling me about your story a while ago and i figured i would check out your blog. your story is insane i cant believe what you have been through. you one amazing guy and your little girl is one of the cutest things i have ever seen.
I have not checked out your site for quite some time (due to lack of computer-old one crashed and I just recently purchased a new one) That lil’ Miss Maddie is so like her mommy! From the beginning I thought she looked like Liz but now that she is a year (or close to it) she is the “spittin image of her mama!” She looks sooooo much like Liz. Liz’s beauty has been passed on to her baby. I can also see a little of you in Maddie as well. That’s a good thing because both you and Liz are nice looking. What a great daddy you have been! An entire year has gone by! You have done a fine job loving, nurturing and caring for Madeline. Without a doubt, Liz is proud of you. Matt….you stepped up to the plate and have done what you’ve needed to do for Maddie. You have done it with style and grace. Although this is not a path you would have chosen, it is what was handed to you. You have been a fine example to all single parents. Keep up the good work and know that many of us are pulling for you. You have offered hope to those in similar circumstances. Bless you for all you do.
Matt, I have been following your progress through Sara, Dave etc. One year. Hard to fathom. From experience, two steps forward one step back. Things will only get better but you will never be the same or ever, ever forget. You’re doing great. Jim
Hi Matt,
We’ve been following your site since Liz’s passing. We are also Logelins (a very rare breed!) and found you while researching our family name on the internet. We are so deeply sorry for your lost but we are grateful that you are doing well with your beautiful Madeline. We have 3 daughters, our middle child is also named Madeleine (French spelling) and we also love to travel. We are really pulling for you and hoping you and Madeline will have a happy life together.
Dear Matt, I watched the Oprah Show today and saw your story. 17 months ago we lost my daughter when she was giving birth to our first granddaughter. She had only been married 2 years and her husband did not know us real well as we did not know him but one thing we did know is that he loved our daughter and as hard as this has been at least we know that she was loved and that he loves our granddaughter and takes good care of her. We are able to take care of her during the day while he works and as I watch her it is like watching her Mother once again. What you are going through is so hard but it is so great to see the love that you have for your precious daughter and I know how much that means to Liz’s parents because there is such a great hole in your heart when you lose a child so please tell your friend that I feel for her and wish I could help but I know that there is very little that can be done but sometimes just listen and let them cry. Keep on loving that precious little girl because she will grow so fast and you will be the one watching as she makes a new life for herself. Debbie
Matt!
I CANT even begin to express to you the respect I have for you. Some men would have just given up and walked away. You are a truly amazing person husband and father. Please know that you have changed SOOOO many lives with just your everyday exsistance… and most of with sharing your life with us. Keep your chin up and one foot in front of another… You are doing a awesome job!!! Liz is so proud of you as is maddie!
Let me start off by saying that I am MOVED by your story Matt. My mother was killed in 1978 at the age of 18 when I was almost a year old. Unlike you, my father chose to turn his back on my sister Taze and I. You have no idea how making the choice to stand by your Maddy’s side will change the entire course of her life. Growing up knowing that my father left his little girls all alone, knowing we didn’t have our mother crushed me. Sent me on a self deructive path as a teenager. I find it so refreshing to hear stories about men like you. May God bless you and walk you through every aspect of you and little Maddy’s life.
Sincerely Shamara B.
Your story is an inspiration to all!!!! I happened to be researching the poem ” Cleaning and Scrubbing can wait till tomorrow…” and your blog came up! Just today I watched your story on Oprah! You are blessed!
Matt
I am a single father of a 3yr old little boy. My wife and his mother passed away on 12/18/08. She had a seizure in the shower while I was at work. It’s still hard for me because like you I was the “fun” parent and she was The General (my nickname for her) so it is hard for me also to step into my strict shoes. Our life was hard, in 2006 I was diagnosed with Lymphoma cancer. At the same time my son who was born 7 weeks premature needed a surgery on his stomach. My wife was always the rock and she was the rock of my family. I have beaten the cancer and my son is doing good, but some days I wonder if I’m strong enough for this. I’m like you that without my son to focus on I would not be here. I keep in the back of my mind that my son is the best souveneir of my wife . Every night before we go to bed we kiss the cross she used to wear on a necklace which I now wear and he asks me “kisses for momma?” and I say yes we’re sending kisses to momma. I know your pain with everything changing overnight.
Matt,
Keep up the great job your doing as a father.
My mother died six weeks after I was born. My father moved us from the quiet suburbs to a rough northside nieghborhood of Chicago so that he could have support and help of his parents to raise me and my two older sisters. Within two years, both of my father’s parents had passed away.
I am told my father almost gave us up for adoption more than once but something changed his mind. I’m glad he made the right choice and decided instead in favor of the hard work of fatherhood.
May God bless you and your daughter.
Hi Matt and Maddy,
I’m a mom of a 2 1/2 year old Maddie (Madison). I’m currently watching Oprah (thanks to TiVo) and I think your story is amazing. I mean no disrespect when I say amazing. The loss of your beautiful wife and the birth of your daughter is a tragedy with an amazing beginning. You are an inspiration to every father out there who thinks it’s hard raising a child. As a mom of a Maddie, I can tell you that there are still going to be stressful times, testing times and beautiful times still ahead. Speaking first hand, we are trying to potty train and tonight she pooped in the tub. The joys of kids. A little tid bit to pass on is the fact that you will start to limit the cursing when Maddy really starts to pick up words. It’s a haunting moment when you hear your own words out of a toddlers mouth.
Thank you for sharing your story in this time capsule. Your daughter will appriciate every moment of it when she is older and she will also know who her mother was through your words.
Take care Matt and Maddy.
Hi Matt!! I want to start by saying your an amazing person! What you have went through/going through is unimaginable, but you have certainly turned this around. The most important thing is to stay positive. The first time I learned of your story was tonight while reading people magazine and my jaw dropped and I bawled I bawled bc of what you went through/going through but your a god send for your daughter and other people that have gone through similar situations. Your life story is one of the most touching saddest stories I have ever read, if there is anything I can do for you or your family please contact me through emial even if you just wanna talk! please don’t hesitate have a wonderful night! P.s. Your wife and daughter are beautiful!
After reading your story. I felt both sadness and joy for you. Sad for your loss but with that came life. A beautiful child who I’m sure every time you look at you see your beautiful wife. You are tremendously brave. Thank you for sharing your story. Madeline is very blessed.
I happened to see you on Oprah the other day, and I’ve spent the last week and a half obsessively reading your blog from the first post to your most recent one. I’ve got a major crick in my neck from leaning over my laptop and puffy eyes from hours of crying. But seriously, I know you’ve heard this thousands of times by now, but your story is so moving and touching and so many things words cannot even express. You’ve done a wonderful job with your little girl. She is lucky to have such a loving, devoted, and cool dad. If you’re ever in Kentucky, look us up, my girls would love to have a play date with Madeline. Take care of yourself.
I saw you in mbc4 with oprah Im from UAE in middle east
Im so sad cuz you single and have a child I hope you be ok
…….Im 15 yeas old and your baby is vary cute and lovely.
Hello Matt and Madeline .. this Noufa from United Arab of Emirets I’m watching u on Opera talk show right now and I’m touched by your story .. I just want to say that we r with u 2 and all ppl know how great dad you are even here far far far away from u .. God bless u
Matt,
Is it ever too soon to share your blog with someone who has experienced the same circumstances? How would you have felt if someone sent you the link after 6 weeks?
As I sat here planning my son’s birthday party, I felt the urge to write to you. I have read your posts when as time allows. I somewhat know on a daily basis what your experience has been but on the opposite side of the spectrum. I married a man who lost his wife in the same manner as Liz. She never even saw their son. I have raised him since he was a little over a year old. He is a joyous little boy and raising him has been as easy as raising my daughter. Someday, he will understand all that encompasses his life and hopefully he will understand what an amazing journey his life has taken. My husband is an amazing man for going through the heartache and coming out stronger than he went in. I praise you for doing the same. Your daughter will grow up knowing she is loved by all!! Life is not always the journey that you seek but rather the path it leads you. As my son comes into the room and says ” I love you”, my path seems very clear to me.
I hadn’t heard your story until now. I followed a blog link and here I am. Your wife was a very beautiful woman. She just glows in every picture. I see the joy in her eyes seeing her little girl. It’s a joy I know very well. I am a mom to four, my last child born after having been diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Lymphoma just 7 weeks into my pregnancy. I had 6 rounds of chemo and delivered a healthy baby girl who is now 18 months old. I am currently a little over a year in remission. I see the happiness in that picture you took of your wife seeing the baby. I know what she felt. It’s amazing. At least she wasn’t deprived of that one moment. I am sorry for your loss…but you have a beautiful family. I wish you many years of health and happiness.
my heart is with both of you I lost my father when I was 15 years ago and IT FEELS LIKE YESTERDAY EVERY TIME i REMEMBER HIM BEST WISHES JUST LOVE THE BEUTIFUL GIRL WITH ALL YOUR HEART GOD HAS A WAY TO DO THING RIGTH.
Hello Matt and Madeline I just watched the oprah show of your story and I was touched. I am a single mother of a 4 yr old and I know at times its hard when you are raising a child on your on. But then you look in your child’s eyes and you know that you are all they have and they need you. They are times that are trying but everything is so worth it when your child says they love you and gives you a hug. I am sorry about your loss and knows how it feels. I did not lose a spouse but I lost a nephew when he was born and I know my sister said she would have rather gave up herself for him. I wish you and madeline the greatest of luck with life and your journey.
Matt, I saw you and Madeline on the Oprah Winfrey show today, and you deeply touched my heart. I am so proud of you for being there for your daughter, she looks just like you and Liz. She is in Heaven watching over you both, I know she is! Maddy is a pure heaven sent blessing to you. I am so sorry for your loss, but sometimes we must loose someone close to us, in order to gain something precious (Madeline). I absolutely love her Weiner mobile and the pictures of her ridin in it as you say! I will keep you in my heart and will check up on you both weekly.
Matt,
I saw both you and Madeline on the Oprah show yesterday. What a true inspiration you are to other single fathers. I’m pregnant with my second child right now and was so touched by your story. Your wife seemed like such an amazing individual and you can see this also in Madeline. Thank you for allowing me to appreciate how precious life is and how those little things mean nothing. God bless you as you continue to be the rock in your family.
Matt You’re an awesome Dad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Matt,
I was given this link by a friend. I’ve spent days reading every entry. I’ve cried,laughed,gasp,and cried again. I’m so very sorry you and Madeline lost Liz so soon. But you have done an amazingly,wonderful job raising her. I’ve fallen completely in love with your daughter. My heart goes out to you.
What an incredible gift your strength and determination is for her. From what I’ve read Liz would be so very proud.
Happy Fathers Day Matt!!!!!!!
Matt –
Like everyone has said before me…you are amazing! I watched you on Oprah with my 4 year old and cried as I’m sure everyone watching did. I couldn’t imagine what you have been through and am so proud of you for being such a great dad and not crawling into a hole like you had every right to!
My question for you is – does the blog help? Honestly. I have recently gone through some life changers – a devastating blow to my husband’s career (which coincided with the week of our daughter’s birth) which has left him scrambling for work which also led to depression and him not behaving like himself. We recently came to a crossroads in our marriage when I found out that he has been involved in relationships online (not physical). I had to dig deep to forgive him and try to get through it. I have been jotting down stories from the last almost 11 years about the hardships and triumphs of being married to a coach and thought about trying my hand at a book but starting with the blog as a bit of therapy. So back to my question – has it helped you through your tough days (not that my mourning my marriage is anything in comparison to yours)? Maybe I can help a coach’s wife early in her marriage. Also..do you ever worry or second-guess your honesty. I’m a talker but some of the things I would talk about teeter on that line of embarrasing. I have his blessing but just worry. Thanks for any help you could give me.
Jenn
P.S. We feel like his cyber-infedelity was a long-needed wakeup call for our relationship and the last month has been what I wanted our entire marriage to be. Maybe things do happen for a reason.